RubberGirl

Hey divas!Does anyone know how to control it?

Sultana

Ummm, *practice* is the only advice I can offer.

Lots and lots of it.

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katie_ann1031

I've done a fair share of practicing...wait, God I sound like a whore!? Anyway, what I mean to say is that I still have a gag reflex. Those of you who don't God bless, but I'm sorry to say, I can't be in your boat.

snowy

Mind over matter is a lot of it. Also, I like to try and see if I can slide chewed-up ice cubes down the back of my throat without swallowing or gagging. It's good practice.

I can deepthroat my boyfriend without any problems, and he's not small--I have to push him back into my throat. It just takes practice. Lots of practice.

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katie_ann1031

How much practice is considered a lot of practice? I'm not a porn star, but I'm not exactly new at this either. Shit, I can't brush my teeth without gagging myself and I've been doing that my whole life.

5757

^ ha. Thats pretty funny.


The only reason porn chicks can deep throat so easily is because when they're done, they're grabbing some fat checks and cuttin out.
Now, if I had a 10,000 dollar check waiting for me, I wouldn't be so sensitive when it comes to the deep throat stuff.

edit: way to control it: money.

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katie_ann1031

LOL @ 5757 Good point

ShaniFaye

I cant even hold a pencil in my mouth without gagging....but I've been practicing not gagging with a dick in there since I was 17

its mind control....plus the fact I enjoy doing it so much the controlling part is 2nd nature....since I dont enjoy pencils in my mouth its a lot harder not to gag

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typette

To not gag during dental impressions the key is to breathe through your nose, so although I haven't seen if it works in other situations it's worth a try!

serlindsipity

i find there's a specific angle that will let you do it right. a 69 position will sometimes works, but you need your throat open and then youll get it, but only a couple times before you throat tells you otherwise. I gag on anything and every now and then i can make it work.

oh and if you have a really really bad cold, your gag relfex might reduce. its a long story as to how i manage to discover it, but i did (note - if you also have a sore throat, dont kill yourself, only works with head cold)

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noodle

I never mastered control of the gag reflex, so I learned how to cheek it without being obvious. I have a really long tongue and if you wrap it around or down the length of the shaft, you can slide the head into the pocket of your cheek without him really noticing.

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Ananas

For some good advice, try gay men's websites (sorry, don't have any right at the tip of my tongue ).

Breathe through your nose. Swallow when you feel the gag coming on. Best angle is lying with your head hanging off the side of the bed so your throat is a straight line. Practice, practice, practice.

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katie_ann1031

/\ you mean upside down?

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hunnychile

The farther the cock is toward the back of your throat, the better. Esp. if your on your knees in front of your man.

And yah, It helps if he's gorgeous and totally into you.

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Rubyee

Control your breathing- keeping your mind concentrated on something as simple as that helps. Cock in- breathe in. Cock out -breathe out. It helps if you are kind of going slow as you do this. That at least gets you primed.

Also, I don't let him cum in my mouth. Oral is just a form of foreplay for us. I only let that happen once in my life, and I did gag. It was not romantic. I felt like I was going to throw up. Therefore- I won't let it happen again.

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jillian

as some of you may know im a bit of a size queen... so the gag reflex is always an issue... i had a boyfriend a few years ago that was obsessed with deepthroat... he would force as much in as he could... i would gag and choke constantly and he would get so frustrated with me... i really wanted to take him deep but just didnt know how... so i started practicing...i had a double dildo that was 18 inches and thought.. this will work... so i started to play with it... trying different angles breathing techniques different swallowing patterns and before i knew it i was taking a huge portion of it.... so one night feeling pretty confident i pulled him out and started going to work on him.... h etried forcing it in my throat i gagged.... i stopped and told him where to position himself and before he knew it i had all 11 inches buried... he came immediately.... he didnt know what to think... the look on his face was priceless... to this day i can control my gag reflex... its only an issue on some really thick ones

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I'm still working on it- but ya know, I've never enjoyed doing it and have been willing to do it so much.....

Sultana

Heh, just reading this makes my eyes water, lol! I'll just have to content myself with enthusiasm over expertice, I think...

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Sage

I never thought of practicing on a dildo...

I don't know if I've ever really had a gag reflex, I know I used to have at least a little one because sticking my finger in my throat did make me throw up. Now, well, after being married to Martel for two years, I've become queen of deepthroat and NOTHING makes me gag.

Practice is key, but I've also noticed it's LOTS easier to deepthroat when his penis is slippery and wet- either with spit or my personal favorite, Sweeten'd Blow, which tastes better, works better, and lasts longer than other flavored lubes I've tried. My personal favorite on taste is Watermelon. Another good thing to do is tell your lover what you hope to accomplish and encourage him to have patience with you. Take it slow- little bit at a time. Don't start out thinking "I've got to get all that in my throat" cause then you'll just psych yourself out. Just shoot for a little bit more than last time. Soon, you'll get the hang of it, figure out just where you need to be so it's the most comfortable, and it'll get easier and easier.

Happy practicing!

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ShaniFaye

wow, I wish I could use flavored stuff, just for the fun of it you know? but it will cause me to gag every single solitary time. Normal everyday spit works best for me, or if we've been having sex and we finish up with me sucking him off....I'm one of those that kinda likes the way I taste on him.

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rlynnm

I didn't know that practice could actually help with that issue..I mean isn't the gag reflex, well..a reflex...But I guess with some very, very conscious effort it can be controlled..

Spit works great too, but usually it seems more appreciated (physiologically if you know what I mean) when more effort is placed upon the head..the reaction is awesome...but I guess we are talking about deepthroating so okay enough of that....

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taboo

forget that! who cares about controlling it!
i'm disgusted by it, and that's the way i'll always be!!

Naked Communist

I'd have to agree with the other ladies that overcoming the gag reflex is mainly practice with a little mind-over-matter thrown in. And talking to your man might not hurt either. I was dating a guy that was huge and no matter what I did I could NOT deep throat him. I finally brought it up to him and told him that I had no problem performing fellatio and that I actualy enjoyed it but that if he tried to deep-throat me again then he was going to have regurgitated Taco Bell in his lap. Anyhoo, he understood and still enjoyed my blowjobs. At least he said he did.
And my hubby enjoys my blowjobs (as I found out by accident - don't ask). Okay enough patting myself on the back. The point here is practice and don't be afraid to talk to your lover about it. Oh, and don't let him come in your mouth. If you are already having a gagging problem, that'll will probably push you over the edge. (actually, you probably already knew that or have already experienced it, so I'll shut up now )
Good luck, btw.

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jillian

actually i prefer to have them cum when im deepthroating... that way i dont taste it