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Mugzy6 · 10-15-2005, 06:02 PM

Ladies, I figure you will be the best ones to help me with this. Have you ever had an experience with a guy whose penis might be too big? Is that even possible? I think I might be experiencing that, but I have no idea. It's just a really odd situation.

snowy · 10-15-2005, 07:51 PM

Yeah. I had a boyfriend who was particularly well-endowed. Certain positions were just impossible given his size. We generally preferred for me to be on top so I could control the depth of penetration. My current guy is a little too long in certain situations, but we've figured out ways around that.

ngdawg · 10-15-2005, 07:54 PM

It's quite possible indeed. One love was too big and my being on top was not something we could do quickly, but when we took our time, it was great. Another simply was too big. Period. Luckily, there was no chance of being bf/gf, so, no great loss there.

Vaginas do stretch, this is true-they have to! But, some of us are not only tight, we're short inside as well. Lube won't help that part of the problem, but taking your time, knowing what you can handle will. And that's the key, don't rush it, let your natural juices flow, use lubes or oils if you have to, experiment with positions, experiment alone as well to know how you are 'built'.

Squishor · 10-15-2005, 08:45 PM

Too big is very possible. I've experienced it a number of times. Too long, too wide, just plain too big. Too bad.

qtpye4u84 · 10-15-2005, 11:47 PM

I know what you mean.
Oh my.
It just hits the wrong things in there , it hurts all the time. If I play with my self first, or a little bit of four play, then have sex it wont hurt as much/
I like the smaller guys!!!! No pain for me and they tend to hit my g spot yeaHHH
(been drinking sorry)

5757 · 10-16-2005, 12:18 AM

Man, I have experienced this. It takes a while to become wet enough, aroused enough, etc.

I haven't had this "problem" in a couple of years. Now when I think about him (the BIG guy) it turns me on to the point where I know it would be NO problem now!

Just find a way to become aroused enough through foreplay. It will help 'big' time!!

Oooh. I just thought of a really great position. Do it doggy style, only, instead of him moving and thrusting, you move back on him. I loved that position with my big guy. Another thing. . . have him enter into you inch by inch. Slowly in and out. V E R Y S L O W L Y. Eventually it should be no problem!

genuinegirly · 10-16-2005, 07:48 AM

Yes. It sucks. Try some lube, but be ready to find a new boytoy.

sexymama · 10-16-2005, 11:21 AM

You are lucky to have this forum. When I had my "too big" guy, I was still fairly young and the internet didn't even exist. We lasted 11 months -- but I never truly enjoyed sex with him. Too bad!

pyreglow · 10-16-2005, 05:29 PM

my ex was too big for me as well.

Sugar&Spice · 10-16-2005, 10:35 PM

I wonder if you being on top could help. Then you could have control of how far it can go in. I was actually wondering if my "friend" also has one too large for me. Now, whenever we have sex, I am left incredibly sore. It feels like the skin right at the end of my vagina is torn. It takes a few days to feel better. I guess we could use more lube, but I get really wet and so I never think to use more lube. Anyone had this problem?

ShaniFaye · 10-17-2005, 03:35 AM

I echo ngdawg....Im one of those women that is "short" inside, anything over 8 inches hurts like holy hell no matter what position Im in. Hell Dave still hurts me sometimes at almost 8...doggy is only possible for us if Im drunk enuff to ignore the pain (or unless Im the one fucking him with our strap on

)

I'ts been my experience that on top is the best position, for me, for a bigger guy (length not width), though I've been known to not let a guy have sex with me because I knew it would hurt so I'd just orally please him instead (dont seem to have a problem doing that no matter what the size)

Nancy · 10-18-2005, 03:45 AM

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Originally Posted by Sugar&Spice

I wonder if you being on top could help. Then you could have control of how far it can go in. I was actually wondering if my "friend" also has one too large for me. Now, whenever we have sex, I am left incredibly sore. It feels like the skin right at the end of my vagina is torn. It takes a few days to feel better. I guess we could use more lube, but I get really wet and so I never think to use more lube. Anyone had this problem?

Not personally but Loverboy's X had the same problem, poor thing. He said that they could never have sex for more than 20 minutes tops and then she was sore for days. They never figured out a way to make it better in some way and I don't even know if there is a way to fix such a problem. Why don't you talk to your doctor about this... perhaps he has some kind of pills that can make the muscles inside your vagina relax/extend?

Nancy · 10-18-2005, 03:51 AM

I forgot to answer the question hehe.

Loverboy's dick is a tad too big for me. My vagina walls are able to expand during sex but the first few minutes are always painful for me no matter how much foreplay we've had. Good thing I have a thing for pain then

serlindsipity · 10-20-2005, 07:10 AM

when that happens for me, i can feel my ovaries being hit. my doc said its about the equivalency of a guy getting kicked in the balls. and much to my dismay, my ovaries are quite close to my walls, so no crazy THUMP THUMP sex for me. But when i do come across this problem i tend to use my thigh muscles to determine how much they can enter and how hard. i need to control the big ones or they'll break me, a feeling im not keen on.

Ella · 10-21-2005, 12:04 AM

May have something to do with having kids, perhaps ladies. I've had two children naturally (ie: no Cesarean) and have never had any issues with width since. Length is another issue altogether. We're not bottomless pits, and I've had a couple which have been too long, and a little uncomfortable. My current partner is just the perfect width (although he says some of his former lovers have told him he's too wide), and the perfect length for me. So I'm happy!

ShaniFaye · 10-21-2005, 03:01 AM

the doctor always told me the pain was caused from the cervix being hit....not the ovaries. I've never had a problem with width and I've had some pretty wide ones....length is not all its cracked up to be

ngdawg · 10-21-2005, 04:45 AM

The ovaries are up in your abdomen...in order for them to be 'hit', the guy would have to be going through the cervix up into your uterus, through that(impossible)...at which point you'd be at least passed out if not dead from shock.
As Shanifaye said, your cervix was being hit upon and that can really hurt!

serlindsipity · 10-21-2005, 12:16 PM

my ovaries sit really low. I actually had my doc show me how to find them (quite entertaining) and when my bf goes in at an angle, i can feel him push on them. its really weird feeling.

but yea, i know the feeling of having the cervix hit. that usually leads me to say, "Alright, i quit. Im going to bed, you dont play nice."

Manuel Hong · 10-22-2005, 02:07 PM

we're not talking about a hamburger are we?

Sugarmouse · 10-22-2005, 03:45 PM

it is possible.i havent had it personally exept from when i was younger and not into sex and didnt know what i was capable of-or what turned me on.it hurt then!

i have since had guys who are big..and im fine.the bigger the better!lol

Sugarmouse · 10-22-2005, 03:47 PM

the bigger the better!although i was hurt by guys who were well endowed when i was younger and not experienced/into sex.

i agree though it is quite possible for a guy to have a too large member...

wikkachik · 10-22-2005, 07:04 PM

the bigger the better is not always a good thing. my last bf was, and it made sex really uncomfortable... good luck with that

Atropos4 · 10-24-2005, 07:42 PM

The only time I have a problem with Alphaphi's lenght is after my monthly. Hitting the backwall doesn't bother me otherwise..I love it...but for a week I'm just too tender to deal with it sometimes. My doc said it was because of my endo.

katie_ann1031 · 11-08-2005, 11:14 PM

I dated a guy that was just plain huge, but at the time I was going through a weird cellibit phase. When we finally did have sex it just wouldn't work right. I don't get off on pain. LOL, that's why I love it when men boast about the size of their dicks. "It's 17 inches, baby!" Right, well you're going to bed alone, pal.

Nancy · 11-09-2005, 12:04 AM

^^ You fuckin' tell them girl!

jillian · 11-13-2005, 03:38 PM

well... ive had my fair share of the large men.... girth has never been an issue... enough lube and anything can go in me.. lol...length wise i guess im pretty deep because ive only had a couple guys that i had to really relax and take my time to get them all in and im not talking about 7 or 8 inchers here either... most guys freak out... "are you ok?" "can i go deeper?"... usually followed with..."wow" or"ive never had anybody take it all!"... the guy im seeing now is 11 and 1/2 and almost wrist size and he is in love... with a lil lube and some patience he can pound away all night in almost any postion and im fine... doggy style tends to be a tad painful but i also love a lil pain... ive taken some freaking huge toys and objects so i guess anything is possible with me... but i realize that not all ladies are built the same so my advice is know your limits

10-15-2005, 06:02 PM	#1 (permalink)
Mugzy6 Tilted Location: North Carolina	Too Big? Ladies, I figure you will be the best ones to help me with this. Have you ever had an experience with a guy whose penis might be too big? Is that even possible? I think I might be experiencing that, but I have no idea. It's just a really odd situation.

10-15-2005, 07:51 PM	#2 (permalink)
snowy Kick Ass Kunoichi Location: Oregon	Yeah. I had a boyfriend who was particularly well-endowed. Certain positions were just impossible given his size. We generally preferred for me to be on top so I could control the depth of penetration. My current guy is a little too long in certain situations, but we've figured out ways around that. __________________ If I am not better, at least I am different. --Jean-Jacques Rousseau

10-15-2005, 07:54 PM	#3 (permalink)
ngdawg peekaboo Location: on the back, bitch	It's quite possible indeed. One love was too big and my being on top was not something we could do quickly, but when we took our time, it was great. Another simply was too big. Period. Luckily, there was no chance of being bf/gf, so, no great loss there. Vaginas do stretch, this is true-they have to! But, some of us are not only tight, we're short inside as well. Lube won't help that part of the problem, but taking your time, knowing what you can handle will. And that's the key, don't rush it, let your natural juices flow, use lubes or oils if you have to, experiment with positions, experiment alone as well to know how you are 'built'. __________________ Don't blame me. I didn't vote for either of'em.

10-15-2005, 11:47 PM	#5 (permalink)
qtpye4u84 Flavor+noodles Location: oregon	I know what you mean. Oh my. It just hits the wrong things in there , it hurts all the time. If I play with my self first, or a little bit of four play, then have sex it wont hurt as much/ I like the smaller guys!!!! No pain for me and they tend to hit my g spot yeaHHH (been drinking sorry) __________________ The QTpie Last edited by qtpye4u84; 10-15-2005 at 11:51 PM..

10-16-2005, 12:18 AM	#6 (permalink)
5757 Insane Location: Vegas!!	... Man, I have experienced this. It takes a while to become wet enough, aroused enough, etc. I haven't had this "problem" in a couple of years. Now when I think about him (the BIG guy) it turns me on to the point where I know it would be NO problem now! Just find a way to become aroused enough through foreplay. It will help 'big' time!! Oooh. I just thought of a really great position. Do it doggy style, only, instead of him moving and thrusting, you move back on him. I loved that position with my big guy. Another thing. . . have him enter into you inch by inch. Slowly in and out. V E R Y S L O W L Y. Eventually it should be no problem! __________________ Hey! Wait! I've got a new complaint, Forever in debt to ((your)) priceless advice. - Nirvana

10-15-2005, 08:45 PM	#4 (permalink)
Squishor Frontal Lobe Location: California	Too big is very possible. I've experienced it a number of times. Too long, too wide, just plain too big. Too bad.

10-16-2005, 07:48 AM	#7 (permalink)
genuinegirly Eat your vegetables Super Moderator Location: Arabidopsis-ville	Yes. It sucks. Try some lube, but be ready to find a new boytoy. __________________ "Sometimes I have to remember that things are brought to me for a reason, either for my own lessons or for the benefit of others." Cynthetiq "violence is no more or less real than non-violence." roachboy

10-16-2005, 11:21 AM	#8 (permalink)
sexymama My own person -- his by choice Location: Lebell's arms	You are lucky to have this forum. When I had my "too big" guy, I was still fairly young and the internet didn't even exist. We lasted 11 months -- but I never truly enjoyed sex with him. Too bad! __________________ If you can go deeply into lovemaking, the ego disappears. That is the beauty of lovemaking, that it is another source of a glimpse of god It's not about being perfect; it's about developing some skill at managing imperfection.

10-16-2005, 05:29 PM	#9 (permalink)
pyreglow Upright	my ex was too big for me as well. Last edited by pyreglow; 02-20-2009 at 08:39 AM..

10-16-2005, 10:35 PM	#10 (permalink)
Sugar&Spice Psycho	I wonder if you being on top could help. Then you could have control of how far it can go in. I was actually wondering if my "friend" also has one too large for me. Now, whenever we have sex, I am left incredibly sore. It feels like the skin right at the end of my vagina is torn. It takes a few days to feel better. I guess we could use more lube, but I get really wet and so I never think to use more lube. Anyone had this problem? __________________ -Speak your mind even if your voice shakes

10-17-2005, 03:35 AM	#11 (permalink)
ShaniFaye Submit to me, you know you want to Location: Lilburn, Ga	I echo ngdawg....Im one of those women that is "short" inside, anything over 8 inches hurts like holy hell no matter what position Im in. Hell Dave still hurts me sometimes at almost 8...doggy is only possible for us if Im drunk enuff to ignore the pain (or unless Im the one fucking him with our strap on ) I'ts been my experience that on top is the best position, for me, for a bigger guy (length not width), though I've been known to not let a guy have sex with me because I knew it would hurt so I'd just orally please him instead (dont seem to have a problem doing that no matter what the size) __________________ *I want the diabetic plan that comes with rollover carbs. I dont like the unused one expiring at midnite!!*

10-18-2005, 03:51 AM	#13 (permalink)
Nancy Femme Fatale Location: Elysium	I forgot to answer the question hehe. Loverboy's dick is a tad too big for me. My vagina walls are able to expand during sex but the first few minutes are always painful for me no matter how much foreplay we've had. Good thing I have a thing for pain then __________________ I have all the characteristics of a human being: blood, flesh, skin, hair; but not a single, clear, identifiable emotion, except for greed and disgust. Something horrible is happening inside of me and I don't know why. My nightly bloodlust has overflown into my days. I feel lethal, on the verge of frenzy. I think my mask of sanity is about to slip.

10-20-2005, 07:10 AM	#14 (permalink)
serlindsipity Psycho Location: Boulder Baby!	when that happens for me, i can feel my ovaries being hit. my doc said its about the equivalency of a guy getting kicked in the balls. and much to my dismay, my ovaries are quite close to my walls, so no crazy THUMP THUMP sex for me. But when i do come across this problem i tend to use my thigh muscles to determine how much they can enter and how hard. i need to control the big ones or they'll break me, a feeling im not keen on.

10-21-2005, 12:04 AM	#15 (permalink)
Ella Ella Bo Bella Location: Australia	May have something to do with having kids, perhaps ladies. I've had two children naturally (ie: no Cesarean) and have never had any issues with width since. Length is another issue altogether. We're not bottomless pits, and I've had a couple which have been too long, and a little uncomfortable. My current partner is just the perfect width (although he says some of his former lovers have told him he's too wide), and the perfect length for me. So I'm happy! __________________ "Afterwards, the universe will explode for your pleasure."

10-21-2005, 03:01 AM	#16 (permalink)
ShaniFaye Submit to me, you know you want to Location: Lilburn, Ga	the doctor always told me the pain was caused from the cervix being hit....not the ovaries. I've never had a problem with width and I've had some pretty wide ones....length is not all its cracked up to be __________________ *I want the diabetic plan that comes with rollover carbs. I dont like the unused one expiring at midnite!!*

10-22-2005, 02:07 PM	#19 (permalink)
Manuel Hong Addict Location: Land of the puny, wimpy states	we're not talking about a hamburger are we? __________________ Believe nothing, even if I tell it to you, unless it meets with your own good common sense and experience. - Siddhartha Gautama (The Buddha)

10-21-2005, 04:45 AM	#17 (permalink)
ngdawg peekaboo Location: on the back, bitch	The ovaries are up in your abdomen...in order for them to be 'hit', the guy would have to be going through the cervix up into your uterus, through that(impossible)...at which point you'd be at least passed out if not dead from shock. As Shanifaye said, your cervix was being hit upon and that can really hurt! __________________ Don't blame me. I didn't vote for either of'em.

10-21-2005, 12:16 PM	#18 (permalink)
serlindsipity Psycho Location: Boulder Baby!	my ovaries sit really low. I actually had my doc show me how to find them (quite entertaining) and when my bf goes in at an angle, i can feel him push on them. its really weird feeling. but yea, i know the feeling of having the cervix hit. that usually leads me to say, "Alright, i quit. Im going to bed, you dont play nice." __________________ My third eye is my camera's lens.

10-22-2005, 03:45 PM	#20 (permalink)
Sugarmouse Insane Location: Preston lancs(i know i know)	it is possible.i havent had it personally exept from when i was younger and not into sex and didnt know what i was capable of-or what turned me on.it hurt then! i have since had guys who are big..and im fine.the bigger the better!lol __________________ Sugarmouse=Festered

10-22-2005, 03:47 PM	#21 (permalink)
Sugarmouse Insane Location: Preston lancs(i know i know)	the bigger the better!although i was hurt by guys who were well endowed when i was younger and not experienced/into sex. i agree though it is quite possible for a guy to have a too large member... __________________ Sugarmouse=Festered

10-22-2005, 07:04 PM	#22 (permalink)
wikkachik Upright	the bigger the better is not always a good thing. my last bf was, and it made sex really uncomfortable... good luck with that

10-24-2005, 07:42 PM	#23 (permalink)
Atropos4 Think about it Location: North Carolina	The only time I have a problem with Alphaphi's lenght is after my monthly. Hitting the backwall doesn't bother me otherwise..I love it...but for a week I'm just too tender to deal with it sometimes. My doc said it was because of my endo. __________________ Minds are like parachutes. They work better open. "If I were Hermione, I would have licked his pantleg."

11-08-2005, 11:14 PM	#24 (permalink)
katie_ann1031 Tilted Location: New Hampshuh	I dated a guy that was just plain huge, but at the time I was going through a weird cellibit phase. When we finally did have sex it just wouldn't work right. I don't get off on pain. LOL, that's why I love it when men boast about the size of their dicks. "It's 17 inches, baby!" Right, well you're going to bed alone, pal. __________________ Newbie, but still I believe I am TFP's residentCheerleader!

11-09-2005, 12:04 AM	#25 (permalink)
Nancy Femme Fatale Location: Elysium	^^ You fuckin' tell them girl! __________________ I have all the characteristics of a human being: blood, flesh, skin, hair; but not a single, clear, identifiable emotion, except for greed and disgust. Something horrible is happening inside of me and I don't know why. My nightly bloodlust has overflown into my days. I feel lethal, on the verge of frenzy. I think my mask of sanity is about to slip.

11-13-2005, 03:38 PM	#26 (permalink)
jillian Crazy Location: indiana	well... ive had my fair share of the large men.... girth has never been an issue... enough lube and anything can go in me.. lol...length wise i guess im pretty deep because ive only had a couple guys that i had to really relax and take my time to get them all in and im not talking about 7 or 8 inchers here either... most guys freak out... "are you ok?" "can i go deeper?"... usually followed with..."wow" or"ive never had anybody take it all!"... the guy im seeing now is 11 and 1/2 and almost wrist size and he is in love... with a lil lube and some patience he can pound away all night in almost any postion and im fine... doggy style tends to be a tad painful but i also love a lil pain... ive taken some freaking huge toys and objects so i guess anything is possible with me... but i realize that not all ladies are built the same so my advice is know your limits