cowgirl02

Can your SO keep going after he cums? (If this has already been posted somewhere sorry) My SO cant and sometimes i have not had an orgasm yet, but I dont want to tell him that because he is the kind that questions if he is good or not and i dont want to say something that will hurt him. Do you gals have any ideas on what i can do or say? I dont want to hurt his self esteem but i want to get mine to! He is kind of quick to and I dont know what to do or say that would make the sex better. Any ideas? Thanks girls!!

sillygirl

Sometimes he can, sometimes no... same for me. There are times when I can go like the engergizer bunny and times when an orgasm will just wipe me out!

Try to slow things down yourself. Tell him (TACTFULLY) that you'd like to try new positions, etc. Or make it sexier by telling him you'd like to spend all night in bed with him romancing each other. :shrug:

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My best advice to you is to give him a short period of rest and turn him on all over again

Sugar&Spice

You are going to have to communicate with him and let him know what you like. If you guys are having sex and he is doing something that you like, let him know. Or if you are too shy to do something like that maybe tell him you had a dream and in it he was doing such and such to you and you really liked it. It could get him thinking that he might need to try a few new things.

By not telling him that you are not having an orgasm from sex, he thinks he is doing everything right. You deserve to have some pleasure too. If all else fails, just give him a few minutes to recover from his first orgasm and go again.

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ShaniFaye

I cant offer much in the way of "sensitive" advice.....Im of the belief that if my guy isnt/is doing something I do/dont get anything out of, I tell him...good or bad. I dont see it as being "kind" to let him think he's doing something he's not.

I dont mean to say it in a bitchy way....there are ways to do it nicely....do ya'll watch porn? Maybe you can try having sex while watching a movie, and telling him to try something the people in the movie are doing.

as for my guy....I think he has permanent viagra running thru his blood he can cum 3 times and still be hard for more. or maybe Im just that arousing to him ha ha ha

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Sweetpea

agreed ShaniFaye . . . you just gotta Tell them, gently yes, but tell him what you need . . . it's no good if you aren't getting what you need from a lover . . . My guy, can last a really long time and hasn't ever cum before me . . . But when we first started having sex . .. i was pretty frank about him waiting for me to Cum first whenever possible . . . Most guys can do it if they focus . . .

On a different note:
And ShaniFaye . . . damn! He can cum three times and still be ready for more!!!!! Have you considered loaning your guy out?? I was like holy shit! when i read that . . . you lucky, lucky gal!!

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snowy

My current sex partner does not, but I have had partners in the past who could go for a while even after he came. I didn't particularly care for it, simply because I'm an easy orgasm and a guy who keeps going after I've come several times just isn't my cup of tea.

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cowgirl02

Ok thanks but how exactly do I tell him "nicely"? How do I say "Your to quick, and I hardly ever get to cum during sex and when im about to cum, you stop because you are already done and as soon as you are done the sex is over because you cant keep going"??????????????

snowy

Simply say that you would really appreciate it if he could contain himself and keep going a little longer so that you too could enjoy an orgasm. If he can't take a little constructive criticism and honest communication, then you need to seriously reevaluate why you're having sex with this guy in the first place.

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stephthegeek

It's all about the way you say it... "I would LOVE it if you..." "It would be SO arousing if we..." "I would jump your bones every night if you..." "You know what would be even better for me?" etc.

He might have a bit of a "I'm not good enough" moment, but most guys are happy to make themselves an even bigger stud

sexymama

I agree with the other woman here -- tell him!

How do you do it tactfully, maybe this: "When you cum it gets me so excited, I need to keep going. Do you mind continuing to play with me -- it would really turn me on and satisfy me in a way no other can?"

Good luck and remember, you deserve the best in and out of the bedroom! A good sex life has a 20% impact on a relationship. A bad sex life has an 80% impact. (Can't remember where I read that, but makes sense.)

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aphroditeskiss1

My guy has always been able to keep going. I love it! The last time we had sex, he didn't even pull out before he was ready to go again....mmm....sex...Anyways, I would say bring it up to him very nicely and say, even though you always enjoy it, sometimes you don't get to climax and if maybe he could try holding back briefly before he lets it go.

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jillian

ive been with quite a few men and for the most part they cant go for more than 1 time without some rest.. although i was with 1 guy for a couple months and i swear this guys dick was always hard... he was the ultimate lover... he was huge could fuck me sensleless as long as he wanted... he could fuck for an hour .. cum... and keep going and going.. and going.. the first time we did it i didnt know what to do... he fucked me for almost an hour and half... he came after i had lost count of orgasms... he pulled out pulled the condom off and started opening up another 1... i said whats wrong he said he wasnt done with me yet... he was amazing... needless to say i miss him

ninnycode

My SO can be quick sometimes, too. If he "finishes" before me, he will stay inside while I rub him and myself until he is ready to go again. That works for us...hope you get the advice you need!

icksters

Its so funny because my SO and I will be "getting busy" and what not and we're both really into it and sometime he'll say to me, "I think I can keep going." But I know that when he finishes and I try to keep going, he's going to tell me that he changed his mind. Although sometimes he is able to keep going, I think it all varies on the intensity of the orgasm. As for me....hahaha forget it, gimme a few hours to recharge :P

Remote Mind

another option (I've used this one, and my SO likes it). if you're in the standard missionary position, you can continue even after he's cum by rocking yourself up against his pubic bone. If I haven't cum by the time he has, I'll do this to stimulate myself. He says he really likes the feeling of me rubbing all over him, even though he's already softening. I've never told him why I do it, but just let him think I do because I know he likes it. If you moved once or twice, and then said something like, "Do you like this, baby?" it would avoid the whole issue (provided he responds with a 'yes.') Although, I agree you should communicate with him, if there just doesn't seem to be a way to avoid hurting him, this might help you out.

bad jane

you gotta tell him. does he ask if you climaxed? if he does, just tell him no. it felt really good, but you didn't climax and could he *whatever you'd like him to do* so you can orgasm too?

if he doesn't ask, just tell him that it felt amazing but you didn't come and...(see above).

another option is to orgasm first. if i'm feeling particular horny and know that i have to orgasm to feel satisfied, i have my partner get me off before we even start having sex. it makes it that much easier to climax again and in the event he goes quick, i don't feel disappointed.

also, do you use condoms? that tends to help dull the sensations so he won't go as quick. i don't recommend trying any of the stay hard sprays though--they may numb him, but if he's not using a condom they'll numb you as well.