Ever Gone to Strip Club with your SO?? - Tilted Forum Project Discussion Community

Sweetpea · 01-04-2005, 06:52 PM

Hey all . . .

I was wondering, thinking about doing this with hubby sometime soon, thought it might be interesting . . .

Any personal stories on this? Thoughts on this?

What experiences has everyone had concerning this??

Do tell, do tell !!!!!

Grasshopper Green · 01-04-2005, 07:07 PM

Nope, never have. We are going to Las Vegas in two weeks though, and have discussed going to a show there. Should that happen, I'll let you know what it was like.

maleficent · 01-04-2005, 07:15 PM

When I worked on Wall Street, I'd occassionally go with some of the guys I worked with -- the male bonding was fun.. the strippers themselves, were a bit on the skanky side (and this was a nicer gentlemen's club. I didn't quite get the attraction.

If you wanna go - -just go -- it's a few hours out of your life.. you will probably want to shower when you are done... but it's something that you can say you did...

*Nikki* · 01-04-2005, 07:36 PM

I have been many many times with my ex. We went on a pretty regular basis. I loved it then. The girls always paid more attention to me then him anyhow

My fiance however has no interest in doing this so we have not gone. It is ok with me. Who knows he might warm up to it someday.

aphroditeskiss1 · 01-05-2005, 02:41 PM

I never have gone to a strip club at all, but I really want to and think it would be tons of fun to go with an SO. I'd love to hear other girls stories of this, and if I have my own to add soon, I will.

Sugar&Spice · 01-05-2005, 02:58 PM

Over spring break I will hopefully be going to Las Vegas (keeping fingers crossed) and I'm sure I will have to go to a strip club with my boyfriend. I'm not too excited by the idea, but I'm sure it'll be fun. Maybe we'll compromise..I'll go with him to a strip club and then he goes with me to a male strip club...I have a few months to work on him.

lurkette · 01-05-2005, 03:38 PM

Yeah, ratbastid and I went to a strip club on Bourbon Street in New Orleans. Granted, it was a bit of a dive, but I found it kind of boring. The women didn't seem like they were really enjoying themselves (most of them were pretty um...impaired) and frankly, I could see better porn for free. It was fun just to be able to say I'd gone, and I might go back again to a more upscale place, but...meh.

bad jane · 01-05-2005, 05:48 PM

never with a s.o. i went to a male club with some female friends in college but it was a girls night.

i wanted to go to a female club just to say i did but no interest in going alone. my ex wasn't interested and despite male friends swearing they'd take me--still haven't been. my current bf has no interest in strip clubs.

ahh well, i doubt i'm missing a whole lot anyway.

Sweetpea · 01-05-2005, 07:43 PM

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Originally Posted by Medusa99

Nope, never have. We are going to Las Vegas in two weeks though, and have discussed going to a show there. Should that happen, I'll let you know what it was like.

ya! do let us know medusa!!

Sweetpea · 01-05-2005, 07:45 PM

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Originally Posted by lurkette

Yeah, ratbastid and I went to a strip club on Bourbon Street in New Orleans. Granted, it was a bit of a dive, but I found it kind of boring. The women didn't seem like they were really enjoying themselves (most of them were pretty um...impaired) and frankly, I could see better porn for free. It was fun just to be able to say I'd gone, and I might go back again to a more upscale place, but...meh.

see ya, that is the thing . . . i guess if the woman aren't really enjoying themselves at all then where is the turn on? thanks for your take on it.

Sweetpea · 01-05-2005, 07:47 PM

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Originally Posted by *Nikki*

I have been many many times with my ex. We went on a pretty regular basis. I loved it then. The girls always paid more attention to me then him anyhow

My fiance however has no interest in doing this so we have not gone. It is ok with me. Who knows he might warm up to it someday.

thanks nikki for your take on it . . . where ya live? Maybe we should all go togehter :P

Sweetpea · 01-05-2005, 08:11 PM

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Originally Posted by maleficent

When I worked on Wall Street, I'd occassionally go with some of the guys I worked with -- the male bonding was fun.. the strippers themselves, were a bit on the skanky side (and this was a nicer gentlemen's club. I didn't quite get the attraction.

If you wanna go - -just go -- it's a few hours out of your life.. you will probably want to shower when you are done... but it's something that you can say you did...

thanks for your input. So you found Even an upscale club to have skanky gals eh? hmmmmmmm . . .

Sweetpea · 01-05-2005, 08:12 PM

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Originally Posted by bad jane

never with a s.o. i went to a male club with some female friends in college but it was a girls night.

i wanted to go to a female club just to say i did but no interest in going alone. my ex wasn't interested and despite male friends swearing they'd take me--still haven't been. my current bf has no interest in strip clubs.

ahh well, i doubt i'm missing a whole lot anyway.

I'll go with ya Badjane

Ella · 01-05-2005, 08:21 PM

Oh, I'd go in an instant! I guess I need a SO to begin with, hey.....

Sweetpea · 01-05-2005, 08:24 PM

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Originally Posted by Ella

Oh, I'd go in an instant! I guess I need a SO to begin with, hey.....

Says who Ella??

Who needs an SO to go with

It would take some serious confidence to walk into a club as a single gal . . . but kudos to whoever could do it . . . guys go by themselves all the time . . . why not a gal?

Ella · 01-05-2005, 08:47 PM

Yep, fair point, sweetpea. But the way I see it, it's about arousal for both of us, and we'd really want to get each other off afterwards - I see it as a mutual turn on.

Still...never say never, hey?

Sweetpea · 01-05-2005, 10:40 PM

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Originally Posted by Ella

Yep, fair point, sweetpea. But the way I see it, it's about arousal for both of us, and we'd really want to get each other off afterwards - I see it as a mutual turn on.

Still...never say never, hey?

yes, that is a good point, very true ella . . .

However, if you do brave it alone, let us know right away

Squishor · 01-05-2005, 11:20 PM

I've gone, a few times. I didn't really think it was a big deal though. Basically we sat in a bar only there were women getting naked and dancing around a pole up on stage. That was it. *shrug*

Sweetpea · 01-05-2005, 11:26 PM

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Originally Posted by Squishor

I've gone, a few times. I didn't really think it was a big deal though. Basically we sat in a bar only there were women getting naked and dancing around a pole up on stage. That was it. *shrug*

hmmmm . . . so it seems like some are into it . . . some aren't into it at all and alot of you find it irrelevant

. . . Thanks everyone for your candor so far . . .

how about other bisexual woman . . . any others out there who are intrigued by the idea of the strip club . . .???

Nancy · 01-06-2005, 01:10 AM

If we had strip clubs in my city I'd go this instant!

sillygirl · 01-06-2005, 03:24 PM

Never been. Interested though. We're going to Vegas for my 21st bday in April, so we'll prolly go then.

Sweetpea · 01-06-2005, 03:30 PM

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Originally Posted by sillygirl

Never been. Interested though. We're going to Vegas for my 21st bday in April, so we'll prolly go then.

sounds like fun. do tell, do tell when you get back!

Jonsgirl · 01-08-2005, 11:57 AM

I love going with my SO. Or, rather, I would love going. I think it's a real turn-on for both of us, and I'm all for anything that gets us worked up, lol.
Maybe once I get home, I can talk him into going.....

Sweetpea · 01-08-2005, 05:39 PM

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Originally Posted by Jonsgirl

I love going with my SO. Or, rather, I would love going. I think it's a real turn-on for both of us, and I'm all for anything that gets us worked up, lol.
Maybe once I get home, I can talk him into going.....

Well . . . that settles it then. After your feedback jonsgirl and everyone elses . . . we're just going to have to give it a try

Going to vegas soon . . . that would be a good place to check one out i hear . . . .

Thanks everyone for your candor!!!

Ralli · 01-08-2005, 06:18 PM

I have. Well with my ex boyfriend. When we were together, we went on a holiday to Cairns. This was cool, however he told me we were going to a nightclub. I didnt really want to stay outside on my own, and I was wanting a drink anyway, so I went inside. Didnt interest me that much, but it interested him. We had one drink then left.

zippy258 · 01-11-2005, 04:25 PM

I would love to take him but he thinks I'd be too jealous of naked women surrounding him. I just want to take him to let him enjoy seeing me getting all worked up about another girl.

hunnychile · 01-11-2005, 06:08 PM

I've been to a few in Dallas Tx. with SO & a few of his friends & their ladies. Had a great time and simply loved the dancing and erotic strip teases. It was a high class club with several very cute bartenders and the music & lights were top shelf. In truth, it was waaay more fun than the parties at Chippendales - across the street - with my girlfriends. The guy dancers were too into themselves and danced like wimps (most of them were gay) at least according to the staff. Go and do it. Why not? You might learn a few moves

RMMsGirl · 01-11-2005, 08:43 PM

I am very into the strip club scene. I go with my guy as much as we can afford to go. My experience has been that when there are girls in the audience the dancers pay more attention to them than they do to the guys.

Demeter · 01-12-2005, 02:31 PM

A close friend of mine used to be a dancer. I went to a local club with her a couple of times. Unfortunately, the nicer club in town had closed & this one was a little seedy, as were the dancers. We never stayed that long either time. While I've been to a few female strip clubs with friends, I have yet to go with my current man. Maybe if a better quality place opened...

Peloquin · 01-12-2005, 07:45 PM

I've gone with my husband and some of his friends a few times. I had a great time. I brought more girls to the table than they did. hehe I've only had 1 bad experience. We went to a totally nude club and I left my purse sitting in my chair. I know, bad move on my part. While I was visiting the dress shop, a girl sat down in my chair and asked my husband if he wanted a lap dance. He said "No, thank you. Not right now." Apprarently that really pissed her off. She kept trying to get him buy a lap dance, but he kept refusing. She left the table in a huff. When I got back my money (all of $40) and my drivers license was gone. Hubby knew one of the managers and he had him go check the dressing room. Guess what he found? My driver's license in her purse. She got fired right then. But, I digress.... Other than that 1 bad experience, I've had a great time going to a strip club with my husband. I think it's more fun when you go with a group of people. As long as you know what the deal is...they are there to make money, you are there to have fun, everything will be fine. And don't believe it when they tell you that there is no sex in the VIP room LOL That is interesting to watch. Have fun!!!

Remote Mind · 01-12-2005, 08:43 PM

I really want to go, just to have the experience. My SO hasn't mentioned his feelings one way or another - any ideas on how to bring it up?

onodrim · 01-12-2005, 11:27 PM

I'm planning on going to one with Secret for my 21st birthday, it should be a great time!

lusciousmunkee · 01-13-2005, 12:59 AM

We are going to go to one on Saturday night.
My husband is hooking me up with one of his friends--a gorgeous black girl who works at a local club.
We'll have some fun and, hopefully, the club will notice me because I'm looking to start dancing. So wish me luck ladies, please. But I'll try and tell you all about it after I go--I've never been.

jillian · 01-13-2005, 03:56 PM

ive gone with past boyfriends, girlfriends and by myself... and everytime i have had a blast

maleficent · 01-13-2005, 04:30 PM

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Originally Posted by Remote Mind

I really want to go, just to have the experience. My SO hasn't mentioned his feelings one way or another - any ideas on how to bring it up?

rent the movie striptease - -and ask -- hey have you ever been to a strip club? wanna go?

Kidnap him for the evening and take him to one.

Or just ask him if he wants to go to one.. you are curious about it and want to see what it's like.

Remote Mind · 01-13-2005, 07:20 PM

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Originally Posted by maleficent

rent the movie striptease - -and ask -- hey have you ever been to a strip club? wanna go?

Kidnap him for the evening and take him to one.

Or just ask him if he wants to go to one.. you are curious about it and want to see what it's like.

thanks! I appreciate the advice.

minyn · 01-14-2005, 10:03 AM

not yet, but i hope i get to one day. it sounds fun, and the times ive tried, extrenuating circumstances interupted my plans.

caz · 01-14-2005, 10:10 AM

I have been to a strip club with someone that could be considered a "SO." This is something that I am going to highly recomend if both parties are comfortable with it. After a couple of joint lap dances, I think that you will agree

Grasshopper Green · 01-18-2005, 05:22 PM

I just got back from Las Vegas and didn't go to a strip club per se, but we did go to an "erotic show" which was basically women dancing topless on stage, and one woman did some acrobatics with some long sheet things, hard to explain but it was incredible. There were no lap dances, etc. However, I enjoyed it for the most part and would probably go to a regular one if my hubby wanted me to.

RainbowBright · 01-18-2005, 05:57 PM

I went with some guy friends one night. It was a lot fun. Pretty amazing what those girls can do with those poles. I went with my hubby (when we were just dating) and a bunch of his friends one night. That was fun but we didn't really spend much time together so it was pretty much like hanging out with the guys. Which is how I'd rather leave it anyway. I'd do it again, I think it's best as one of those spur of the moment type things.

01-04-2005, 06:52 PM	#1 (permalink)
Sweetpea Fade out Location: in love	Ever Gone to Strip Club with your SO?? Hey all . . . I was wondering, thinking about doing this with hubby sometime soon, thought it might be interesting . . . Any personal stories on this? Thoughts on this? What experiences has everyone had concerning this?? Do tell, do tell !!!!! __________________ Having a Pet Will Change Your Life! Looking for a great pet?! Click Here! "I am the Type of Person Who Can Get Away With A lot, Simply Because I Don't Ask Permission for the Privilege of Being Myself"

01-04-2005, 07:15 PM	#3 (permalink)
maleficent Junkie Moderator Emeritus Location: Chicago	When I worked on Wall Street, I'd occassionally go with some of the guys I worked with -- the male bonding was fun.. the strippers themselves, were a bit on the skanky side (and this was a nicer gentlemen's club. I didn't quite get the attraction. If you wanna go - -just go -- it's a few hours out of your life.. you will probably want to shower when you are done... but it's something that you can say you did... __________________ Free your heart from hatred. Free your mind from worries. Live simply. Give more. Expect less.

01-05-2005, 02:41 PM	#5 (permalink)
aphroditeskiss1 Insane Location: Albuquerque, NM	I never have gone to a strip club at all, but I really want to and think it would be tons of fun to go with an SO. I'd love to hear other girls stories of this, and if I have my own to add soon, I will. __________________ "You always said destiny would blow me away. But nothing's gonna blow me away"- Something Coporate " I do not pop pills! I take them and I eat them..." - Foamy's friend

01-05-2005, 02:58 PM	#6 (permalink)
Sugar&Spice Psycho	Over spring break I will hopefully be going to Las Vegas (keeping fingers crossed) and I'm sure I will have to go to a strip club with my boyfriend. I'm not too excited by the idea, but I'm sure it'll be fun. Maybe we'll compromise..I'll go with him to a strip club and then he goes with me to a male strip club...I have a few months to work on him. __________________ -Speak your mind even if your voice shakes

01-05-2005, 03:38 PM	#7 (permalink)
lurkette My future is coming on Moderator Emeritus Location: east of the sun and west of the moon	Yeah, ratbastid and I went to a strip club on Bourbon Street in New Orleans. Granted, it was a bit of a dive, but I found it kind of boring. The women didn't seem like they were really enjoying themselves (most of them were pretty um...impaired) and frankly, I could see better porn for free. It was fun just to be able to say I'd gone, and I might go back again to a more upscale place, but...meh. __________________ "If ten million people believe a foolish thing, it is still a foolish thing." - Anatole France

01-04-2005, 07:07 PM	#2 (permalink)
Grasshopper Green ...is a comical chap Location: Where morons reign supreme	Nope, never have. We are going to Las Vegas in two weeks though, and have discussed going to a show there. Should that happen, I'll let you know what it was like.

01-04-2005, 07:36 PM	#4 (permalink)
Nikki ~~~~~~~ Location: Charleston, SC	I have been many many times with my ex. We went on a pretty regular basis. I loved it then. The girls always paid more attention to me then him anyhow My fiance however has no interest in doing this so we have not gone. It is ok with me. Who knows he might warm up to it someday.

01-05-2005, 05:48 PM	#8 (permalink)
bad jane Insane	never with a s.o. i went to a male club with some female friends in college but it was a girls night. i wanted to go to a female club just to say i did but no interest in going alone. my ex wasn't interested and despite male friends swearing they'd take me--still haven't been. my current bf has no interest in strip clubs. ahh well, i doubt i'm missing a whole lot anyway.

01-05-2005, 08:21 PM	#14 (permalink)
Ella Ella Bo Bella Location: Australia	Oh, I'd go in an instant! I guess I need a SO to begin with, hey..... __________________ "Afterwards, the universe will explode for your pleasure."

01-05-2005, 08:47 PM	#16 (permalink)
Ella Ella Bo Bella Location: Australia	Yep, fair point, sweetpea. But the way I see it, it's about arousal for both of us, and we'd really want to get each other off afterwards - I see it as a mutual turn on. Still...never say never, hey? __________________ "Afterwards, the universe will explode for your pleasure."

01-05-2005, 11:20 PM	#18 (permalink)
Squishor Frontal Lobe Location: California	I've gone, a few times. I didn't really think it was a big deal though. Basically we sat in a bar only there were women getting naked and dancing around a pole up on stage. That was it. shrug

01-06-2005, 01:10 AM	#20 (permalink)
Nancy Femme Fatale Location: Elysium	If we had strip clubs in my city I'd go this instant! __________________ I have all the characteristics of a human being: blood, flesh, skin, hair; but not a single, clear, identifiable emotion, except for greed and disgust. Something horrible is happening inside of me and I don't know why. My nightly bloodlust has overflown into my days. I feel lethal, on the verge of frenzy. I think my mask of sanity is about to slip.

01-06-2005, 03:24 PM	#21 (permalink)
sillygirl Newlywed Location: at home	Never been. Interested though. We're going to Vegas for my 21st bday in April, so we'll prolly go then. __________________ Anyone can be passionate, but it takes real lovers to be silly-Rose Franken ....absence makes me miss him more...

01-08-2005, 11:57 AM	#23 (permalink)
Jonsgirl Semi-Atomic Location: Home.	I love going with my SO. Or, rather, I would love going. I think it's a real turn-on for both of us, and I'm all for anything that gets us worked up, lol. Maybe once I get home, I can talk him into going..... __________________ Someday, someone will best me. But it won't be today, and it won't be you.

01-08-2005, 06:18 PM	#25 (permalink)
Ralli Tilted Location: Brisbane, Australia	I have. Well with my ex boyfriend. When we were together, we went on a holiday to Cairns. This was cool, however he told me we were going to a nightclub. I didnt really want to stay outside on my own, and I was wanting a drink anyway, so I went inside. Didnt interest me that much, but it interested him. We had one drink then left. __________________ ~RALLI~

01-11-2005, 04:25 PM	#26 (permalink)
zippy258 Upright Location: drowning in a sea of unstable emotions	I would love to take him but he thinks I'd be too jealous of naked women surrounding him. I just want to take him to let him enjoy seeing me getting all worked up about another girl.

01-11-2005, 06:08 PM	#27 (permalink)
hunnychile Alien Anthropologist Location: Between Boredom and Nirvana	I've been to a few in Dallas Tx. with SO & a few of his friends & their ladies. Had a great time and simply loved the dancing and erotic strip teases. It was a high class club with several very cute bartenders and the music & lights were top shelf. In truth, it was waaay more fun than the parties at Chippendales - across the street - with my girlfriends. The guy dancers were too into themselves and danced like wimps (most of them were gay) at least according to the staff. Go and do it. Why not? You might learn a few moves __________________ "I need compassion, understanding and chocolate." - NJB

01-11-2005, 08:43 PM	#28 (permalink)
RMMsGirl Tilted Location: Bakersfield, Ca	I am very into the strip club scene. I go with my guy as much as we can afford to go. My experience has been that when there are girls in the audience the dancers pay more attention to them than they do to the guys.

01-12-2005, 02:31 PM	#29 (permalink)
Demeter Psycho	A close friend of mine used to be a dancer. I went to a local club with her a couple of times. Unfortunately, the nicer club in town had closed & this one was a little seedy, as were the dancers. We never stayed that long either time. While I've been to a few female strip clubs with friends, I have yet to go with my current man. Maybe if a better quality place opened...

01-12-2005, 07:45 PM	#30 (permalink)
Peloquin Upright Location: Denton, TX	I've gone with my husband and some of his friends a few times. I had a great time. I brought more girls to the table than they did. hehe I've only had 1 bad experience. We went to a totally nude club and I left my purse sitting in my chair. I know, bad move on my part. While I was visiting the dress shop, a girl sat down in my chair and asked my husband if he wanted a lap dance. He said "No, thank you. Not right now." Apprarently that really pissed her off. She kept trying to get him buy a lap dance, but he kept refusing. She left the table in a huff. When I got back my money (all of $40) and my drivers license was gone. Hubby knew one of the managers and he had him go check the dressing room. Guess what he found? My driver's license in her purse. She got fired right then. But, I digress.... Other than that 1 bad experience, I've had a great time going to a strip club with my husband. I think it's more fun when you go with a group of people. As long as you know what the deal is...they are there to make money, you are there to have fun, everything will be fine. And don't believe it when they tell you that there is no sex in the VIP room LOL That is interesting to watch. Have fun!!!

01-12-2005, 08:43 PM	#31 (permalink)
Remote Mind Upright	I really want to go, just to have the experience. My SO hasn't mentioned his feelings one way or another - any ideas on how to bring it up?

01-12-2005, 11:27 PM	#32 (permalink)
onodrim Cosmically Curious Location: Chicago, IL	I'm planning on going to one with Secret for my 21st birthday, it should be a great time! __________________ "The world is so exquisite with so much love and moral depth, that there is no reason to deceive ourselves with pretty stories for which there’s little good evidence. Far better it seems to me, in our vulnerability, is to look death in the eye and to be grateful every day for the brief but magnificent opportunity that life provides" -Carl Sagan

01-13-2005, 12:59 AM	#33 (permalink)
lusciousmunkee Upright	We are going to go to one on Saturday night. My husband is hooking me up with one of his friends--a gorgeous black girl who works at a local club. We'll have some fun and, hopefully, the club will notice me because I'm looking to start dancing. So wish me luck ladies, please. But I'll try and tell you all about it after I go--I've never been.

01-13-2005, 03:56 PM	#34 (permalink)
jillian Crazy Location: indiana	ive gone with past boyfriends, girlfriends and by myself... and everytime i have had a blast

01-14-2005, 10:03 AM	#37 (permalink)
minyn young and in bloom Location: under the bodhi tree.... bling	not yet, but i hope i get to one day. it sounds fun, and the times ive tried, extrenuating circumstances interupted my plans. __________________ "Woke up this morning with a blue moon in my eye" ~A3 "woke up this morning" "Don't compromise yourself, you're all you've got." -Janis Joplin

01-14-2005, 10:10 AM	#38 (permalink)
caz Tilted Location: Illinois	I have been to a strip club with someone that could be considered a "SO." This is something that I am going to highly recomend if both parties are comfortable with it. After a couple of joint lap dances, I think that you will agree

01-18-2005, 05:22 PM	#39 (permalink)
Grasshopper Green ...is a comical chap Location: Where morons reign supreme	I just got back from Las Vegas and didn't go to a strip club per se, but we did go to an "erotic show" which was basically women dancing topless on stage, and one woman did some acrobatics with some long sheet things, hard to explain but it was incredible. There were no lap dances, etc. However, I enjoyed it for the most part and would probably go to a regular one if my hubby wanted me to.

01-18-2005, 05:57 PM	#40 (permalink)
RainbowBright Crazy	I went with some guy friends one night. It was a lot fun. Pretty amazing what those girls can do with those poles. I went with my hubby (when we were just dating) and a bunch of his friends one night. That was fun but we didn't really spend much time together so it was pretty much like hanging out with the guys. Which is how I'd rather leave it anyway. I'd do it again, I think it's best as one of those spur of the moment type things.