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Old 12-29-2004, 09:45 PM   #1 (permalink)
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Are you in love

Right now. Not in the past, not in the forseeable future with your Significant other.

Today at this moment, are you IN love?

I am not in love, used to be, but now i'm just re-evaluating old feelings and new feelings etc. I know that's kind of vague, but i'm working on sorting some things out.

I'd really appreciate your ladies input. Sorry it's nothing in depth just wanted a cheap and dirty answer. Thanks

(I know this should be a really easy question for most people, but i'm looking at a lot of gray so thought maybe someone else might be in the gray too)
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Old 12-29-2004, 10:15 PM   #2 (permalink)
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Unless you count my dogs, then no.

Something I've always thought about when hearing "In love" : Love isn't a place we fall, it's something that we do.
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Old 12-29-2004, 11:01 PM   #3 (permalink)
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I'm in love. I know it, but dont' always feel it. There are just those moments sometimes that make a person say "Wow, I really love ______." Those moments remind us what we already know when we're stuck in those grey areas.
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Old 12-29-2004, 11:57 PM   #4 (permalink)
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Something I've always thought about when hearing "In love" : Love isn't a place we fall, it's something that we do.
i agree. love is certainly something that we do, love is really about connection with another, touching the core of that other person and understanding them, being honest with them about who you are, sharing your whole self and vice versa, you can 'love' someone, sure we've all 'loved' someone . . . But to be IN LOVE . . . you have to act on those feelings, make that communication or gesture to the other person, making that connection through actions is what constitues being IN love IMHO. I am in love with my best friend, aka my hubby.
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Old 12-30-2004, 05:45 AM   #5 (permalink)
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I'm in love...most definitely. Sometimes it's scary because I'm not one for great certainties. But in this case I am. It's a good feeling to have...but it's scary because you wonder what you'd do if it all just ended...
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Old 12-30-2004, 06:17 AM   #6 (permalink)
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love is certainly something that we do, love is really about connection with another, touching the core of that other person and understanding them, being honest with them about who you are, sharing your whole self and vice versa, you can 'love' someone, sure we've all 'loved' someone . . . But to be IN LOVE . . . you have to act on those feelings, make that communication or gesture to the other person, making that connection through actions is what constitues being IN love IMHO.
Very well said

And to answer the question, yes, yes I am in love.

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Old 12-30-2004, 06:19 AM   #7 (permalink)
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Old 12-30-2004, 07:17 AM   #8 (permalink)
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Yes, yes, yes.

Let me preface that with this.
Love is a choice at it's start I believe. At one point I thought I wasn't in love with hubby. Then I decided I was going to love him again and to act on that decision. Once I did that my love grew. He constantly does things to encourage that growth(some of which I didn't see before I made the choice). I love him more and more as time goes by and we go through more things together. Life can make you hate eat other or love each other. It's your choice how to live it.
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Old 12-30-2004, 08:54 AM   #9 (permalink)
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Yes I am very much in love and lust with my husband.
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Old 12-30-2004, 09:22 AM   #10 (permalink)
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I don't think I'm in love anymore.

I've had the fortune of experiencing "being in love" once already at my young age of 20. My love story lasted three years and came to an end two months ago (on my birthday actually). In my experience, love brought me to my highest, most happy state and other times brought me down so low...well I don't want to remember how yucky it felt sometimes. Even though love can be tough, I believe that nothing can replace the feeling of being loved back. To have someone reciprocate the devotion, adoration and respect that you put into them is an unparalleled feeling.

"Love, an emotion so strong that you would give up everything. To just feel it once, to know that you are part of something special. To know that you can feel what love really is; to know, to feel, to love."

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Old 12-30-2004, 10:55 AM   #11 (permalink)
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I am. I think I am. I would like to think that I am. I have to admit the zsa-zsa-zsu faded away, but love remains. So, I am. I voted yes.
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Old 12-30-2004, 12:03 PM   #12 (permalink)
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what love?

check out my signature.. *sigh* :'(
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Old 12-30-2004, 12:09 PM   #13 (permalink)
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Sometimes I want to kill him, but I always love him. That's the reason why I want to kill him sometimes! Usually that person is the one that can get under your skin and make you crazy in ways (good and bad) you've never even considered possible. That's being in love.

What I wonder about sometimes is if I could ever fall in love with anyone else if something happened to Primal. He'd be a tough act to follow!
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Old 12-30-2004, 01:33 PM   #14 (permalink)
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I'm in love. I know it, but dont' always feel it. There are just those moments sometimes that make a person say "Wow, I really love ______." Those moments remind us what we already know when we're stuck in those grey areas.
This is pretty much how I feel. Sometimes it's like you'll be walking down the street and see something that reminds you of that person, and you just go, wow, I really do love them.
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Old 12-30-2004, 05:40 PM   #15 (permalink)
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I'm not in love at the moment. But it made me think of this scene from Love Actually:

Daniel: So what's the problem, Sammy-o? Is it just Mum or is it something else? Maybe... school - are you being bullied? Or is it something worse? Can you give me any clues at all?
Sam: You really want to know?
Daniel: I really want to know.
Sam: Even though you won't be able to do anything to help?
Daniel: Even if that's the case, yeah.
Sam: OK. The truth is actually... I'm in love.
Daniel: Sorry?
Sam: I know I should be thinking about Mum all the time, and I am. But the truth is I'm in love and I was before she died, and there's nothing I can do about it.
Daniel: Aren't you a bit young to be in love?
Sam: No.
Daniel: Oh, OK, right. Well, I'm a little relieved.
Sam: Why?
Daniel: Well, you know - I thought it might be something worse.
Sam: [incredulous] Worse than the total agony of being in love?
Daniel: Oh. No, you're right. Total agony.
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Old 12-30-2004, 10:11 PM   #16 (permalink)
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I am in love at the moment. I can honestly say it is the first time I have truly been in love with someone I have dated.
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Old 12-31-2004, 03:50 PM   #17 (permalink)
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I don't if it's actually possible but I am in love with my hubby and it actually gets stronger on most days. Hell even the lust hasn't taken a back seat the way it is supposed to after being together for 4 years. heh.
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Old 12-31-2004, 06:21 PM   #18 (permalink)
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Right now I am not in love. Im actually in the getting over a broken heart stage where you realize that the love you had is gone.
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Old 12-31-2004, 06:48 PM   #19 (permalink)
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Old 12-31-2004, 06:50 PM   #20 (permalink)
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I'm not in love at the moment. But it made me think of this scene from Love Actually:

Daniel: So what's the problem, Sammy-o? Is it just Mum or is it something else? Maybe... school - are you being bullied? Or is it something worse? Can you give me any clues at all?
Sam: You really want to know?
Daniel: I really want to know.
Sam: Even though you won't be able to do anything to help?
Daniel: Even if that's the case, yeah.
Sam: OK. The truth is actually... I'm in love.
Daniel: Sorry?
Sam: I know I should be thinking about Mum all the time, and I am. But the truth is I'm in love and I was before she died, and there's nothing I can do about it.
Daniel: Aren't you a bit young to be in love?
Sam: No.
Daniel: Oh, OK, right. Well, I'm a little relieved.
Sam: Why?
Daniel: Well, you know - I thought it might be something worse.
Sam: [incredulous] Worse than the total agony of being in love?
Daniel: Oh. No, you're right. Total agony.
Best. Movie. Evar.
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Old 12-31-2004, 09:59 PM   #21 (permalink)
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I'll second that. Best movie ever.
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Old 12-31-2004, 11:54 PM   #22 (permalink)
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I am most certainly in love
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Old 01-02-2005, 08:06 PM   #23 (permalink)
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I'm in love...most definitely. Sometimes it's scary because I'm not one for great certainties. But in this case I am. It's a good feeling to have...but it's scary because you wonder what you'd do if it all just ended...
I know what you mean! I feel the same way about it being scary if it ended....
I am in love, it is wonderful. I have never been in love before. I have never been so happy in my life.
Its even more wonderful knowing that he feels the same way. ^_^
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Old 01-02-2005, 08:36 PM   #24 (permalink)
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Old 01-02-2005, 08:57 PM   #25 (permalink)
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Very well said

And to answer the question, yes, yes I am in love.

Thanks!
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Old 01-02-2005, 09:00 PM   #26 (permalink)
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I know what you mean! I feel the same way about it being scary if it ended....
I am in love, it is wonderful. I have never been in love before. I have never been so happy in my life.
Its even more wonderful knowing that he feels the same way. ^_^
You sound so happy settie!

Being in love IS a little bit scary . . . waking up each morning and knowing there is a person next to you who you can't get enough of is quite the experience . . . I have felt that way for 7 years and is still is a bit scary . . . But that is the whole point of love and intimacy, it's taking a chance . . . yes, it is scary, but it is also intense and rewarding.
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Old 01-02-2005, 09:03 PM   #27 (permalink)
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Unless you count my dogs, then no.

Something I've always thought about when hearing "In love" : Love isn't a place we fall, it's something that we do.
Who says we can't count our dogs!? Furkids count alot too!
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Old 01-03-2005, 01:45 AM   #28 (permalink)
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I think my mask of sanity is about to slip.
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Old 01-03-2005, 10:44 AM   #29 (permalink)
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Yup, twice over.

I'm completely in love with my husband, ratbastid, who is arguably the most amazing, understanding, committed, sexiest man alive. I love his stupid puns (some of which put me rolling on the floor laughing), I love how he commits to everything he does 100%, I love how open and easy-going he is, how child-like he can be when he's excited about something, and how vulnerable he can be when he lets himself.

And I'm in love with our umfriend D. She's vibrant and exciting and complex and infuriating and passionate and hella sexy and I love her all the way down to her electrons. I don't know whether our relationship will turn into a Relationship, or if our fling will just evolve into a deep friendship, but I can't imagine life without her.

Both of them make me want to better myself. Not like there's something wrong with me that needs to be fixed, but they each pull out the best in me in completely different ways.
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Old 01-03-2005, 08:21 PM   #30 (permalink)
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Engulfed by it. Totally in love.
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Old 01-03-2005, 11:25 PM   #31 (permalink)
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There are so many things I would like to add to this discussion but don't feel I can because of people whom I know read through this stuff.
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Old 01-08-2005, 12:25 PM   #32 (permalink)
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I am!

It's the *biggest* feeling I've ever had. And I feel it every day. It's friendship and love, and being whole and being alone, and being scared and being safe. It's.....everything. And a little bit more.

I know I am in love because I still feel like a little girl when I think about my husband. The best part of my day, no matter what, is talking to him. I have an actual warm, fuzzy feeling in my heart even just talking about being in love with him.

I can't explain it. I just know.
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Old 01-08-2005, 06:24 PM   #33 (permalink)
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Yes Yes. I am in love......... I think. lol. nope jokes. I am :P
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Old 01-10-2005, 09:01 AM   #34 (permalink)
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YES!!! I am DEFINATELY in love!! My honey is the best thing that has happened to me!! He completes me, he understands everything when no one else does he is my EVERYTHING!!!
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Old 01-10-2005, 10:05 PM   #35 (permalink)
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Yes, i'm in love. And I agree it is a choice. It's a choice for two people to come together just as much as it is a choice for two people to come apart. Love takes work, understanding, committment, feeling and action (expression).
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Old 01-11-2005, 04:21 PM   #36 (permalink)
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Yup, I am so in love with him...his mind, his logical way of handling things, his ability to be my rock when i'm drowning, his humor, his sexy (yet quirky) smile and most definitely his very strong, broad shoulders. There's never a moment when he isn't on my mind. He floats through my everyday thoughts, brightening my day and making me so utterly happy. He is the best thing that has ever happened to me in the 11 years we've been together.
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Old 01-12-2005, 08:46 PM   #37 (permalink)
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Yep, I'm in love. Although, sometimes, I wish I weren't. Love can be hard sometimes, so incredibly hard. And it's a lot of work to keep it going. My mom always told me "love isn't something you feel, it's something you do." but I don't know. I mean, I understand that it takes actions, but don't you have to have some sort of feelings as well, something that makes you *want* to do the actions?
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Old 01-13-2005, 04:57 AM   #38 (permalink)
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Im am more in love everyday....its hard to imagine that the feelings could get any deeper sometimes but they do.

Yesterday (if you read my journal you already know this so sorry for the repeat) Dave declared (after another nite of going to bed with a major headache from looking at tartan material online andme tossing and turning all nite long) that I HAD to devote one day a week to NOT doing anything about the wedding...no looking for things online, no picking up my wedding planner, no calling my mother etc. IF I could do that then I'd get rewarded in some way.

I only goofed once, and it was an honest mistake....I have my "save time,money etc doing your own things for the wedding" books in the bathroom, and I grabbed it out of habit yesterday afternoon...after two minutes I realized what I'd done and exchanged it for my romance novel. I admitted to him I'd done it when he got home, I felt really bad.

Well...The love of my life told me it was ok, presented me with a piece of godiva chocolate cheesecake, ran me a bath, got me a glass of wine and gave me some "alone" time to enjoy my bubbles. When I got out he gave me a massage and told me how proud of me and how lucky he was that I'd agreed to be his wife. I cried.

I love that man so much.....I found a quote the other day, that I will use on our wedding program that fits him so well

"you dont marry the man you can live with, you marry the man you cant live without"
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Old 01-16-2005, 03:35 PM   #39 (permalink)
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I'm right now mulling over returning the ring and ending my engagement.What I can't decide if I want to just continue living together or to totally end it.
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Old 01-16-2005, 05:33 PM   #40 (permalink)
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After much debating over the subject with myself (i'm a very conflicted young lady), I decided yes. Foolishly, utterly, completely, crazy from my fingertips to my toes, willing to do anything for him at the drop of a hat, feels it in an earth shattering but also in a warm blanket comforting kind of love.

*sigh*

If i could only be able to tell him again without the fear of not hearing those words back.

I used to hear 'em daily, now i'm biting my nails. Only time will tell.

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