abaya

Yeah, we looked at the Feeldoe, but went with the Nexus instead. (Ours is a much cooler color though, red with black marbling). I like it because it fits in my Bend Over Beginner harness and it doubles quite well as a dildo for when I am masturbating (I use the bigger end for that). Sometimes the head is a little difficult for my SO, but he has gotten used to it... and it's definitely more realistic than the smooth-ended dildos that come with Bend Over Beginner.

Anyway, we highly encourage couples to try this out... it was one of the first "events" we ever posted about on TFP, way back in Feb 05.

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mandy

well, we've just started experimenting with the hole ass licking, finger-in-sticking and that sort of stuff.

i have to say, that after reading all these posts, i'm very excited that we started and i am thankfull for all the stories that make me want to do it a whole lot more.

last night was the first time i actually stuck a finger in and it gave him an instant hard-on. he rated it as a 5 out of 10 but is more than willing to go on practising.

i cannot wait.

cadre

Yeah, too bad last time I mentioned it my guy it was a big NO. I'm workin on him though. I have hopes.

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Biffaloo420

I absolutely hated having anal sex the first few times, but now I have found some numbing lube that makes it needless to say quite enjoyable. However, in the beginning there were many times that I would have LOVED to do that to/with my husband just to let him know how it feels (for at least the first time)!

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amonkie

On behalf of a male member :

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CaliLivChick

Mmmmm... reading through this thread made me really horny, so I took my bf into the bedroom and used a finger on him... then he gave me a banging I won't soon forget! =) I've used a vibrator before on him, but it's been a couple years, so this was a good reminder.

Sharon

Slightly related topic - are there strapons that men can wear, so they can do you with... ummm... two?

Tibbar75

with an ex. I dont remember how it came up, but I do remember starting slow. I would touch his anus during foreplay and sex, soon it moved to putting my finger inside of him. When we were comfortable and ready we moved on to a strap on. We both picked it out because it made him feel comfortable, and we got a small size. We used alot of lube and took our time. It was odd after the first time, but then again it was odd for me after my first anal experiance. We talked about our toughts and feelings and did it a few times afterwards when things got routine in bed.

I know I liked doing it. I loved the power trip and the feeling of being in charge!

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buckruss

my balls are too big for my britches

hunnychile

Stevie - you just described a scenario I'd love to play out with a friend of mine....I bet he'd love it and I know it would be a wild ride!

Thanks for sharing and reviving one of the more ineresting older threads on here!

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abaya

It's amazing to re-read this thread and see how many closed-minded (and closed-ass ) husbands/boyfriends there were... I wonder if we would get the same reaction today? Probably. It's really too bad for them, since they don't know what they're missing out on... I say any man who likes/wants to have anal sex with a woman, should at least allow her to fuck him in the ass once and see how it feels. It's only fair... and plus, it's a lot of fun if you give it a fair chance!

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Laugh-O-Matic

I've never really thought about strap-ons. You don't get them easily here (unless you go to a shady person in a dingy alley, too creepy for my liking) or get it when you're in another country (what if the Customs' see it?!)

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If I marry you. - Saki.

cadre

Apparently my so's position hasn't changed. It's still a NO.

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Eowyn_Vala

OK, so honestly this never occurred to me to try with my husband. Mainly because I'm not fond of anal. And I think I'm not fond of it since the few times I tried it, I don't think it happened like it was supposed to.

So after reading this thread I asked my husband, and he said it had occurred to him before but he never mentioned it. I'm still trying to decide if it's something I want to try with him. But thanks for all the information!

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eyecandy

Early on my boyfriend and I have bounced this thought off eachother. Since then we have done this several times and he loves it. We are thinking about putting up a site with pics, videos, and anyone could ask questions and get answers. Do you think that this would be a good idea? Do you think there would be interested? Would any off you look at the site and use it to be able to do your man with a strapon?

Laugh-O-Matic

I always support any website that's kinky and informative. tell us when you're done with it.

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This I swear is true,
I'll throw you down a quarry, Florrie,
If I marry you. - Saki.

bloody_rose20

Well to tell you, it used to weird me out to think about doing that with my SO but, recently after me joking about doing that to him he would joke back about letting me. Now I have come to learn that when a man jokes about something, he wants to lol. At least thats how it is with mine. And now, I know it would be fun, so I plan to try it soon as we can afford one lol. I say come right out and be serious about it and say you would like to try it. I bet he will admit to it then. Thats what I did and my man admitted he would like to try it

Oh and "eyecandy", I would be interested in seeing the site I love the male butthole Very tastey!

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Starkizzer

My fiance and I enjoy this activity quite a bit. We started out with anal on me then my playing around with his ass a couple different ways including finger, my dildo and a butt plug. Finally we made the plunge into a strap on. We first tried the Feeldoe but I don’t think I’m shaped right, and perhaps a little on the thicker side does not help. The Feeldoe kept slipping out of me anytime I tried to apply enough pressure to “enter” him. So we made a lil trip to our favorite sex toy shop, Babe Land, and bought a very nice Outlaw leather harness, black and red my fave sexy colors. Took it home and tried it out with the Feeldoe and met with more success, but something just wasn’t completely right. So yet another trip to Babe Land and we bought an “Adam.” This along with the harness has met with the best results. We both have a lot of fun with it and do a little role playing as well, I’ll let your mind wander.
Everyone will have different luck with different items but this compilation has been our favorite. As for any guy or girl worried about any weirdness, all I can say is I forgot about any I might have felt as soon as I saw the reaction this fun inspired in my man. The way he quivers is indescribable.

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Bluepowder

Hi...just read this thread and thought I'd share something interesting that just happened to me. My boyfriend and I were discussing our sexual fantasies and he sheepishly admitted to me that he wanted to be fucked by me wearing a strap-on. I had never even heard of such a thing...but agreed to try. The next day I posted an ad on craigslist in 3 different cities and asked men if this was a common fantasy for straight men. (I was a bit concerned!) Well...no more! I received over 350 responses and only 6 men said no!! So many confided in me that they were afraid to admit this to their partners for fear of them thinking they were gay....how sad. This just happened this week...I can't wait to go shopping with my man for some toys....I think this will be fun for both of us!

english_subboy

I'm a man and I'm now aware that I can't post in the Ladies Lounge.

hibibi

My SO like to go on his knees while I finger his ass with one hand and jerk him off with the other....he gets really excited when I work on him like that.
After he cums he's ready to do anything for me which is good for me. I find it pretty hot to do it like this once in a while.

Sharon

An update three years later - I've managed to find a man who will let me do this to him! i was surprised as although he is a liberal-minded person, he always seemed to me to be conservative in bed.

Our first time, I did pretty much what I planned in our first post. One day in the shower, I said I wanted to do something rather adventurous with him sexually, and did he trust me? He was a little nervous, but said he trusted me (sucker! Ha ha!).

When we got out, I tied him up face down on the bed, and over the course of an hour went from kissing his butt and thighs, to licking him between the cheeks, to a finger, to two, to eventually penetrating him with my brand new strap-on. He only managed about five minutes of gentle thrusting before he said he couldn't take it any more...

The feeling of power I got was such a thrill, and the look on his face was exquisite. I've never been more turned on by a man's moaning before, and by the time he asked to stop, I was ready for my turn. I told him I was super horny, and seeing his erection I told him not to hold back on me...

He lubed up and entered me straight away, and came about five minutes later himself. Then much to my delight, he picked the strap-on up with his hand, and used it to penetrate me while we cuddled and deep-kissed. Eventually we were exhausted, and sweaty, sticky and covered in lube we got back in the shower.

Men, you owe it to yourselves to give this a try. You have no idea what you're missing, and what you're keeping from your girl!

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By the way, I find it interesting that this is the most viewed thread in Ladies Lounge (about 25,000 views) despite only about 60 replies. Something tells me the men are curious about this thread!

cellophanedeity

I have a feeldoe for this very reason. It's really sexy and fun, and it makes me feel powerful. The toy took a bit of manoeuvring to figure out the first time, but in the end it was really worth it for both of us.

But, sadly, I don't know if I'll ever get to use it again: new boyfriend is afraid of his ass.

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Starkizzer

Reading your post Sharon, I have a strong suspicion I am going to be breaking out the harness and dildo rather soon.

My honey has been asking for it for a little while now I think were gonna go for it tonight.

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Claudia

Hi,
I would like to try but I don´t know how to rise the subject. Does anyone know a softcore movie related?
Thanks

seamaiden

What's good for the goose is good for the gander...and we're just a couple of wild Canada geese!

It's fun with lots of lube and a shower waiting.

StephanieH

My first husband LOVED it. We each had our own "toy box" It always made me kind of want to giggle though cause he was a big, macho, hard working man. So to see him laying on his back, holding his ankles - well sometimes I'd just laugh.
It did nothing for me. But I like seeing my partner experience pleasure so I liked doing it for him.

PonyPotato

I'm one in the "would love to try it" camp, but my current SO likely has zero interest.

Jeff Dunham's Peanut: "..they stuck something in my butt, and not in the good way."
My SO's response: "There's a good way?!"

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bigail1981

lol, I didn't try that

Lady Bear Cub

I wouldn't want to ever do that. I think it would ruin it for me. I like to play the submissive role mostly and if I knew that I had fucked him in the ass, it just wouldn't do it for me anymore.

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Lindy

Any pleasure I would get from strap on sex would have to be strictly mental/psychological. How could it be otherwise? Since the strap-on dildo wouldn't have any of my nerve endings in it, how could I even feel the penetration?? Or anything else physical?
When I put my lubed finger up his butt, then at least I can feel something, and feel the way he moves. If I wanted to feel more control, I'd use my thumb while holding his balls with my other four fingers.(Thumbs up, so to speak.)

And I would also have the concern (expressed by a couple of others, refuted by Snowy) that he might decide he wondered how the "real thing" felt in his butt.

Lindy

Starkizzer

Lindy, there are ways you can both get physical pleasure from this act. The harness I own has the ability to hold two dildos, one for me and one for him. I have also set it up so that I can have a vibe going on me.

Plus, isn't a large part of any intimate sexual contact mental? Its not like I could have sex with anyone and feel as turned on as I do with smrt. The more he seems to enjoy it, the more I get worked up and thus the better my orgasm is when its my turn to be pleasured.

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Brad1989

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