StormBerlin

So two of my coworkers just had babies. And they are the cutest things ever! The thing is, I HATE kids. I really do. I worked at a movie theatre, hostessed at a restaurant and now I work retail. I have learned to hate kids.

But the issue is, when those babies were brought in and shown off, I got all teary eyed and emotional and stuff. I've been thinking about it and basically arrived to the conclusion that if the boyfriend had a fantabulous job and could afford it, I would quit school and have a kid. YIKES! I'm only 18! I'm not supposed to get all maternal yet, am I? I mean, I just graduated high school, moved across the state to go to college and we've only been living together for a year (collective relationship time - three years come July). Can I just blame it on my shot being due soon? I don't know what to do. The feelings just keep getting stronger. And I know if I quit school, my mom would kill me and I think I'd regret it. I don't know how you guys could help me out, but I thank you in advance for trying

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SixEdxMia

AAWwwwwww,you're growing up baby!!!

It is maternal,and it is hormonal,and its about time for your shot....My advice..spend the next four years learning to make enough money to have one.

Cuddle strangers babies,kiss cousins,and know that its that very feeling that will make you a wonderful mommy someday...Trust me on this one. *wink*

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raeanna74

Yup it's normal, it's hormonal.

And NOTHING can surpass the cutness of an infant when they aren't crying.

Working in places where you've worked - kids are all too often allowed to run rampant. Just promise yourself that you will do your best not to allow your future kids to bug other people. Count your experiences as lessons of how the other people feel about your noisy kids.

I watch a 4 week old infant. Yes, she can bellow like a banshee but she also has the sweetest, bluest eyes when she focuses them on you in a peaceful moment. Kids are a blessing. Do all you can now to make yourself the best future mom you can be. Then when you are ready those feelings will be so much more intense - believe you me - and the experience will be amazing.

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Averett

And those times when they are crying.... Well, those times just remind me how much I DON'T want kids

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*Nikki*

It is just a phase that will pass.

Of course they are cute. But let them be someone else's when you are only 18. It is better to admire from a distance and imagine having your own years down the road when YOU have an awesome job and are finished with school.

la petite moi

Heheheh, yeah, don't worry. There are times when I, at eighteen years old now, pat my tummy and think: Why can't I have a baby? or I wish I had a baby! So yeah, it's hormonal and natural. Don't worry about it..however, be careful if you really start considering it!!!

amonkie

Volunteer your time to watch other people's kids - spend time in all sitautions with them in the years before you finish school. Especially once you've bonded to them, those maternal instincts will either grow stronger or you will see you like the kids when they're sweet but not enough to put up with the tough days. I can't wait for the day to come when I'm in a position to start my own family.

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:::OshnSoul:::

Hey, sometimes it happens like a switch. In an instant moment you realize something really is magnificent and wonderful.
I always remind myself that when my son act up- all it is is just understanding their minds and flowing with it in order to discipline them and have patience all at the same time.

lurkette

Ugh - it's getting all sappy in here. I feel the need to make inappropriate comments about poop and vomit just to balance it out....I'll be over in the corner with Averett snickering.

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maleficent

You asked, you get...
One Weekend in high school where I was babysitting for a potty trained 3 year old, and this poor kid had a horrible case of the flu or something (I got it the next day) this kid not only was tossing his cookies (all over his bed, the floor, the wall, then he had explosive diaherria, all over his jammies, his bed, the wall (kid was eating solid food) This was beyond disgusting.

and his parents weren't getting home til monday.

Somehow managed to clean up all that mess. CHanged his sheets and all that. Went back to bed myself. Woke up the next morning, sick as a dog, could keep nothing down, but the kid was still sick, and I still had to take care of him.

Kids are great when they are clean, happy, and returnable.

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raeanna74

Oh the parents will be eternally grateful should you do this. #1 Finding a sitter can be hard sometimes. #2 Paying a sitter can be expensive.

I'm sure the parents will be happy to reciprocate when your time comes. Besides kids grow out of their clothes so fast you'll get all the hand-me-downs you'd need when the time comes.

Lots of benefits to doing this.

Wow you are tough. I've done that with my daughter. In fact hubby was also sick at the time. It's tough enough when it's your own kid let alone when it's someone elses. You have passed the toughest test of being a parent I think. You'll have no problem when it's your own.

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maleficent

Even if I could have children, I dont want them -- I was much more responsible as a teenager than I am now.

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Redgirl

Anytime I start feeling the baby urge, which is a lot since I'm 28 and that ol' clocks a ticking, I go to Wichita and visit my niece and nephews.

One is autistic (he's almost 6) and the things that kid does would curl your toes!! You CANNOT let him out of your site, period. I know what you're thinking, you can't let any kid out of your site. But you can, like when you're at home, they'll play in their room by themselves. No, he can't even do that. In the room, with you, at all times, unless he's asleep. Doesn't that sound like fun??

My niece is a newborn, so there's daiper duty and crying for no discernable reason. My other nephew is 2 and going through that toddler stage of getting into everything and telling you no.

I haven't had a normal conversation with my brother and his wife in, oooohhh, 3 years I'd say. You just can't sit and talk with all those kids running amok. It's all I need to remind myself that I'm not ready for kids.

I do love all of them dearly, but I like to love them from 150 miles away, in Oklahoma.

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Frenchie

I would advise you to finish school... the love for a child will only grow stronger! I have a bunch of friends in HS (freshman-senior) who have or are having kids... my one friend just had her son two days ago... I haven't talked to her, but she had to leave school in Jan. And go for homeschooling.. which isn't doing too well for her in the graduating side of it all. And then I have a friend who had a full ride to college... even though she was pregnant... and she had the baby, started going to school and then the father left and she had to quit school and stay with the baby at all times. She is now going to NYC and getting the baby into modeling so she can get some extra money.

It's a very very risky choice... and if I were you I would spend some more time in school and some more time with your boyfriend. You need to learn more about eachother... and you'll never stop learning.

sillygirl

I had the baby urge... I had it BAD... wait. Trust me. Wait until you know who you are. Until you know what you want in life. Me? I want to be a wife and a mother... maybe some day that will happen for me... but after a nasty divorce and all the shit I've gone through in the last year, I know that I don't want a child until I know for positive that I'll be able to give him/her the best home possible. That and I don't know who I am yet.. I'm almost there, I think, but remember that babies aren't just cute toys you can put away when you're done... unless they're someone else's

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hunnychile

You're lucky that you can look at this from both sides. And discuss this like a wise woman. I never had kids because I was too immature for so long! And now I'm too old to safelly make perfect babies and finally I'm all grown up and wish I could! It is a miricle and a blessing. It's so nice to give a baby the perfect environment with you & your wonderful husband feeling thrilled together that this little angel will be your child. Made in love. Babysit and wait a bit. Enjoy those loving desires, but take care of your own evolution first. You will be a great Mother!! God bless Your Sweet Little Heart!!

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