lurkette

"I've been dating a very nice lady since mid January. This weekend is her birthday (well it's the 26th). My dilema is this. I have no idea what to get this woman! Can you ask if the ladies out there in the lounge would provide some suggestions for a 3 month dating arrangement birthday gift???"

Can you help a fella out?
-lurkette

My suggestion would be to go with more of an experience (dinner and a play/concert, hiking and a picnic, depending on your climate, fill her room with her favorite flowers, etc) than an object, unless you know of a particular object she wants. Think about who she is and what she enjoys, and go from the heart.

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gabshu

well, dont get her a gift certificate. and i think the room full of flowers might be kinda premature for the amount of time that you guys have been dating.
Maybe you should go out with a group of friends and get her a cute stuffed animal, something sweet like that

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jazz

Take her out for a nice dinner, buy her a small bouquet of flowers if she likes them and maybe go for a walk somewhere if the weather permits.

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Eowyn_Vala

Any gift as long as it comes from the heart and it isn't something you would enjoy more. Like lurkette said, think of something she likes and go from there! The fact that you tried and put effort into getting her something she will enjoy is going to say more than just getting her some generic thing girls are supposed to like. Spending time with her is definately a great idea, especially if you plan something, even as cheap as renting her favorite movie and cooking her dinner, while she relaxes. And full body massages! Or even partial massages!

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onodrim

I agree with the going out to dinner, or something along those lines. Shared experiences are always more meaningful to me than a gift.

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amonkie

The gift of time is always the most meaningful. Depending on how much time you have to spend together, maybe plan a special afternoon or evening with a couple surprises, like the aforementioned dinner or movie. I'd say focus on something you can do together and enjoy each other's company, rather than staring at a screen for a few hours.

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sexymama

I'm with the other ladies -- a special date of some sort. Relax, enjoy, have fun, and focus on her -- she should be thrilled.

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minyn

do a bday dinner party! a guy i was getting to know around my bday threw me a party of a bunch of his (nice and welcoming) friends and it was soooo much fun! introduce each other to other friends (in couples forms, always works better) and there is bound to be god memories!

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isis

If its nice out, maybe a nice picnic or something. I also like the supper idea, if she's not a picnic person.

Try to remember if she's mentioned she wants to read a particular book, or see a certain DVD or something. Those are pretty inexpensive gifts that can mean a whole lot if she just mentioned them in passing and you picked up on it : )

Nancy

ok we don't have the whole "dating system" here in Denmark so I wouldn't have a clue about which gift is appropriate after so and so long time together. BUT! As a women I prefer dinners in a really classy (not necessarily expensive) restaurant, getting flowers (either personally or sent to me at the office along with a cute note) and taking a long walk and holding hands

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shannon

i know one thing that's nice is to get something significant to the time you have spent together. like if your first date was at a movie, buy her that movie...something like that if it's possible. i really like the idea of a shared experience mentioned above, as it will be something you can build on. however, make sure that while you are both having fun that you are making it especailly about her, since it is for her birthday.

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txlovely

If you can cook, make her dinner instead of taking her out. She'll appreciate it even more! Light candles, play some soft music, dance with her, have some flowers (in her favorite color if you know what that is - doesn't have to be a room full), and get/make her a cd of music she likes or something equally personal but not overdoing it. Good luck! You don't have to spend a bunch of money to touch her heart and give her a really wonderful and memorable birthday.

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