Patience

Hi, I'm new here...just joined tonight actually. I've been reading through and this seems like a decent place so far.
So I was wondering if I could get some advice on this thing thats been bugging me for days, and all the friends I have know both of the guys...so i can't exactly ask them.
I've been dating this guy for about a year now and he's my best friend as well as the one guy I truly care about. (i'm 18 he's 19, no we dont' plan to spend the rest of our lives together ) However, this other guy Blake I've liked for around 5 years but we've never been anything more than friends. He never had a girlfriend up until now, and I'm quite jealous of her because she has him and I don't. I feel really guilty about this because my guy knows that I've liked blake, but I can't bring myself to tell him why i've been kinda down lately. I'm wondering if I should talk to Blake about it since I think for closure reasons I need to tell him how I feel. There was a point in time where we were extremely close, but then I started dating this other guy. Blake is going to go off to the air force academy this summer, so there's only a few months left to talk with him. Also, should I tell this to my boyfriend or would that be a mistake?

gabshu

Talk to Blake, if you're not really planning on spending the rest of your life with your current boyfriend, I don't think it could hurt. This may be the last time you get to talk to him, so you should. Just don't make it sound too serious. Once he leaves things will never be the same. Also try to not get your boyfriend involved in this.
Good luck

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ladyadmin

You could damage your current relationship if you tell him about Blake. Are you willing to take the risk? I don't think it's necessary to tell him about that unless you don't mind taking the chance that he might break it off with you.

I see no problem in telling Blake how you feel. You have to keep in mind of the consequences you may face if you confess to Blake how you feel about him. If you and Blake are friends then why would telling him be closure? You will continue being friends with him while he's in the Air Force, right?

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My biggest issue with your problem here is the fact that you've been with your boyriend for over a year but still actively like this other guy. It doesn't sound like you and your boyfriend have much of a relationship, and if he's more into it than you are, then he deserves to know whats going on before he gets hurt too much...

Sorry if that sounded harsh, I really didnt mean it to be. Good luck with everything

Patience

I haven't actively liked this guy throughout the course of my current relationship, it was just kind of a shock to me when he was no longer there to lean on whenever things got bad with my bf. I talked it out with Blake last night, and so we're on the same page now. I talked to my bf today just to tell him what was going on and he was cool about it...he knows that I've been friends with blake for practically my whole life, and he knows that i'd never do anything to ruin our relationship. Thanks for the replys tho

sillygirl

I don't understand something here.....


Why are you with your boyfriend in what seems to be a serious relationship, and you're both saying you won't spend the rest of your lives together, and yet you're worried about what will happen with this other guy....

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ladyadmin

You said you are on the same page as Blake. Does this mean that he has the same feelings for you as you have for him?
You have a good boyfriend if he's accepted the situation and trusts in your relationship.

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