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Minx · 05-04-2003, 12:34 PM

For anyone who doesn't have any regrets in their life....congratulations!
For the rest of us...what is your biggest regret in life?
Was it not finishing school, letting your true love get away, getting married

?

For me, my biggest regret is that I can't be with the person I love.

Wow, seeing it like that makes it look so sad...anyone got a cyber hug?

SexyCat · 05-04-2003, 12:45 PM

I got a hug for you Minx.

I try not to regret anything because it is all a part of what makes me me.

Minx · 05-04-2003, 01:04 PM

Thanks! Btw...I just about fell off my chair laughing when I read your cat's name - best one I've heard yet I think!

sexylady · 05-04-2003, 03:12 PM

i have only one regret in my life... i regret not leaving the boyfriend who raped me.... that was years ago, but i stayed with him for a good 5 months after the incident... i was young and stupid....

~springrain · 05-04-2003, 04:07 PM

sexylady... many of us have been there... *warm smile*... don't be too hard on yourself...

in regards to regrets... i too, have had many... but also agree with SexyCat... in that every mistake i have made is part of the person i am today... so i have the regrets, but try not to let them rule my emotions for long...

here's a poem i wrote years ago that speaks pretty true to a lot of my regret... hope you all don't think it's too corny...

<bold>Regret</bold>

Wishing it could all come back
as it was
knowing that it cannot.
Watching
as a tree would watch a fallen leaf
it’s own
foolishly dropped
into the flowing river.
Lost in the current
it swirls and sways
far from the trees grasp
never to return.
I sit paralyzed
like the tree
watching the leaf
as it was my words.

~ springrain

<i>(this poem is copywrited, feel free to use it, but please give credit if posting somewhere)</i>

raeanna74 · 05-04-2003, 05:26 PM

If I could I wouldn't have dated the jerk who was my first boyfriend. He was manipulative and cruel. It damaged me mentally and physically. I am so thankful for my family standing beside me and interfering in our relationship even though I hated their guts at the time. If it hadn't been for them I wouldn't be where I am today. I was so low because of him I was depressed, slightly suicidal, anemic, and always week and tired. There was so much though that came out of that experience that has made me strong. Who knows perhaps there is such a thing as destiny and it determined for me to go through that so that I can face something harded in the future and come through it intact. I believe it wasn't for waste if I can save someone else from the same grief I had.

sierra2774 · 05-04-2003, 05:36 PM

Getting married is my biggest regret.

Also not being able to be with the one I love.

Xapphire · 05-05-2003, 04:58 AM

Having an affair, and then waiting 2 and a half years to tell my husband about it.

He hated me, absolutely hated me, but we're working through it, and someday we both believe that he'll fall back in love with me, but it's a slow slow journey. He grabbed me the other day and pulled me into bed with him to cuddle and tell me that he was fond of me, that he is enjoying waking up to me once again. It's tough, but we'll get there. *bright smile and wipes her tears*

*hugs her lady friends* Thanks.

Minx · 05-05-2003, 05:47 AM

Thanks for sharing ladies. Sometimes it's nice to know you aren't alone out there.

Somenosuke · 05-05-2003, 06:21 PM

I have plenty of regrets, but then I think about how my life would be different if things hadn't gone down the way they did, I might not have some of the things I have right now.

Though, there is one thing I do regret. I regret not putting up a fight when I should have. I might be better off psychologically if I had. Oh well.

~springrain · 05-06-2003, 05:34 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by Somenosuke
Though, there is one thing I do regret. I regret not putting up a fight when I should have. I might be better off psychologically if I had. Oh well.

Try not to beat yourself up to much with "should have"... hindsight is always 20/20... maybe putting up a fight would have been more costly in different ways...

btw... i share the same regret... it seems to haunt me... no matter how much "peace" i've tried to make with it... thanks for sharing... *soft smile*

*Nikki* · 05-07-2003, 04:59 AM

I try not to regret anything. Everything I have done so far has shaped the person you see before you today.

way2young · 05-07-2003, 11:28 PM

Hopefully my junior year of college will make me stronger. The entire year pretty much destroyed an self-esteme I had, adn the fact that I let a lot of what happened bring me down still gives me chills.

*hugs* to all the ladies.

Baileys · 05-14-2003, 01:59 PM

I have two. Being too drunk/scared to pull back a girlfriend who kissed me, and then jumped away because she did.

Living in a loveless marraige for the last 6 years before I finally said enough is enough.

BlueBongo · 05-14-2003, 07:08 PM

I can't say that I have regrets. I feel without the events that have unfolded in my life I would not be who I am today. Having a strong understanding of myself, my happiness, and my future. I am very happy with my boyfriend and look forward to our future growing together.

05-04-2003, 12:34 PM	#1 (permalink)
Minx Junkie Location: Up yonder	Regrets For anyone who doesn't have any regrets in their life....congratulations! For the rest of us...what is your biggest regret in life? Was it not finishing school, letting your true love get away, getting married ? For me, my biggest regret is that I can't be with the person I love. Wow, seeing it like that makes it look so sad...anyone got a cyber hug? __________________ You've been a naughty boy....go to my room!

05-04-2003, 01:04 PM	#3 (permalink)
Minx Junkie Location: Up yonder	Thanks! Btw...I just about fell off my chair laughing when I read your cat's name - best one I've heard yet I think! __________________ You've been a naughty boy....go to my room!

05-04-2003, 03:12 PM	#4 (permalink)
sexylady Upright Location: Victoria, BC	i have only one regret in my life... i regret not leaving the boyfriend who raped me.... that was years ago, but i stayed with him for a good 5 months after the incident... i was young and stupid.... __________________ eat celery.

05-04-2003, 05:26 PM	#6 (permalink)
raeanna74 I'm not a blonde! I'm knot! I'm knot! I'm knot! Location: Upper Michigan	If I could I wouldn't have dated the jerk who was my first boyfriend. He was manipulative and cruel. It damaged me mentally and physically. I am so thankful for my family standing beside me and interfering in our relationship even though I hated their guts at the time. If it hadn't been for them I wouldn't be where I am today. I was so low because of him I was depressed, slightly suicidal, anemic, and always week and tired. There was so much though that came out of that experience that has made me strong. Who knows perhaps there is such a thing as destiny and it determined for me to go through that so that I can face something harded in the future and come through it intact. I believe it wasn't for waste if I can save someone else from the same grief I had. __________________ "Always learn the rules so that you can break them properly." Dalai Lama My Karma just ran over your Dogma.

05-04-2003, 05:36 PM	#7 (permalink)
sierra2774 Addict Location: Northeast Ohio	Getting married is my biggest regret. Also not being able to be with the one I love. __________________ "Every tomorrow brings new opportunities, challenges we must address...A chance to affirm all our wishes and dreams, to seek beauty and true happiness."

05-04-2003, 12:45 PM	#2 (permalink)
SexyCat Meow Location: Michigan	I got a hug for you Minx. I try not to regret anything because it is all a part of what makes me me.

05-04-2003, 04:07 PM	#5 (permalink)
~springrain Banned Location: central USA	sexylady... many of us have been there... warm smile... don't be too hard on yourself... in regards to regrets... i too, have had many... but also agree with SexyCat... in that every mistake i have made is part of the person i am today... so i have the regrets, but try not to let them rule my emotions for long... here's a poem i wrote years ago that speaks pretty true to a lot of my regret... hope you all don't think it's too corny... <bold>Regret</bold> Wishing it could all come back as it was knowing that it cannot. Watching as a tree would watch a fallen leaf it’s own foolishly dropped into the flowing river. Lost in the current it swirls and sways far from the trees grasp never to return. I sit paralyzed like the tree watching the leaf as it was my words. ~ springrain <i>(this poem is copywrited, feel free to use it, but please give credit if posting somewhere)</i>

05-05-2003, 04:58 AM	#8 (permalink)
Xapphire Crazy Location: Dallas TX (close enough)	Having an affair, and then waiting 2 and a half years to tell my husband about it. He hated me, absolutely hated me, but we're working through it, and someday we both believe that he'll fall back in love with me, but it's a slow slow journey. He grabbed me the other day and pulled me into bed with him to cuddle and tell me that he was fond of me, that he is enjoying waking up to me once again. It's tough, but we'll get there. bright smile and wipes her tears hugs her lady friends Thanks.

05-05-2003, 05:47 AM	#9 (permalink)
Minx Junkie Location: Up yonder	Thanks for sharing ladies. Sometimes it's nice to know you aren't alone out there. __________________ You've been a naughty boy....go to my room!

05-05-2003, 06:21 PM	#10 (permalink)
Somenosuke Insane Location: The 7th Level..	I have plenty of regrets, but then I think about how my life would be different if things hadn't gone down the way they did, I might not have some of the things I have right now. Though, there is one thing I do regret. I regret not putting up a fight when I should have. I might be better off psychologically if I had. Oh well. __________________ Sex is not the answer. Sex is the question. Yes is the answer.

05-07-2003, 04:59 AM	#12 (permalink)
Nikki ~~~~~~~ Location: Charleston, SC	I try not to regret anything. Everything I have done so far has shaped the person you see before you today.

05-07-2003, 11:28 PM	#13 (permalink)
way2young Upright Location: MN	Hopefully my junior year of college will make me stronger. The entire year pretty much destroyed an self-esteme I had, adn the fact that I let a lot of what happened bring me down still gives me chills. hugs to all the ladies. __________________ Good girls are bad girls that don't get caught!

05-14-2003, 01:59 PM	#14 (permalink)
Baileys Tilted Location: if you want to know, you'll ask	I have two. Being too drunk/scared to pull back a girlfriend who kissed me, and then jumped away because she did. Living in a loveless marraige for the last 6 years before I finally said enough is enough. __________________ Baileys