My Vagina is on Sabbatical. - Tilted Forum Project Discussion Community

ZombieSquirrel · 10-29-2010, 02:44 PM

My Vagina has been on sabbatical since June. I don’t know if it’s a low sex drive thing as my Vagina and I are perfectly content with our battery operated friend, Mr. Purple. I just have no desire to exist in the proximity of another sexual being. It also may be a sign of maturity. No more one night stands, fuck buddies or relationships that only last because there’s sex involved. Heaven forbid I entertain the idea of having a relationship based on things other than mattress dancing.

So has your Vagina ever been on sabbatical? Either by choice or by circumstance? What were the reasons? Were you in a committed relationship at the time or single? Did you have a low sex drive? Did you come out of it? How so?

noodle · 10-29-2010, 03:36 PM

My situation's a little different.
But, every time S and I broke up, I was on sabbatical. I really just wasn't interested in anyone else sexually. Literally NO ONE else for long periods of time. There was Hot Coffee Guy, who turned into Couch Crawler Guy that was fun to joke with but it was just that... joking around. For the longest time, I wasn't even interested in my own hand (Mr. Purples don't work for me).
But the difference is that S has been my only partner. He's really the only person I've had an attraction to that I've been willing to ... blah, blah, blah, that's another story.
But, my sex drive waxes and wanes even when we're together. It kinda sucks.
We'll go almost a whole month without intercourse (I really enjoy giving blowjobs, so I don't mind keeping him satisfied) and I'll be okay with that. Which bothers me and I have to make a conscious decision to start focusing on what attracts me to him. I think a lot of mine is hormones. But, I come out of it when I really recenter myself and our relationship.
When we have been separated (multiple times in six and a half years), I almost didn't care and didn't make an effort to try to improve my drive.
Changing b/c pills helped, too.
I think it does come with age, too. Enjoy Mr. Purple. And your sabbatical... until you're in the proximity of another sexual being that you feel like jumping.

tasineah · 10-30-2010, 12:12 AM

I have had sabbaticals before. I think all women (I cant speak for men) go thru them.

Frankly at this point in my life, I would rather be alone than be with someone I didnt have a good connection to. I waited a long time to find CD. He was worth the wait. I could have missed him had I been occupied by a french frie....

Starkizzer · 10-30-2010, 12:34 AM

Sabbatical? No, since I started dating smrt, my vagina has not gone on sabbatical.

However, when I was on hormonal birth control, it did go through a long period of being an adjunct professor. Still had work to perform but received no pay. This was not his fault just my lack of interest in sex due to the hormones. Man, I hated those things! I was simply not interested in sex nor was I interested in getting off myself. What I did still enjoy though was making sure the guy I loved was happy and satisfied. Not his fault my body went all wacky on the various pills I tried over the years. So we had sex about 2-3 times per week, though sometimes it was as long as a week in between.

Now that I am off hormonal birth control and have the Paragaurd IUD, my vagina is what you might consider a full time tenured professor. It works hard AND get to reap the rewards, almost nightl

snowy · 10-30-2010, 01:02 PM

Yeah, I took about a year off of sex when I was 20-21. Dated a few guys during that time, but never really found one I wanted to do the mattress mambo with, so I just didn't. Then I got together with a fuck buddy for a while...then I met E. and ditched the fb.

Since then, I've never really been on sabbatical. There were a couple weeks without sex after I had my IUD inserted, simply because having sex would cause these terrible cramps, and there have been a couple times where we've not had any sex during the workweek because we've both been so busy/exhausted, but I think that's pretty normal.

amonkie · 10-30-2010, 01:23 PM

Doh. Had a whole post and TFP ate it. argh.

Long story short.... lack of sex in my relationships has always been a symptom of something bigger. Usually in most cases I either work on those issues and the sexual chemistry comes back.. or I find that the chemistry is actually part of the problem and decide its time to move on.

I have found a direct correlation between my confidence in myself and my current circumstances and my interest in sexual partners for enjoyment. 2 years ago I was a trainwreck of a person and no guy would think of touching me with a 30 ft pole. Once I got myself squared away I found my horniness coming back and unquenched just from pleasuring myself.

I have enjoyed great friends with benefits and also sex with committed partners. Both have their pros and cons... but I find that I must always always be attracted to someone with an intelligent brain to even feel any interest, FWB or otherwise. That has been the discriminating factor for me in most cases - finding guys who are not afraid of an intelligent woman who will challenge them. I refuse to play dumb and innocent to get laid. If they pass that first test, bring it on!

ZombieSquirrel · 11-15-2010, 07:28 PM

So is my vagina still on sabbatical if I have cross country fun via text messaging????

I'm so happy for camera phones.

slumberinglotus · 12-06-2010, 03:20 PM

I know I'm a bit late coming here, but if it helps... I'm on sabbatical. Not that I don't dust the rafters, but no visitors have been here in... egads... over a year at least. Mine is a bit of confusion mixed with loneliness and a hectic schedule. I've been dateless for a while and now I'm questioning if I know who I want to date (guys/girls/both etc) and I have always had a terrible time finding someone in general so now... well ya. I'm looking for that special someone and hopefully when I find them the mattress (and everything else) will be rocking. Until then... Sabbatical it is.

10-30-2010, 12:34 AM	#4 (permalink)
Starkizzer Hi floor! Make me a samwich. Location: Ontario (in the stray cat complex)	Sabbatical? No, since I started dating smrt, my vagina has not gone on sabbatical. However, when I was on hormonal birth control, it did go through a long period of being an adjunct professor. Still had work to perform but received no pay. This was not his fault just my lack of interest in sex due to the hormones. Man, I hated those things! I was simply not interested in sex nor was I interested in getting off myself. What I did still enjoy though was making sure the guy I loved was happy and satisfied. Not his fault my body went all wacky on the various pills I tried over the years. So we had sex about 2-3 times per week, though sometimes it was as long as a week in between. Now that I am off hormonal birth control and have the Paragaurd IUD, my vagina is what you might consider a full time tenured professor. It works hard AND get to reap the rewards, almost nightl __________________ Frivolity, at the edge of a Moral Swamp, hears Hymn-Singing in the Distance and dons the Galoshes of Remorse. ~Edward Gorey

10-30-2010, 01:02 PM	#5 (permalink)
snowy Kick Ass Kunoichi Location: Oregon	Yeah, I took about a year off of sex when I was 20-21. Dated a few guys during that time, but never really found one I wanted to do the mattress mambo with, so I just didn't. Then I got together with a fuck buddy for a while...then I met E. and ditched the fb. Since then, I've never really been on sabbatical. There were a couple weeks without sex after I had my IUD inserted, simply because having sex would cause these terrible cramps, and there have been a couple times where we've not had any sex during the workweek because we've both been so busy/exhausted, but I think that's pretty normal. __________________ If I am not better, at least I am different. --Jean-Jacques Rousseau

10-30-2010, 01:23 PM	#6 (permalink)
amonkie Drifting Administrator Location: Windy City	Doh. Had a whole post and TFP ate it. argh. Long story short.... lack of sex in my relationships has always been a symptom of something bigger. Usually in most cases I either work on those issues and the sexual chemistry comes back.. or I find that the chemistry is actually part of the problem and decide its time to move on. I have found a direct correlation between my confidence in myself and my current circumstances and my interest in sexual partners for enjoyment. 2 years ago I was a trainwreck of a person and no guy would think of touching me with a 30 ft pole. Once I got myself squared away I found my horniness coming back and unquenched just from pleasuring myself. I have enjoyed great friends with benefits and also sex with committed partners. Both have their pros and cons... but I find that I must always always be attracted to someone with an intelligent brain to even feel any interest, FWB or otherwise. That has been the discriminating factor for me in most cases - finding guys who are not afraid of an intelligent woman who will challenge them. I refuse to play dumb and innocent to get laid. If they pass that first test, bring it on! __________________ Calling from deep in the heart, from where the eyes can't see and the ears can't hear, from where the mountain trails end and only love can go... ~~~ Three Rivers Hare Krishna

12-06-2010, 03:20 PM	#8 (permalink)
slumberinglotus Upright Location: I am definately where I am, but I am not sure where I should be.	I know I'm a bit late coming here, but if it helps... I'm on sabbatical. Not that I don't dust the rafters, but no visitors have been here in... egads... over a year at least. Mine is a bit of confusion mixed with loneliness and a hectic schedule. I've been dateless for a while and now I'm questioning if I know who I want to date (guys/girls/both etc) and I have always had a terrible time finding someone in general so now... well ya. I'm looking for that special someone and hopefully when I find them the mattress (and everything else) will be rocking. Until then... Sabbatical it is. __________________ just be nice.

10-30-2010, 12:12 AM	#3 (permalink)
tasineah Crazy Location: NE region of the united states	I have had sabbaticals before. I think all women (I cant speak for men) go thru them. Frankly at this point in my life, I would rather be alone than be with someone I didnt have a good connection to. I waited a long time to find CD. He was worth the wait. I could have missed him had I been occupied by a french frie....