virginmary

Hi, I'm new here and I have a question that's been bothering me for some time.

I've read about the g-spot and female ejaculation, and I'm familiar with the g-spot. However, I don't know if I have had an orgasm from stimulating it. It's extremely pleasurable to have it stimulated, but I get to a point where I feel like I should be making it over the mountain top but I end up just standing at the peak until I get too tired. Has this happened to anyone else?

I am able to get past the "I gotta pee" feeling and relax my muscles. I've tried relaxing, pushing, clenching, not thinking about it so much, etc. But it still feels like I am unable to attain it. I've tried using toys on it but nothing does it like a man's hand. Is there a trick I can ask my boyfriend to do, other than what he does to get me as far as he does?

I'm also a virgin. I don't know if that makes a difference?

ametc

G-spots can be different for many women. I happen to have a very plump and large g-spot. It's easy to find and easy to play with. hehe

You may be thinking too much about your orgasm.. I've done that before, while masturbating and also during sex, and it really hinders my ability to orgasm properly. Proper orgasms feel wonderful.. though I do rate them from 1-10..10 being the best. ever. type of orgasm.

Virgin or not, it shouldn't make a difference if you really can't orgasm properly. But, that's not saying that if you can't orgasm now, you can't orgasm at all. You could be able to orgasm.. just not able to do it at the angle(s) you're trying it at. You may actually need a second party to help you out.

Allyallyally

Well.. this seems like as good a first post as any!

Most women can't orgasm from G-spot stimulation alone - so don't feel bad! I can't reach the big O without clit stimulation, no matter how good it feels. I can get to the edge, but I need my magic button touched to push me over.

Having my G-spot massaged does give me a MUCH stronger orgasm when I finally do reach it, though. When your boy is playing around down there, get him to massage it in a "come hither" motion with one or two of his fingers. He needs to apply a decent amount of pressure (once you've gotten past the peeing sensation). Once you're edging, have him pleasure your clit (tongue, finger, or otherwise) in rhythm with his finger... uh, thrusts, and you should experience an orgasm that i can only describe as explosive.

I get *very* sensitive after an orgasm as strong as those, though, so make sure he goes easy on you once you've come down from the high.

Shaindra

I'm with Allyallyally. I know where it is, what it feels like and I've had it stimulated plenty, but I've never cum from just g-spot stimulation. Maybe if I found the right lover it would happen, but I'm not going to worry about it too much.

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little_tippler

Yeah, just g-spot, never had that. Is that possible? Would love to hear from ladies who have been able. But I generally think orgasms of any kind generate from stimulation of several places, and not just one. I've had what I consider a g-spot orgasm coupled with clit stimulation. They vary from awesome to explosive. Not sure what I do to make them better some times and not at others, but it's always good.

I suggest you try and get one on your own first then work on showing your boyfriend. Have you tried doing it while watching something visually stimulating? Just an idea. May help push you over the edge. You say you get tired...if you close your eyes when you're close and don't worry so much about the effort you're having to put in, maybe you can concentrate on the sensations and just keeping going until you reach it.

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genuinegirly

g-spot + nipple play = yes
g-spot + clit stimulation = yes
g-spot + caress on my neck = yes
g-spot + intense french kiss = yes

any one stimulation alone = no. nada. boring. no thanks.

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Starkizzer

Ugh...I absolutely cannot have one. We have tried several things and nothing works. I can't say I'm really upset as I am rather happy and content with clit orgasms and I know nothing else, but its the mystery that keeps me trying.

I hate that "I have to pee" feeling and I have tried to push past it but it just ends up driving me up a wall. I have tried it both solo and with my honey. By myself is like other masturbation...with out a vibe it just feels like nothing. With the honey, I'm too worked up to take the time (we've gone to about half and hour of trying).

To all those that can and have discovered so... you are marvelous women who should be studied. To all those who can but have not discovered it yet, good luck on your road to discovery.

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Allyallyally

Just a quick tip, whether you're doing it by yourself or a partner is doing it to you, if the feeling that you need to pee is that strong, then apply lighter pressure until the feeling fades. Eventually, it should fade, and a strong amount of pressure can be applied after the discomfort has gone.

If you keep stimulating your g-spot and clit until you come, you might find that your orgasms just feel a lot stronger. When my g-spot is stimulated until I orgasm, I find that my orgasms are more emotionally draining, the "ripples" of pleasure are a lot stronger, and I get a lot more sensitive after. It's not necessarily a different kind of orgasm altogether, just a lot stronger - for me, anyway.

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genuinegirly

Good advice, Ally.

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little_tippler

Ally, that sounds just right. If the peeing feeling is strong, lighten up then go again. Works for me. It's also very mental. If I'm not very turned on, it doesn't work. I also agree that it makes a stronger, more exhausting orgasm, that feels similar to a clit orgasm. But it's more intense and inside of you. I also contract a lot more right after when I have a g-spot one.

Can I also say that stimulating the anal region provides yet another different kind of combined orgasmic sensation. I wonder what that one is called! Anal orgasms?

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Our hearts are incommunicable still.
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Starkizzer

We have tried stopping or letting up a bit until it goes away but it always come back with the same force. I have pretty strong ones that leave me not wanting to do anything else...this is sometimes a problem when he hasn't cum yet. I'm absolutely useless afterwards and sometimes end up just laughing my ass off.

Like I said we are still trying and I know he at least reads this thread trying to gather ideas. I really don't care if I ever have one or not but I know he sure wants me to have one.

Though it took us forever for me to have an orgasm in the first place and some days it takes him going down on me for a good hour before I can have one. Maybe a g-spot orgasm will have to take even longer...his poor hand is gonna fall off.

Thanks ladies for the advice!

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Allyallyally

We'll just call them fantastic orgasms.

Now, an orgasm where your g-spot, ass, and clit are all stimulated at the same time, and everything has something to contract around.... well, I don't have a description for that. I've come close to passing out a couple of times during those ones.

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little_tippler

Starkizzer, sounds like you have a keeper there! An hour? That is dedicated right there. I don't think it's a question of time, it's a question of practice. The better you both know your body the easier it will become over time. I never used to be able to and then it happened. To me it was really down to the right combination of clitoral and g-spot stimulation. Maybe you can work on your clit while he takes care of the g.

I suggest you pee beforehand to make sure your bladder isn't under pressure. Also, when you feel the peeing sensation, are you fighting it, so you won't pee? Because it may just be that you need to let yourself go. I doubt you will pee. Who knows, you may squirt! Try to stop thinking about possibly peeing and try and just concentrate on good sensations you are having.

And also, try it on your own first. Always easier once you know yourself what you need to get there.

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Our soul from us is infinitely far.
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To be our soul and gesture it abroad,
Our hearts are incommunicable still.
In what we show ourselves we are ignored.
The abyss from soul to soul cannot be bridged
By any skill of thought or trick of seeming.
Unto our very selves we are abridged
When we would utter to our thought our being.
We are our dreams of ourselves, souls by gleams,
And each to each other dreams of others' dreams.

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little_tippler

A male TFPer's request

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To be our soul and gesture it abroad,
Our hearts are incommunicable still.
In what we show ourselves we are ignored.
The abyss from soul to soul cannot be bridged
By any skill of thought or trick of seeming.
Unto our very selves we are abridged
When we would utter to our thought our being.
We are our dreams of ourselves, souls by gleams,
And each to each other dreams of others' dreams.

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Starkizzer

Sadly it does very little for me to do anything to myself short of a vibe. Before im2smrt4u I could only get an O if I was using the shower/tub method. I can't reach anything very well and my rubbing my clitoris gives about the same sensation as if I were touching my elbow.

We've been trying for awhile now (about 7yrs) and I still have days where I take a long time just to have a clitoral orgasm. If my clit is played with while he's trying to make me have a g-spot orgasm I just end up having a clitoral one. We have even tried getting me really close with clit stimulation then stopping that and still nothing.

:shrugs:

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Allyallyally

While a woman may not be able to reach her g-spot from her angle, a guy's fingers should have no problem if he's between her legs. I think fingers are better in a lot of cases because you can feel how much pressure you're using (which means you can lighten it or add more if the situation calls for it), and you can make the "come hither" movement very easily (usually best approach to simulating that little area, but that's what experimentation is for). Make sure something is working her clit, too (vibe, fingers or tongue), or she might find it a bit uncomfortable.

Not to mention that you can feel the texture inside her if you use your fingers, and you're more likely to hit the right spot (most areas inside the vagina are somewhat smooth, the texture covering the g-spot is a bit rougher, which makes it easier to find).

Also, she should empty her bladder before you two get going. This way, no matter how much she feels the need to pee, she can feel relaxed knowing that she won't. For some women, "pushing" slightly when that urge to pee develops (which is the opposite reaction that many women will have) can help bring on a g-spot orgasm. If she's been to the bathroom just before, she'll have peace of mind that no accidents will take place, even if she pushes a bit. If it helps her relax, put a towel down anyway - it won't hurt.

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little_tippler

The bladder lies close to the front vaginal wall, so any stimulation to that part of the vagina can make it seem like you have the urge to pee. I'd say it's only a feeling and not a real urge, especially if you've emptied your bladder. Also, female ejaculation will come through the same path as urine would, so it may just trigger some squirting instead. It's never happened to me but I keep trying!

I would say fingers are better because of knowing what to feel for and just general comfort with the situation at first. But after reading Starkizzer's latest post, I think she may enjoy a vibe, since she says herself that fingers hardly get her off. There are lots of vibrator geared towards the g-spot, but recently one of the best sellers in most sex toy sites is the we-vibe (which we've talked about elsewhere in TFP). Not sure if its hype or actually true, but I'm certainly curious.

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Whether we write or speak or do but look
We are ever unapparent. What we are
Cannot be transfused into word or book.
Our soul from us is infinitely far.
However much we give our thoughts the will
To be our soul and gesture it abroad,
Our hearts are incommunicable still.
In what we show ourselves we are ignored.
The abyss from soul to soul cannot be bridged
By any skill of thought or trick of seeming.
Unto our very selves we are abridged
When we would utter to our thought our being.
We are our dreams of ourselves, souls by gleams,
And each to each other dreams of others' dreams.

Fernando Pessoa, 1918

mixedmedia

*raises hand*
yes, g-spot orgasms alone are possible.
it takes patience and determination the first few times, though...they cum easier as you go along

g-spot stimulation with oral clitoral stimulation is really nice, too.

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Starkizzer

(Ok I so feel like I have jacked this thread)

QS: What does it feel like for you guys when your g-spot is touched? Any form of touching it doesn't matter.
I ask this because when he touches mine I feel nothing, when he does the come hither motion not much more just have to pee. Am I just weird? I'm pretty sure he's playing with the right spot since he says its textured.

Ally, even if I do pee right before hand, it takes me so long to get to the point of any climax I often have to pee again. So my confidence that I won't pee is very low. We have even tried where I pee at the start, get to the point of that really strong urge, I take a quick break to go pee again and then let him try again until I can't stand the feeling anymore and make him stop, and I'll go again. I've always had a weak bladder and so I think I just don't like that feeling because I used to get in trouble when I was little for wetting my pants.

I have a vibe that curves up at the end, it is meant for g-spot stimulation. It does nothing for me doing its intended purpose. Oddly its the greatest vibe for clitoral stimilation.

Thanks for all your help ladies, we're not giving up.

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Allyallyally

No, not weird at all. The first minute or two of mine being stimulated feels more or less the same. The more pressure he uses, the more you get that peeing feeling. Within a bit of time (and his tongue on my clit!) it starts to feel pleasurable. As I'm building up to an orgasm the pressure he puts on me down there is extremely intense, and I can feel it helping immensely while climbing the big O. I suppose the only way I can describe it is in fact, to call it a "pressure". Starts out as a sensitive one, numbs out a bit within a couple of minutes, and then returns and eventually transcends into an orgasmic one.

Okay, I see your point, and can understand it. It's more psychological than anything.

But I very much doubt that your SO would care if you were to dribble a bit (and if you'd been to the bathroom previously, and haven't had much to drink, that's surely all there'd be). It's hard to move past psychological issues with this stuff, but if there's anyone you could do it with, it'd be your other half, right? So what if you pee a little... it's just pee. It's harmless, and if you put a towel down, it's easy to clean up.

You're not having a g-spot orgasm because you're tense. Constantly anxious as he's working on you. If you're tense while it's going on, your body won't relax enough to let go and start building up to any kind of pleasurable feeling.

Maybe you could try getting used to the feeling of having your g-spot stimulated by yourself for a bit, first? Keep going until you get to the point where you'd usually make him stop... and then try to push past it. You're by yourself, so it doesn't matter if you do pee. Don't get up and go to the bathroom (but go beforehand), just keep going. Try to relax, watch some porn, fantasize about something, turn yourself on. But most importantly, relax!


You're most welcome. That's the attitude. But, don't forget to have fun with it in the process. Don't put too much (emotional) pressure on yourselves.

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Starkizzer

Can't really reach it on my own so me trying by myself won't work and its just no fun anyway. Like I said before might as well be rubbing my elbow.

Though we did try again the other day and I pushed instead of clenching and when I came I came pretty hard and it felt mildly different. But I can come just as hard with out g-spot stimulation, so either I didn't have one or I don't get the difference. All of my orgasms are mind blowingly intense so I have no idea.

And no worries on putting any particular pressure on this, I keep trying because its fun but if I never have one...meh no biggie.

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Allyallyally

Hey, no need to mess with a good thing, then.

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KrystalS

My fiance and I have recently started experimenting with my g-spot. He really wants me to have a g-spot orgasm but I still can't without clit stimulation. Is is possible to have an orgasm ONLY using your g-spot? If so, I wish someone would tell me how. He said the girls he has been with before has never had a problem having a g-spot orgasm but for some reason I find that hard to believe because I've never heard of anyone having only a g-spot orgasm. There was a video on how to have one but he was using his finger, we tried that and it worked but it took forever. He was dripping with sweat after I finally climaxed. There has to be an easier way!?