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dd3953 · 02-22-2009, 08:45 PM

Am I?

Vaginal penetration does nothing for me. I mean, for the first minute or two it feels alright, but after that it's just this 'mindless' motion. It doesn't feel great, or even good. It doesn't matter how thick or how long. Changing the stroke doesn't seem to help either. And the longer it goes on, the more the 'okayness' decreases.

I'm not the only one, am I?

And if I'm not, any suggestions?

Starkizzer · 02-22-2009, 09:19 PM

Depends on my mood. I'll admit there are times where it really does nothing for me.

But then there are the times, when I'm really turned on and feeling really close to my SO that it feels...well awesome. My hunny knows that I can't get off vaginally so he does his best to make sure I feel good and am enjoying myself in other ways.

It helps a lot if he goes down on me first and then we alternate between that and penetration. This helps me enjoy him inside of me. The other thing that tends to help me is if I squeeze a little as though I were doing kegel exercises while hes inside. I have to be careful because this tends to make him cum faster.

The Fluffy One · 02-25-2009, 11:55 PM

Depends for me as well, I get different 'pleasures' from different things, though I gotta say penetration is nice, the fingers have always been the best for orgasms, tongue is nice too, I kinda have to be in the mood for actual sex, and mostly I do it for my male counterpart.

dd3953 · 02-27-2009, 12:58 PM

I'm running out of ideas. I've tried clit simulation during and like Star, taking turns. I just feel some type of way that I can't seem to get any pleasure out of it, you know that whole 'There most be something wrong with you' thing is getting kind of heavy on my mind.

ametc · 02-27-2009, 05:32 PM

There is this oil/gel that makes it sensitive as hell. I don't have any problems with vaginal sensitivity, but I had a sample of this stuff (sorry! I forgot the name.) and a few drops made me feel every movement down there. I think it swells the G-spot and makes blood rush to the vagina or something. You can buy it at any sex store online or off. The price differs depending on the size and brand. You could try that and see if it helps any.

Tiny Dancer · 02-28-2009, 03:54 PM

It's also all about the mental connection as well. That's the only time I've ever not had pleasure from penetration is when there is no real connection. But I've had my fun with flings that have been enjoyed.

dd3953 · 03-01-2009, 05:23 PM

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Originally Posted by Tiny Dancer

It's also all about the mental connection as well. That's the only time I've ever not had pleasure from penetration is when there is no real connection. But I've had my fun with flings that have been enjoyed.

well that's interesting... mainly because there is no pleasure when i'm masturbating either... hm...

Sue · 03-01-2009, 05:31 PM

It does everything for me

JustDoll · 03-01-2009, 07:26 PM

I've had that feeling before and I was actually scared because sex was suppose to feel good, not dull. But then I realized the problem was because I was so uptight about everything, like how i looked naked, or how I am probably not pleasuring him as well as I could, or that as he is penetrating me I would make faces unintentionally that looked weird and would turn him off. Im not sure how long you and your other half have been together, but for me this happens when I am just not that comfortable with the guy yet....
One other thing you could do it if you two decide to do it that night, you shud think about it the ENTIRE day..and just keep re-running that pleasurable feeling of that first two minute or two in your head, and when you actually go ahead and do it, don't overthink anything, or if possible dun think at all =) Do watever that comes to your head first!

dd3953 · 03-02-2009, 06:43 PM

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Originally Posted by JustDoll

...don't overthink anything, or if possible dun think at all =) Do watever that comes to your head first!

i couldn't help but laugh at that. but it's worth trying.

mixedmedia · 03-02-2009, 06:56 PM

I love fucking.

Tiny Dancer · 03-03-2009, 01:48 PM

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Originally Posted by dd3953

well that's interesting... mainly because there is no pleasure when i'm masturbating either... hm...

I actually am the same with masturbating. I rarely do it because I don't get any gratification out of it at all. I just don't get pleasure like when a man touches me.

Shaindra · 03-08-2009, 12:34 AM

I fully enjoy the sensation of being penetrated. It feels good and, like the other posters said, if there is an emotional connection, it is almost spiritual. But I almost never get off on it. And there have been times when it's gone on too long and I sort of...lose interest.

NorthernGirl · 04-14-2009, 11:21 PM

I usually dont enjoy sex without foreplay first, for one reason, lubrication, for another, being in that frame of mind and wanting it ,
sometimes watching porn beforehand is enough, have you tried reverse cowgirl ? usually doggystyle works for me when Im not enjoying
missionary. alot of men are selfish in bed and just want to get streight to the intercourse . some get lazy over time .
if youre in a position where you can touch yourself that might help .

lostgirl · 04-17-2009, 11:17 AM

I am all about being penetrated. It feels so damn good, I don't even need to cum to enjoy sex. I just love a nice hard cock in me.

KRM28152 · 04-19-2009, 08:41 PM

Honestly, I can see I'm not exactly prepared to answer this. My only experiences, thus far, with sex have been somewhat negative. I don't remember what a cock feels like inside of me, lol, as sad as that sounds. But I know for a fact I have to be well-lubricated and I have to be able to rub my clit for any type of orgasm to occur. And usually -I- need to be the one rubbing it while he's thrusting. Just doesn't feel as good coming from him. I've also found out that my legs usually need to be straight and taut before I can cum hard..interesting I thought.

Long story short, I don't cum from vaginal penetration either...it's the clitoral that does it for me.

Halanna · 05-11-2009, 09:28 AM

I can take it or leave it, but sometimes I just want to have that most intimate of contact.

I like it mostly because I know how good it feels to him. Thinking of that makes it feel better to me for some reason.

Shell · 05-11-2009, 02:44 PM

During orgasm, the completely full feeling of the male being as deep as possible inside of you is an indescribable combination of sensations on many different levels. You can even thrust your hips forward sometimes gently grab his derierre (or he yours), pulling him even closer to increase the depth. The closeness and fullness feels as "one" with him, increases the full potential of the orgasm's sensations, and can completely send you over the moon.

lostgirl · 05-11-2009, 10:30 PM

Shell, I agree fully with what you wrote.

Hyacinthe · 05-12-2009, 05:51 AM

Girls / Ladies it's fantastic that you all have such great sex lives but hardly helping the OP - infact if anything you're probably just making her feel more alienated and as though there's something wrong with her.

There isn't btw dd3953 - about 10% of women are born completely without a g-spot making intercourse boring or plain unpleasant. If clitoral stimulation doesn't help then I'm inclined to think you're either not getting enough foreplay and therefore a lack or nerve sensitivity is ruining things for you or you're over thinking matters.

Ametc had a great idea with the stimulation gel - if it is lack of foreplay that should help. Any sex store should have something similar - try a gel or a spray if they have it as opposed to a cream since that will spread onto him as well and increase his sensitivity to and might end things a tad prematurely.

If that doesn't work try having a glass of wine or two (or whatever alcohol you like) about 30 - 45 minutes before you think you'll be heading to bed. Might help shut down your brain, I wouldn't advise more then that since a large amount of alcohol could possibly make things harder. Course I am a randy drunk so that might not help you at all worth trying though.

If that doesn't work you could try stimulating yourself mentally as opposed to physically - what DOES turn you on? Nipple play, fetish stuff (S&M / Pony play etc), reading material, movies, voyeurism, exhibitionism - figure out what you like and play to your strengths.

Other then that I am afraid I can't really think of much - you could try anal to if you're open to the idea - maybe it's just vaginal penetration that doesn't effect you?

Hope one of those ideas will help though.

dd3953 · 05-20-2009, 11:57 AM

Thanks Hyacinthe.

Okay, so I didn't try the 'have drink' thing, but i did play with 'more/longer' forplay. I have to be riding it for there to be anytype of pleasure - and I can't cum from it, that's gotta be 'clit play'.

As for anal, well, i've tried it and 'hey, mikey, i think she likes it.'

02-22-2009, 08:45 PM	#1 (permalink)
dd3953 Psycho: By Choice Location: dd.land	I can't be the only one. . . Am I? Vaginal penetration does nothing for me. I mean, for the first minute or two it feels alright, but after that it's just this 'mindless' motion. It doesn't feel great, or even good. It doesn't matter how thick or how long. Changing the stroke doesn't seem to help either. And the longer it goes on, the more the 'okayness' decreases. I'm not the only one, am I? And if I'm not, any suggestions? __________________ [Technically, I'm not possible, I'm made of exceptions. ]

02-22-2009, 09:19 PM	#2 (permalink)
Starkizzer Hi floor! Make me a samwich. Location: Ontario (in the stray cat complex)	Depends on my mood. I'll admit there are times where it really does nothing for me. But then there are the times, when I'm really turned on and feeling really close to my SO that it feels...well awesome. My hunny knows that I can't get off vaginally so he does his best to make sure I feel good and am enjoying myself in other ways. It helps a lot if he goes down on me first and then we alternate between that and penetration. This helps me enjoy him inside of me. The other thing that tends to help me is if I squeeze a little as though I were doing kegel exercises while hes inside. I have to be careful because this tends to make him cum faster. __________________ Frivolity, at the edge of a Moral Swamp, hears Hymn-Singing in the Distance and dons the Galoshes of Remorse. ~Edward Gorey

02-25-2009, 11:55 PM	#3 (permalink)
The Fluffy One Upright Location: Living in the sewers, painting grafitti and rainbows everywhere	Depends for me as well, I get different 'pleasures' from different things, though I gotta say penetration is nice, the fingers have always been the best for orgasms, tongue is nice too, I kinda have to be in the mood for actual sex, and mostly I do it for my male counterpart. __________________ Avvy by me, please don't steal

02-27-2009, 12:58 PM	#4 (permalink)
dd3953 Psycho: By Choice Location: dd.land	I'm running out of ideas. I've tried clit simulation during and like Star, taking turns. I just feel some type of way that I can't seem to get any pleasure out of it, you know that whole 'There most be something wrong with you' thing is getting kind of heavy on my mind. __________________ [Technically, I'm not possible, I'm made of exceptions. ]

03-01-2009, 05:31 PM	#8 (permalink)
Sue Teufel Hunden's Freundin Location: Westminster, CO	It does everything for me __________________ Teg yw edrych tuag adref.

02-27-2009, 05:32 PM	#5 (permalink)
ametc Psycho	There is this oil/gel that makes it sensitive as hell. I don't have any problems with vaginal sensitivity, but I had a sample of this stuff (sorry! I forgot the name.) and a few drops made me feel every movement down there. I think it swells the G-spot and makes blood rush to the vagina or something. You can buy it at any sex store online or off. The price differs depending on the size and brand. You could try that and see if it helps any.

02-28-2009, 03:54 PM	#6 (permalink)
Tiny Dancer Registered User Location: D-Town, Co	It's also all about the mental connection as well. That's the only time I've ever not had pleasure from penetration is when there is no real connection. But I've had my fun with flings that have been enjoyed.

03-01-2009, 07:26 PM	#9 (permalink)
JustDoll Upright Location: T.dot	I've had that feeling before and I was actually scared because sex was suppose to feel good, not dull. But then I realized the problem was because I was so uptight about everything, like how i looked naked, or how I am probably not pleasuring him as well as I could, or that as he is penetrating me I would make faces unintentionally that looked weird and would turn him off. Im not sure how long you and your other half have been together, but for me this happens when I am just not that comfortable with the guy yet.... One other thing you could do it if you two decide to do it that night, you shud think about it the ENTIRE day..and just keep re-running that pleasurable feeling of that first two minute or two in your head, and when you actually go ahead and do it, don't overthink anything, or if possible dun think at all =) Do watever that comes to your head first! __________________ It's like you slit my throat, watched me bleed to death, and asked my dead body why I was screaming in so much pain.

03-02-2009, 06:56 PM	#11 (permalink)
mixedmedia has all her shots. Location: Florida	I love fucking. __________________ Most people go through life dreading they'll have a traumatic experience. Freaks were born with their trauma. They've already passed their test in life. They're aristocrats. - Diane Arbus PESSIMISM, n. A philosophy forced upon the convictions of the observer by the disheartening prevalence of the optimist with his scarecrow hope and his unsightly smile. - Ambrose Bierce

03-08-2009, 12:34 AM	#13 (permalink)
Shaindra Psycho Location: Massachusetts	I fully enjoy the sensation of being penetrated. It feels good and, like the other posters said, if there is an emotional connection, it is almost spiritual. But I almost never get off on it. And there have been times when it's gone on too long and I sort of...lose interest. __________________ "Never regret something that once made you smile."

04-14-2009, 11:21 PM	#14 (permalink)
NorthernGirl Upright	I usually dont enjoy sex without foreplay first, for one reason, lubrication, for another, being in that frame of mind and wanting it , sometimes watching porn beforehand is enough, have you tried reverse cowgirl ? usually doggystyle works for me when Im not enjoying missionary. alot of men are selfish in bed and just want to get streight to the intercourse . some get lazy over time . if youre in a position where you can touch yourself that might help .

04-17-2009, 11:17 AM	#15 (permalink)
lostgirl lightform Location: Edge of the deep green sea	I am all about being penetrated. It feels so damn good, I don't even need to cum to enjoy sex. I just love a nice hard cock in me. __________________ We're about to go through the crucible, but we'll come out the other side. We always arise from our own ashes. Everything returns later in its changed form. - Children of Dune

04-19-2009, 08:41 PM	#16 (permalink)
KRM28152 Upright Location: I go to school in Shelby, NC but I'm from Charlotte.	Honestly, I can see I'm not exactly prepared to answer this. My only experiences, thus far, with sex have been somewhat negative. I don't remember what a cock feels like inside of me, lol, as sad as that sounds. But I know for a fact I have to be well-lubricated and I have to be able to rub my clit for any type of orgasm to occur. And usually -I- need to be the one rubbing it while he's thrusting. Just doesn't feel as good coming from him. I've also found out that my legs usually need to be straight and taut before I can cum hard..interesting I thought. Long story short, I don't cum from vaginal penetration either...it's the clitoral that does it for me. __________________ “I feel sorry for people who don't drink. When they wake up in the morning, that's as good as they're going to feel all day.” -Frank Sinatra

05-11-2009, 09:28 AM	#17 (permalink)
Halanna Insane Location: Over the rainbow . .	I can take it or leave it, but sometimes I just want to have that most intimate of contact. I like it mostly because I know how good it feels to him. Thinking of that makes it feel better to me for some reason.

05-11-2009, 02:44 PM	#18 (permalink)
Shell Cheers Location: Eastcoast USA	During orgasm, the completely full feeling of the male being as deep as possible inside of you is an indescribable combination of sensations on many different levels. You can even thrust your hips forward sometimes gently grab his derierre (or he yours), pulling him even closer to increase the depth. The closeness and fullness feels as "one" with him, increases the full potential of the orgasm's sensations, and can completely send you over the moon. __________________ ..."Say what you think. Those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind" ~ Dr. Seuss Last edited by Shell; 05-11-2009 at 08:14 PM..

05-11-2009, 10:30 PM	#19 (permalink)
lostgirl lightform Location: Edge of the deep green sea	Shell, I agree fully with what you wrote. __________________ We're about to go through the crucible, but we'll come out the other side. We always arise from our own ashes. Everything returns later in its changed form. - Children of Dune

05-12-2009, 05:51 AM	#20 (permalink)
Hyacinthe Psycho Location: Australia	Girls / Ladies it's fantastic that you all have such great sex lives but hardly helping the OP - infact if anything you're probably just making her feel more alienated and as though there's something wrong with her. There isn't btw dd3953 - about 10% of women are born completely without a g-spot making intercourse boring or plain unpleasant. If clitoral stimulation doesn't help then I'm inclined to think you're either not getting enough foreplay and therefore a lack or nerve sensitivity is ruining things for you or you're over thinking matters. Ametc had a great idea with the stimulation gel - if it is lack of foreplay that should help. Any sex store should have something similar - try a gel or a spray if they have it as opposed to a cream since that will spread onto him as well and increase his sensitivity to and might end things a tad prematurely. If that doesn't work try having a glass of wine or two (or whatever alcohol you like) about 30 - 45 minutes before you think you'll be heading to bed. Might help shut down your brain, I wouldn't advise more then that since a large amount of alcohol could possibly make things harder. Course I am a randy drunk so that might not help you at all worth trying though. If that doesn't work you could try stimulating yourself mentally as opposed to physically - what DOES turn you on? Nipple play, fetish stuff (S&M / Pony play etc), reading material, movies, voyeurism, exhibitionism - figure out what you like and play to your strengths. Other then that I am afraid I can't really think of much - you could try anal to if you're open to the idea - maybe it's just vaginal penetration that doesn't effect you? Hope one of those ideas will help though. __________________ "I want to be remembered as the girl who always smiles even when her heart is broken... and the one that could brighten up your day even if she couldnt brighten her own" "Her emotions were clear waters. You could see the scarring and pockmarks at the bottom of the pool, but it was just a part of her landscape – the consequences of others’ actions in which she claimed no part."

05-20-2009, 11:57 AM	#21 (permalink)
dd3953 Psycho: By Choice Location: dd.land	Thanks Hyacinthe. Okay, so I didn't try the 'have drink' thing, but i did play with 'more/longer' forplay. I have to be riding it for there to be anytype of pleasure - and I can't cum from it, that's gotta be 'clit play'. As for anal, well, i've tried it and 'hey, mikey, i think she likes it.' __________________ [Technically, I'm not possible, I'm made of exceptions. ]