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cadre · 08-17-2006, 10:09 PM

The title is pretty self explanitory but basically I'm trying to learn to deep throat for my guy and I need help with the gag reflex. It kinda depends on the day but I can get to the point where he's almost in my throat before I feel like gagging. I've read up on how to articles but I haven't found the suggestions all that helpful. Can any of you explain your technique to me?

mandy · 08-18-2006, 03:11 AM

well, i try and breathe, but it's kinda hard when he's blocking all your air passages, so what i do is i take a breath, i go down and i slowly exhale when coming up. it works for me. hope you find something that works for you.

cadre · 08-18-2006, 08:55 PM

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Originally Posted by mandy

well, i try and breathe, but it's kinda hard when he's blocking all your air passages, so what i do is i take a breath, i go down and i slowly exhale when coming up. it works for me. hope you find something that works for you.

Yeah, breathing I can understand. I don't know if I do or don't breath very well but next time I'll be sure to pay attention.

Thanks for the input

raeanna74 · 08-19-2006, 05:43 AM

I approach deep throating like I'm trying to swallow a pill sortof. I the floor of my throat (base of my tongue) down to open my throat and then when he is IN my throat I sortof swallow.

It helps a bit if I turn my head so that any curve in the guys penis is angled DOWN my throat. Otherwise it just sortof jams against my uvula and that makes me gag faster. It takes practice and a sort of control.

As for breathing. I just take a deep breath before I go down my throat and hold it till I an breath again.

If you still can't get past the gagging. Try spraying your throat and uvula with cloraseptic throat spray. It has a numbing agent in it and it will decrease the likelyhood that you will gag.

Sage · 08-19-2006, 12:29 PM

Being relaxed is the best thing, and then work on the angle you're doing it at. The easiest angle (at least for me) is in a 69 when I'm on top, because the curve of his penis matches the curve of my mouth and throat. Remember to stretch your head and neck up so there's the least amount of angle possible where your throat starts. When you're first starting to deep throat, relax all the muscles in your mouth and throat, and take it slow. Don't expect to take it all on the first try, or the third, or the tenth. Remember too that deep throating isn't about the tounge action at all- just focus on taking it all in.

It takes practice, but you can overcome your gag reflex. Remember to relax, find the right angle for you, and take it slow. Breathe, and if you feel like you're going to gag, do something else for a while before you come back to the deep throating. Happy practicing!

cadre · 08-19-2006, 06:43 PM

Raeanna: As far as your swallowing thing goes, I read that if you feel like you are going to gag you should try to swallow or something?. Is that what you're referring to?

Thanks for the input ladies!

raeanna74 · 08-19-2006, 07:01 PM

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Originally Posted by cadre

Raeanna: As far as your swallowing thing goes, I read that if you feel like you are going to gag you should try to swallow or something?. Is that what you're referring to?

Thanks for the input ladies!

I sortof do the swallow thing any time but it DEFINATELY helps when I'm really feeling more like gagging.

pornclerk · 08-19-2006, 07:51 PM

There is this stuff you can get in most sex stores called "Good Head" cream. You put it on the penis before giving a blow job. They come in flavours like mint, cherry, and cinnamon. The cream is supposed to help numb the gag reflex. I've tried it before and it seems to work well. Maybe it would work for you.

Lindy · 08-19-2006, 11:12 PM

It helps me for the penis to be really hard. If it isn't "rock hard" it can bend instead of going down. That makes the gagging worse for me.
Lindy

cadre · 08-20-2006, 04:58 PM

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Originally Posted by raeanna74

I sortof do the swallow thing any time but it DEFINATELY helps when I'm really feeling more like gagging.

Hm, okay. I guess that will take practice too since I tried it and I couldn't really do it right.

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Originally Posted by pornclerk

There is this stuff you can get in most sex stores called "Good Head" cream. You put it on the penis before giving a blow job. They come in flavours like mint, cherry, and cinnamon. The cream is supposed to help numb the gag reflex. I've tried it before and it seems to work well. Maybe it would work for you.

I've seen that stuff before but I didn't really think about it. That's a great suggestion. Thanks

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Originally Posted by Lindy

It helps me for the penis to be really hard. If it isn't "rock hard" it can bend instead of going down. That makes the gagging worse for me.
Lindy

Haha, no worries there!

Sage · 08-20-2006, 08:20 PM

Oh yeah, I also recommend Sweeten'd Blow - it's like Good Head but I find it to be palateable and not feel or taste wierd in my mouth.

cadre · 08-21-2006, 07:56 PM

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Originally Posted by Sage

Oh yeah, I also recommend Sweeten'd Blow - it's like Good Head but I find it to be palateable and not feel or taste wierd in my mouth.

That's nice to hear because the best store near us has only Sweeten'd Blow and I wasn't sure if it was the same thing. Thank you

Lady Sage · 08-24-2006, 07:57 PM

I learned to deep throat by practicing on fudgecicles. It helps to numb and ease into the sensation. Before long youll be a pro.

amonkie · 08-31-2006, 01:26 PM

Posted on behalf of a male member

taken from "unsafe sex products" <http://www.tinynibbles.com/unsafe.html>)

"Anal-Eze can really hurt you. Lubricants with benzocaine, and numbing agents such as Anal-Eze, "good head gel" and desensitizing creams contain oils, flavors and colorings, and they are very unsafe. Numbing the back of your throat, the penis, the vagina, and especially the anus can lead to serious injury and infections that can (and often) land users in the doctor's office or ER. Think: you can't feel the skin breaking or tearing, and if it's the anus, there's fecal bacteria. When you can't feel pain, you are getting injured, period. Pain sucks, but it's an important tool during anal play, telling you something's not right. If it hurts you're either going too fast, you need more lube, the item is too big, you're not aroused enough, or you're not really in the mood. And when I researched my fellatio book, I communicated briefly with a dentist who'd seen signifigant bruising *inside* the throat of a female patient -- again, just think about it."

cadre · 08-31-2006, 06:55 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by amonkie

Posted on behalf of a male member

taken from "unsafe sex products" <http://www.tinynibbles.com/unsafe.html>)

"Anal-Eze can really hurt you. Lubricants with benzocaine, and numbing agents such as Anal-Eze, "good head gel" and desensitizing creams contain oils, flavors and colorings, and they are very unsafe. Numbing the back of your throat, the penis, the vagina, and especially the anus can lead to serious injury and infections that can (and often) land users in the doctor's office or ER. Think: you can't feel the skin breaking or tearing, and if it's the anus, there's fecal bacteria. When you can't feel pain, you are getting injured, period. Pain sucks, but it's an important tool during anal play, telling you something's not right. If it hurts you're either going too fast, you need more lube, the item is too big, you're not aroused enough, or you're not really in the mood. And when I researched my fellatio book, I communicated briefly with a dentist who'd seen signifigant bruising *inside* the throat of a female patient -- again, just think about it."

Point taken

Starkizzer · 09-21-2006, 04:19 PM

I always seem to have an easier time at it when I'm REALLY into it. My guy kinda curves down so that helps as well. Definately find an angle that works best for you. Lots of saliva and practice help as well. I'm able to get it so my lips are touching the skin above his member now and I can stay down for longer too but in the beginning not so much. I know you can do it! I have a really small mouth and that was difficult in the begining(scraping).

08-17-2006, 10:09 PM	#1 (permalink)
cadre The Worst Influence Location: Arizona	Help overcoming a gag reflex The title is pretty self explanitory but basically I'm trying to learn to deep throat for my guy and I need help with the gag reflex. It kinda depends on the day but I can get to the point where he's almost in my throat before I feel like gagging. I've read up on how to articles but I haven't found the suggestions all that helpful. Can any of you explain your technique to me? __________________ My life is one of those 'you had to be there' jokes.

08-18-2006, 03:11 AM	#2 (permalink)
mandy Addict Location: Port Elizabeth, South Africa	well, i try and breathe, but it's kinda hard when he's blocking all your air passages, so what i do is i take a breath, i go down and i slowly exhale when coming up. it works for me. hope you find something that works for you. __________________ The Imagination equips us to see a reality we have yet to create

08-19-2006, 05:43 AM	#4 (permalink)
raeanna74 I'm not a blonde! I'm knot! I'm knot! I'm knot! Location: Upper Michigan	I approach deep throating like I'm trying to swallow a pill sortof. I the floor of my throat (base of my tongue) down to open my throat and then when he is IN my throat I sortof swallow. It helps a bit if I turn my head so that any curve in the guys penis is angled DOWN my throat. Otherwise it just sortof jams against my uvula and that makes me gag faster. It takes practice and a sort of control. As for breathing. I just take a deep breath before I go down my throat and hold it till I an breath again. If you still can't get past the gagging. Try spraying your throat and uvula with cloraseptic throat spray. It has a numbing agent in it and it will decrease the likelyhood that you will gag. __________________ "Always learn the rules so that you can break them properly." Dalai Lama My Karma just ran over your Dogma.

08-19-2006, 12:29 PM	#5 (permalink)
Sage hoarding all the big girl panties since 2005 Location: North side	Being relaxed is the best thing, and then work on the angle you're doing it at. The easiest angle (at least for me) is in a 69 when I'm on top, because the curve of his penis matches the curve of my mouth and throat. Remember to stretch your head and neck up so there's the least amount of angle possible where your throat starts. When you're first starting to deep throat, relax all the muscles in your mouth and throat, and take it slow. Don't expect to take it all on the first try, or the third, or the tenth. Remember too that deep throating isn't about the tounge action at all- just focus on taking it all in. It takes practice, but you can overcome your gag reflex. Remember to relax, find the right angle for you, and take it slow. Breathe, and if you feel like you're going to gag, do something else for a while before you come back to the deep throating. Happy practicing! __________________ Sage knows our mythic history, King Arthur's and Sir Caradoc's She answers hard acrostics, has a pretty taste for paradox She quotes in elegiacs all the crimes of Heliogabalus In conics she can floor peculiarities parabolous -C'hi

08-19-2006, 06:43 PM	#6 (permalink)
cadre The Worst Influence Location: Arizona	Raeanna: As far as your swallowing thing goes, I read that if you feel like you are going to gag you should try to swallow or something?. Is that what you're referring to? Thanks for the input ladies! __________________ My life is one of those 'you had to be there' jokes.

08-19-2006, 07:51 PM	#8 (permalink)
pornclerk Insane Location: Ontario, Canada	There is this stuff you can get in most sex stores called "Good Head" cream. You put it on the penis before giving a blow job. They come in flavours like mint, cherry, and cinnamon. The cream is supposed to help numb the gag reflex. I've tried it before and it seems to work well. Maybe it would work for you. __________________ Who wants a twig when you can have the whole tree?

08-19-2006, 11:12 PM	#9 (permalink)
Lindy Junkie	It helps me for the penis to be really hard. If it isn't "rock hard" it can bend instead of going down. That makes the gagging worse for me. Lindy

08-20-2006, 08:20 PM	#11 (permalink)
Sage hoarding all the big girl panties since 2005 Location: North side	Oh yeah, I also recommend Sweeten'd Blow - it's like Good Head but I find it to be palateable and not feel or taste wierd in my mouth. __________________ Sage knows our mythic history, King Arthur's and Sir Caradoc's She answers hard acrostics, has a pretty taste for paradox She quotes in elegiacs all the crimes of Heliogabalus In conics she can floor peculiarities parabolous -C'hi

08-24-2006, 07:57 PM	#13 (permalink)
Lady Sage Mistress of Mayhem Location: Canton, Ohio	I learned to deep throat by practicing on fudgecicles. It helps to numb and ease into the sensation. Before long youll be a pro.

08-31-2006, 01:26 PM	#14 (permalink)
amonkie Drifting Administrator Location: Windy City	Posted on behalf of a male member taken from "unsafe sex products" <http://www.tinynibbles.com/unsafe.html>) "Anal-Eze can really hurt you. Lubricants with benzocaine, and numbing agents such as Anal-Eze, "good head gel" and desensitizing creams contain oils, flavors and colorings, and they are very unsafe. Numbing the back of your throat, the penis, the vagina, and especially the anus can lead to serious injury and infections that can (and often) land users in the doctor's office or ER. Think: you can't feel the skin breaking or tearing, and if it's the anus, there's fecal bacteria. When you can't feel pain, you are getting injured, period. Pain sucks, but it's an important tool during anal play, telling you something's not right. If it hurts you're either going too fast, you need more lube, the item is too big, you're not aroused enough, or you're not really in the mood. And when I researched my fellatio book, I communicated briefly with a dentist who'd seen signifigant bruising inside the throat of a female patient -- again, just think about it." __________________ Calling from deep in the heart, from where the eyes can't see and the ears can't hear, from where the mountain trails end and only love can go... ~~~ Three Rivers Hare Krishna

09-21-2006, 04:19 PM	#16 (permalink)
Starkizzer Hi floor! Make me a samwich. Location: Ontario (in the stray cat complex)	I always seem to have an easier time at it when I'm REALLY into it. My guy kinda curves down so that helps as well. Definately find an angle that works best for you. Lots of saliva and practice help as well. I'm able to get it so my lips are touching the skin above his member now and I can stay down for longer too but in the beginning not so much. I know you can do it! I have a really small mouth and that was difficult in the begining(scraping). __________________ Frivolity, at the edge of a Moral Swamp, hears Hymn-Singing in the Distance and dons the Galoshes of Remorse. ~Edward Gorey