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Can you tell if a girl is faking or not?

My Girl has told me that she has faked a few with me, and I couldn't tell back then..

This question came about from my brothers GF who's living with us at the mo.. she just asked and I told her it was kinda hard if you don't know what you're looking for..

Ahh well.. just want to know from the rest of the world

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Slims

umm, yes, I hope.
With one of my girlfriends, she couldn't possibly have faked. Her breathing got irregular, and she clenched up and...spasomed in a way that I am positive she couldn't have done deliberately.

With my current girlfriend, I can usually tell, but with her the line between pleasure and orgasm is sometimes blurry. She is self conscious though, so I dont think she could make herself do the things she does while she is coming.

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TrollInvestigtr

I have never been with a girl that has faked it, so I probably wouldn't be able to tell.

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troit

what do I care --- I cum!







































j/k -- I'm sure there are plenty of times when I wanted to have sex and she wasn't in the mood and she fakes it just to hurry things along. I suppose its just one of those facts of life....

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bobmsmythe

I make sure girls tell me what's going on down there. I think I would be able to tell but I keep communication lines open anyway...

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mtsgsd

I've never been with a woman who hasn't had intense, eye-poping, muscle twitching orgasms that just couldn't be faked. I don't think anyone could have that kind of control over their muscles to fake a good one.

Bill O'Rights

Just as there are better liars than others, there are better fakers than others. I'm sure I've been fooled a time or two in my day.

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billege

I am absolutely sure I've been fooled. I'd like to think I can tell, but there is a problem. Sometimes she DID when I didn't think so. So, basically I have no freaking idea what she's up to, that's why communication is SOOOO important.

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BoCo

No woman has ever had a reason to fake it while she was with me.

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I'd love to be all macho and say, "Nope, every woman's been completely satisfied." However, I'll just say that, if it's a good enough act, I've probably fallen for it.

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my wife didn't know anything about orgasms before since she was a virgin when we met... she didn't know that she could orgasm until one day she said,"Stop I'm gonna pee!" I didn't.. and she came. She now knows all the pleasures of orgasms. I did that again to her recently and she learned a more satifying orgasm... the squirt.

she doesn't fake them...

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suviko

Never has a man said to me "you faked, right?" and sure, I've done it plenty of times, just cos I've wanted to have sex but then been unable to climax or cos I've seen it will take a whole year and I have to run to work or something. Or with real asshole one night stands, who had the same attitude BoCo here is displaying and when they couldn't do things so that I'd really enjoy it, I faked cos their little egoes couldn't have taken it to hear from a stranger that "sorry, this is not just working out and I usually can came as long as I have a big hard prick between my legs, so it is your fault, not mine."

The best scenario is that people can trust each other enuff to tell things straight, but I don't see what's wrong with sometimes faking it so that your partner can enjoy sex fully when you suddenly lose the mood. It's bad when you fake categorically and then your partner thinks he's a hunk and doesn't take a hint when you try to tell him what to do.

But thenagain, my second boyfrind ever was a "virgin" and I couldn't tell and my current bf has faked orgasm with me. Yeah, I could tell atleast that once and he blushed. (It was after he had gotten several times that day and couldn't come anymore but didn't want to back down and admit it's impossible.)


Oh, OH! Had to edit this post cos I just remembered something! My bf was with this teenager girl and she acted all horny and stuff, but then I knew she's a total faker when he told me he had massaged her pussy through jeans and panties and she could come real hard and loud. Men believe all kind of crap..

cheezdip

Golden... your type a lot right? then you've got nice dexterous fingers. just give it up to the c-spot the whole time. it requires a bit more effort, but she won't be faking.

Amaras

You know, I'm sure have faked it with me, but not often. Why not often, because I make an effort to communicate as much as possible. I understand Suviko's point about how it may take forever sometimes. Also, in my experience women are not always looking to orgasm EVERY time.
As to men's egos not being up to admitting that they can't get a woman to orgasm every time, well, I've faked and ehen I've been caught, the girl almost always freaks out. Until I explain to her why I faked, of course. COMMUNICATION is KEY!!

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blindawg

I'd like to think I've never been lied to . Then again I never ask. I put everything I can into the act and I'm pretty confident that I do a good job. Is there room for improvement, I'm sure. Did I make every woman I was with come every time. I highly doubt it.

But I tried damn it..

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snowy

It's not hard to fake an orgasm. The harder part of faking is the muscle control, but even I have that down to a fine art if necessary. I faked quite a bit when I first started having sex, simply because I COULDN'T, for whatever reason, actually orgasm. But now...wow...it's no problem. But at least I have that skill as a back-up.

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Minx

Luckily I don't have to fake it with the person I'm with.

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suviko

Yeah, me too. Took three years from when I started having sex to actually come. Sex is fun even without Big O, but I think men can't understand it as it is easer and more automatical for them to come. My first boyfriend bullshitted me that he feels physical pain if hard on goes away without him cumming to give me a guilt trip and get me to atleast jerk off.

If I can't get with a man for some reason, I use my fingers after he has had. *shrug* They don't whine, usually ask can they do something to help.

BBtB

My question to woman the fake is this... why? I mean there are really only two scenarios that might involve faking.. one is the one night stand. Why do you care if you hurt a one night stands feeling? The second is the more long term relationship. Now you might consider his feelings but why do you keep letting him do things that do not satisfy you? First step is TELL him what you want to do. I mean I can understand faking from time to time (namely just if you have something to do/just get bored) but its the woman that fake all the time that get me. As far as does it bother me? No, I figure its their problem. I WOULD try to please them if I knew I was not doing so now but if they make me think I am then I have no problem.

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suviko

..and BBtB goes on a whining spree..?

[QUOTE]Originally posted by BBtB
Why do you care if you hurt a one night stands feeling?

He might have been a nice person up untill then and when you see his ego is bigger than his performance, you don't still feel like pissing him off. Imagine being a female, naked, with a trange men, and then saying something that might potentially piss him off bad enough to get agressive. Sounds smart? Why not fake and get rid of it fasta and clean? Really, do try to position yourself in that scenario. Even if the man is not physically threatening, the situation usually gets uglyer if you say thinks out loud. Oftentimes onenighters are not random people from a bat but coworkers and friends of friends so that you might have to deal with them after you've put your clothes back on. No point in getting yourself into situation where you can't look at that other people's face afterwards.

... but its the woman that fake all the time that get me.

Yeah, me too. It sucks that there's men who say "oh, I get ladies where they wanna go Every Time!" I don't know is it that women are afraid to confes to these nice fellas that they are not as special as they think or is it the other way around that women have been acting so long that men think they are real studs. *shrug* Prolly there's many sorts of stories. So why do we care who have a sexually working relationship?

G_Whiz

I know that my wife has faked orgasms before. That was back when we were first married and she wanted to make me feel like her hero.

Over the years we've gotten beyond that. When she's sure that she isn't going to make it over the top, she'll tell me and encourages me to finish. If she doesn't, I keep trying until we're both frustrated. I like her to orgasm and she's like for me to, so we try not to disappoint each other. And for those who will ask, I do tell her if I'm having problems reaching orgasm. It doesn't happen often, but it does happen.

One of the problems with this issue is that it usually easy and pretty automatic for a guy to cum, but it isn't always that easy for the woman. I don't know how much of that is anatomical and how much is psychological. I imagine that varies from woman to woman.

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Arock

I can tell when she had an orgasm. It's a fool-proof method that everyone can learn. After we have sex I say, "did you cum?" and if she says "Yes" I know that she had one. If she says, "No" then I know that she didn't.
If she says no then I'll figure out if it was performance related or she just wasn't up for it. My girlfriend doesn't fake it because there's no reason to.

Also, when she cums she ejaculates a little- pretty much a no-brainer.

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Frowning Budah

I bet I could be fooled, but I appreciate the consideration if that's what it was. Hell I have even faked it.

platypus

Has she ever faked it? Naahhh. Never....

But I have. ;-)

Now that takes talent.

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