My Grandmother passed away last night.

[K-Wise]

We had just gotten home when recieved the call that she had passed just minutes before we walked into the door. I think she was 86...my mom can't remember right now. I'm not really all that bummed out about it right now. The shock of it all hasn't really HIT me yet. It's definitely gonna hit me come time to visit family and go the funeral. The only thing thats bugging me right now is that I never even had a conversation with her. I can't speak spanish....it's mostly my parents fault but I am 20 years old now maybe if I had really tried I could have learned it fluently by now. I knew nothing about her other than she was my mothers mother and she married my Grandfather. Thats almost the gist of it. She was really old though so it's probably for the best. My Grandfather died not too long ago as well. I believe it was last year. I'm bad at keeping track of time. I only have 1 Grandparent left and thats my other Grandma on my fathers side whom I've also never had a conversation with for the very same reason. As for my other Grandpa I don't even know who he is or if he's even still alive cause my dad never knew him. I'ma be aight though it's just a little well I don't wanna say unexpected because she was old and worse..senile but you know what I mean.

Asta!!

[inharmony]

Sorry to hear about your loss.

[Baldrick]

I am truly sorry to hear that K... I'm dreading my Grandmother going (she's 89 and not in the best health), so it bothers me to read this. I know, selfish, but Grandma Hall has been my driving force for most/all of my life.

[K-Wise]

I can totally understand that. But now my Grandmother and my Grandfather are re-united again :')

Asta!!

[Glava]

My grandmother died on June 14th of this year, and today would be her 70th birthday. She was pretty close, and I saw her at least once a week. I imagine it must be easier for you since you weren't that close. I hope you're ok.

[SiN]

Originally Posted by K-Wise

..But now my Grandmother and my Grandfather are re-united again :')

that's how I looked at it when my mom's mom died a few years ago. She was so lonely without my grandfather.

[K-Wise]

Well we were close I mean I used to go over to her house all the time when I was younger. She used to make us stacks of home-made Tortillas with butter until we couldn't eat another bite..and then continue to give us more. So yeah we were close...she loved me I loved her but I just couldn't really communicate with her without someone else there to translate.

Asta!!

[Esco]

I was in a similar situation. My father's parents do/did not speak English either. My memories of them include many awkward moments of silence and even times of embarrassment ... on my side, for not being able to understand Spanish. When most of the extended family spoke and understand Spanish and you don't it's very easy to feel left out.

My grandmother passed away last november. She had been ill for a while and I had visited her in October. I brought my first child to her so that she could pray over her and bless her. We didn't get to really talk but it didn't stop me from spending time with her. Before I left, I was able to tell her I loved her and that I cared for her ... and you know what, she understood me perfectly. That made up for everything I was never able to tell her.

[omega2K4]

It won't really hit you till the funeral. Then the waterworks usually begin.

[Shizukana]

I'm sorry for your loss.

I'd have to agree with omega's assessment - the funeral is when it starts to become more of a reality...well... if you're not directly involved with funeral arrangements.

[pan6467]

You have my deepest condolences.

I know my grandmother is 93 and she is getting weaker. Even tho I am prepared as well as possible, when the time comes I'll be devestated because I have always been very close to her.

Take care and remember her fondly and try to smile, that's the best tribute to her you can give.

[lurkette]

I'm sorry, hon Loss is always hard, and regardless of whether you could speak the same language, you still communicated your love for each other. I wish you healing.

[hiredgun]

I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. My own grandmother has been losing the fight against Alzheimer's - she's still alive, but not really there anymore.

I hope you're able to heal. Your grandmother wouldn't have wished you sorrow on her behalf.

[K-Wise]

It won't really hit you till the funeral. Then the waterworks usually begin.

When my Grandfather passed not too long ago it pretty much hit me right away...I mean not RIGHT away because I was asleep in my dorm room when I got the call early that day. So I sat up and sat there for a while thinking about it and then before I knew it the tears just started comin down...then we went to the hospital and I saw him...it was horrible..I wasn't ready for that. Not at all. Of course I was actually in town then so that mighta had something to do with it. I also talked to my Grandfather because he spoke english. He'd usually just bounce me on his knee and tell me to be a good boy. It really was her time though. She had Alzheimer's, she was a little senile, she didn't eat she got fed food through IV's, she had to wear diapers, and she slept a lot. That on top of having to be alone after my Grandfather went so it was really more of a blessing. We head out home (I call it home) tommorow. I have to be a pall bearer (sp?) again. I was for my Grandfather as well.

Asta!!

[guthmund]

Sorry to hear that.

It's hard to lose family even after a long battle with illness and like you said, it sounded like it was just her time and she's probably a lot happier now.

It's good that your going to the services. It's important to be there for the living as well as the deceased.

Blessings on you and your family.

[denim]

Originally Posted by K-Wise

The only thing thats bugging me right now is that I never even had a conversation with her. I can't speak spanish....it's mostly my parents fault but I am 20 years old now maybe if I had really tried I could have learned it fluently by now.

As a 20 yo, you're your own person now. If you want to talk with your one remaining grandparent, get started on the ol' Espanol. It's useful around the USA these days, and should be easy to find someone to learn from.

[ShaniFaye]

Im so sorry to hear that sweetie.....even though you couldnt speak the language at least you DO have some fond memories to keep with you...*hugs*

[Neptune]

My grandmother passed away last year, and she was the first of my 4 grandparents to go. Yes, I am lucky to have them live so long, but having her go first just made it harder to deal with.
Her birthday was 29th of september which is the day after mine, so we used to all get together then. Birthdays are now hard to handle for me, as is Christmas.
But she's no longer in pain

Sorry to hear of your loss, trust me it gets easier with time.

[skills1]

Sorry for your loss.

[K-Wise]

She went in her sleep which was good. The service was nice. Seeing family is always great too. They entombed her in a beautiful tomb...it's lined in a tar like substance (but that didn't take away from the beauty) and a vaccum seal so that nothing can enter the coffin. The weight of the dirt seals it so nothings getting in there including moisture. The coffin itself was also beautiful it had a mural on the inside of the lid with John 3:16 airbrushed onto it. That was her favorite scripture. The lid to the tomb or whatever it's called was a really beautiful picture of the sky. Thanx for showing support and all. Have a lovely day

Asta!!

[bonehed1]

I think you should yell at your parents for being retarded for not teaching you spanglish.....you may have actually had some meaningful conversations with your grandparents but now you will never know......