ShaniFaye

Wasnt entirely sure where to put this...so mods please move if its better in another place.


It seems a LOT of us here have some really stable long term relationships going on right now...so I thought maybe we could list some of those little things we do for our other half that might inspire some of the people in newer relationships to do some things they hadnt thought of before.

Mine...Dave goes out of town or out of the country a lot for his job. He'll be leaving me for 10 days very soon to go to Germany. I do something for him while he's gone that means an awful lot to him....I bought a spiral bound notebook that I carry around with me the entire time he's gone and I write him kind of an ongoing journal of what Im doing...what Im thinking at the moment, tell him how much he means to me...how much I miss him...tell him about those funny little moments that I might not think to tell him about later on etc. He loves coming home and reading it and then being able to reread it later and I'm pretty sure he considers it one of his most treasured posessions

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bigoldalphamale

still bring her a dozen roses every week on a random weekday.

drive nicely while she is in the car...even though it PAINS me to drive slow and safe.

unoaman

Anitra could probably say better than I, but try to always be there for her. To celebrate victorys, and mourn losses with her. Never hurts to bring her that first cup of coffee in the morning, or slip in and wash up the dishes. always happy to fix a meal...she is even starting to like some of it! Talk a lot, laugh a lot...very important to both of us.

Carno

ShaniFaye - that is an awesome thing to do!

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lurkette

I like to buy him little just-because treats when I'm out grocery shopping, things he probably wouldn't buy for himself that I know he'll enjoy. Used to be marshmallow peeps or swedish fish, but now that he's on Atkins, it's steak cutlets with feta, spinach and pine nuts, or some low-carb ice cream.

Sometimes before I leave for a long business trip I'll hide a sweet card under his pillow, or in his book where he'll find it.

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ironman

i'm taking your advice sir

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clavus

flowers. lots of flowers. Flowers for no reason other than I love her.

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Casus Belli

I usually come home a bit earlier off work and baffle her with my cooking skills...

i'ts all in the little things!

(apart from the obscenely expensive and rather unsuspectedly timed presents once in a while....)

Rubyee

Back rubs, pedicures, and washing his hair for him. That is really all I can think of right now. Maybe I need to do more.

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MooseMan3000

About a week ago she told me she had a craving for "M&Ms with peanut butter." So next time I see her, I'm going to surprise her with that. I'm sure she'll have forgotten that she said it by now, but not that she likes it.

She also likes to play Super Nintendo games on her laptop with an emulator. So I bought her a USB game controller one day. I also picked the one that felt the most comfortable (spent about half an hour in Best Buy deciding), and made sure to avoid the PS2 style controllers (because once she told me that she hates the feel of them).

I just remember little things and remind her of them once she's forgotten she told me. It goes a long way.

Paq

I booked my angel..(well, she's not a significant other right now bc she's dating, but someone i cared for and still care for when we are together), a spa appointment with a body massage and accupressure scalp massage at the most exclusive spa in manhattan Does that count?

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The Phenomenon

We also do that. Whenever i am out of town/country we keep a little journal for eachother so that we can know what went on in eachothers lives those days. Another thing we do is also when we go away is we write eachother a little letter for every day that we are going to be apart. Then we are not allowed to read ahead. Gives you something to look forward to every day.

Another things is I take her someplace nice every 13th of the month. I told her I love her on the 13th of July, and we celebrate it once a month.

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MaGlC_MaN

lately i've been trying to keep her beatings/lashes down to once or twice a day. once you get in the teens it starts to wear you out.

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WHEN I have a girlfriend, I like to surprise her with flowers and gifts at work. When I take her out to a show or a game, I always get the best possible seats. I also love giving massages.

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unoaman

Absolutely beautiful...bet you are really good to her when you sober up now and then...

Oh, as a special reward, might try trading the handcuffs for some rope...

Rlyss

I assume this is a thread about the things you do for them, whether or not they really notice? Apart from a nice phone message every now and then, I:

- If she cooks I always tell her I love it, and although she often knows I'm having fun, she also knows that I absolutely love her cooking. If I pay her a complement, and she passes it off as a joke, I'll let her know that I really mean it.

- I make sure the shower's the right temperature first, and then let her in first. I get out of the shower first and hold a towel out, ready to wrap around her and give her a big bear hug when she steps out. Every time.

- I always give her a lollipop (Americans call them suckers?) if I go over to her house to pick her up.

- I keep her computer free of viruses and spyware, although it always seems to come back again a few days later, no matter how foolproof I make it...

- I re-adjust her seat/steering wheel/mirrors when I'm finished driving her car.

That's all I can think of at the moment.

NoSoup

Y'know, a while back I was talking with a co-worker of mine and she said that she had her lunch on the counter before heading to work, and her boyfriend (whom she lives with) put a banana on top.

It shames me to say that I never, ever, ever would have thought of doing that had I been in his shoes...

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cdnjeepin

nothing, my SO is attached to my left and right arms at the moment..

When I was Married stuff like flowers to work, make dinner..stuff like that..

jdubz

She goes to work 3rd shift and goes to school, so, I do the laundry, dishes, clean the house, and take care of the girl.


Damn I'm tired..........................is that enough or I need to do more?

repeater

My gf and I did the journal thing too. We were in college so she'd write in it when we were together and then I'd write in it when we were apart. It was a great thing. Plus the littlest things make the best gifts, something taken out of a magazine or newspaper, little notes just for fun, flowers for no reason, whatever

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quadro2000

Some of the things I do, I'd rather not mention here - they're kinda between us and I feel like it may cheapen it...but I will share two.

- I tell her I love her multiple times a day
- We leave each other notes on the bathroom mirror if we're getting up at different times, or getting home late.

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macmanmike6100

Try my damnest to remember the little things she wishes she had...then getting them for her.

On one end of the spectrum, a $300 purse. On the other, an unexpected kiss.

Windbreaker

this is great stuff...

One thing I always did was pay for my girlfriends lunch at school just about everyday. Suprised her with small gifts from time to time..

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anti fishstick

-i've washed his dishes a couple times.. even though they don't seem to do much good :P

-We share a notebook journal that I wrote on everyday on my trip to the Philippines. He was able to read it when I got back.

-Little emails day to day if I know I won't be able to talk with him until later.

-I always call him every night at 9 (if we're not together that is) and we talk for at least 3
hours.

-Sometimes, I'll buy him a book or something I know he'd like. No particular occassion. Just want to do something nice.

-Massages

-Pay for his dinner. We'll buy eachother things and pay eachother back by treating eachother.

-Just little considerate things.. Like making sure I ate the strawberry yogurt in the fridge first after we went grocery shopping because he's allergic to strawberries.

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hunnychile

Unexpected back rubs - when he's feeling tired or achey.

Bake a special dessert (that he loves, like strawberry shortcake)when he's coming home later than usual.

Wake him up in the morning with a special surprise bj!

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spindles

well, my wife and I have just had a baby - this is the kinda time where the little things count. Taking an extra feed because I see she is tired, getting her tea and toast in bed in the morning.

I think this is kinda working both ways - she is out now and I am having a "child free day" to get some work done.