sky_driver

I just came back from meeting my wife and her mother for lunch and nearly freaked when I saw what she was wearing, or not wearing. She had on a thin shirt that made it obvious that she was not wearing a bra. When I told her that you could see the darkness of her nipples, it did not seem to phase her. Even more so was the fact that she would wear such a top in public, and with her mother. I will admit that she does prefer to not wear a bra, but usually it is not so noticable. I am wondering if I should say something when I get home.

erion

Did you ever for a moment consider she did it because she would be seeing you at lunch time?

Don't always assume the worst. . .

DelayedReaction

If you're not comfortable with it, then talk it over and reach a compromise. Many people (myself included) don't think of it as a big deal, but you have a right to voice your concerns.

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ARTelevision

This would be a matter of discussion between you two people.

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Nazggul

First off I'll agree with Delayed, if it bothers you you should talk to her about it and let her know. Honest communication is always best.

However, letting her know how you feel and telling her how to dress are definitely two different things. Don't expect that she should change her behavior just because you object to it. She is her own person and married or not she has a right to dress and present herself any way she sees fit, as do you.

Is this style of dress something new? Did she not dress this way before you were married? If she did then you can't expect her to change simply because she is now married. If not and this is something new then you need to talk about it and determine for yourself if it is something you can live with if she decides not to change.

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clavus

Say "Thanks. You are a beautiful woman. I'm glad that you are comfortable with your body. I'm comfortable with the fact that you are my wife; and anyone who may be looking at you with a lusty eye is shit out of luck, because I'm the only guy who gets to touch you. Go make me a sandwich."

On seond thought, skip that last part.

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maleficent

Does it bother you that she was dressed like that? Why?

She's a sexy woman, enjoy it....

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absorbentishe

If it's not normal, maybe she was trying to spice things up for you! I try to talk my wife into doing that, but she won't, period. Oh well...

sky_driver

Thanks for everyones comments. I guess I was more suprised by her comment that she did not think it was so noticable, as well as her wearing such a thin shirt with her mother. As far as her wearing it for me, she did not know I was going to call her for lunch. She just happend to be out with her mother shopping when I called. I guess I should not make a big deal out of it.

Averett

If it's going to bother you, talk to her about it. Its better to get it out now than to let it fester.

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slimpi66y

1) pack your belongings, essentials and golf clubs
2) set up camp near couch or basement, ensure proper supply of beer inventory is available
3) speak to wife regarding the lesser garment today
4) note to self not to do such stupid thing again

water_boy1999

I know where you are coming from, even though I am not married. It happened to a friend of mine who is married. He noticed his wife starting to wear things that were more revealing than he was used to. When he brought it up, they did eventually have a big fight about it because he was wondering why she sought attention from men by exposing more of her breasts when she never did before.

Is this what you are feeling? Do you think this is some new way for her to be noticed by the opposite sex?

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Blackthorn

Here here!!! I love this!!!! Go make me a "SAMICH"!!!

Hey let me ask you this...does she look good that way? I agree with clavus. Compliment your wife and thank her for being the confident woman that married YOU!

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OFKU0

It could be worse. Instead of lunch with you and her mother she could be getting banged by some young strapping Spanish buck with a foot long dong.

Maybe she just wants your attention. Could be her way of showing you she ain't getting enough. (Notices Spanish dude around corner flexing muscles and eating a breath mint).

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SecretMethod70

I'm still trying to see the problem More people should wear thin tops with no bra.

Anyways, if it really bothers you, tell your wife how you feel and seek a compromise if necessary. I think if you think about it, it was probably more of an issue of surprise than there actually being a problem. Like clavus said, be happy that YOU have such a sexy, confident wife and not some other guy

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Delvid

I would talk to her and say thank you.

sky_driver

When I got home, my wife told me she did not realize how noticable she was. When she got dressed, she did not realize how revealing her top was. After lunch, her mother even made a comment. Needless to say, she was quite embarassed.

World's King

Don't ruin it for the rest of us.

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SixEdxMia

Maybe she just wanted you to notice eh? 0-o

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bernadette

no doubt she looks awesome in whatever she wears.
but... is she clearly aware of the leering eyes?
does she really want to provoke such attention?
is she prepared for the possible odd (aka pervy) attention?

curious... how old is she?

personally myself, i think unless you're soliciting certain public attention, you should save that sort of dress style for private parties.
i have no issues with the human form being on display, but i do have problems with creepy sickos.
i think she should be careful.

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CheeseButtons

This thread is useless without pix

haha j/k

If it bothers you, address it...don't let it build up stress.

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timalkin

I wouldn't be comfortable at all if my wife wore something like that. I know it'd end up as a fight, but I just wouldn't like the idea of some asshole lusting after my wife. I don't find that flattering at all.

crow_daw

Ain't gonna lie to you, brother, I would be mad.

I even realize myself that it isn't right that I should be mad, but I know that I would be. I'm the insanely jealous type, and I know that it's not good, but that's how I am and it can't be helped.

That being said, after you said that she didn't realize how revealing it was, and that she felt bad, then I would be calmed. But if my wife started doing that on purpose, I would be upset. That's for me to see and no one else, IMHO.

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snoop

I would have taken her home and given her a good seeing to

but that's just me

SnOoP

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analog

lol

John Falcon

Sounds like she was repaying you for being stuck seeing her mother.

Menoman

BZZZZZTT.

If your married, you should think of your partner when you dress, your shouldnt be running around like your trying to impress other people, in anyway except, Wow nice clothes.


Which... umm see through shirts might give an impression but not that kind.

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I personally think its nasty for girls not to wear bra's, that just my opinion. If I had a wife, I'd let her know I don't like it and I would want her to stop doing it. Around the house, whatever, do what you want to, but I keep myself looking classy for 1) myself and 2) my SO. She will do the same.


(Edit: I'm just adding this little bit because I reread that and it sounds chauvanist, I am not married, so if my g/f didnt have the respect to listen to what I have to say about her attire I can do something about it, if your married on the other hand. Its more of a communications thing.)

While I'm on the subject, I dated a girl once who didnt like wearing bra's, I let her know I didn't like it in a nice way, not like I said "Don't do it, I don't like it and thats final."

Anyway, she kept on doing it, and she would flaunt it in front of me like she was saying " HAH I don't have to listen to you I'm my own person blah blah "

It really annoys me when women do that kind of thing. It's not commanding them to do it. You just asked, and nicely at that. So take offense to it and act like your superior to what I may want.

It's hard to explain I think I'm not fully getting across what I'm trying to say, if you read it and interpret it somehow that makes it sound like I'm trying to be dominant then thats not what I'm saying.

Hmm.. I guess the best way to put it is, they do it to piss you off in a "I'm my own person that you have no control over" Which is bullshit, a relationship takes 2 people.


((Damn, I guess that hit me kinda personal :P This post is mostly about my venting lol :P I'll seperate my response to the thread and my venting with a ---------------------------

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Speed_Gibson

If I was *shudder* married I would have no problem with my wife not wearing a bra. It is especially important when doing so to make sure the shirt/top of choice is not too transparent or likely to become nearly invisible when wet but oversights can occur.
Same would apply if me or the mythical spouse decided to go commando that day. It would be perfectly fine with me as long the clothes worn are reasonable and decent.

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Menoman

It's a relationship, If I were to rephrase your final sentence I think it should look like..

because I'm the only guy who gets to see/touch you because it's private.

Is it that much different if he were to show his dick off to women?

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Menoman

I agree, the only thing that my opinion differs, is that I do not like a women with no bra on, and I would ask her not to do it.

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cameroncrazy822

Consider yourself lucky fella... that's not a bad thing at all.

Hard8s

See, my wife does this all the time. I think she looks hot! I kind of wish more women did this. It shows off her assets and she is comfortable with her body. She works hard to make it look that way, and she appreciates the looks/comments she gets. She comes home to me, and makes me feel good too! I also like the way guys look when they see me watching them look at her. They get a kind of "Wow, she's hot" which changes to "Oh Shit, he saw me looking!" look on their face. Its hysterical. If she looks great then it reflects positively on me as well because she chooses to be with me.

I think you have no faith in your relationship if you have a problem with the way she dresses. If you can not be comfortable with other guys looking then you have a serios jealousy issue. Just think about the girls in Playboy and the like if their boyfriends/husbands didn't allow them to pose. What would you be looking at then?

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Menoman

Couldnt be farther from the truth. What your trying to say is that since your relationship works this way... all of them should work this way.

Not all guys want their girlfriends lusted after by other men, the naked body is a private visual meant only for lovers, not every tom dick and harry that wants to see my girlfriends fuckin titties

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Pragma

I've got the same viewpoint as you - whether she was doing it on purpose to impress sky_driver or not (and this case I believe he said she wasn't), there's nothing wrong with a beautiful woman displaying herself to the public a bit. As long as you trust that she's not going to cheat on you, what's wrong with her enjoying people looking and commenting at her beauty if it makes her feel good?

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viejo gringo

Yea, you will probably screw it up the next time and try to jump her bones....but I can tell you right now Denny's is going to kick your ass out for doing it right there on top of the table...

Maybe you should post a pic and let the good eyes of FTP evaluate the subject....

Esco

I agree. Obviously this guy has a problem with this so it's best that you discuss this honestly with her. It doesn't matter what her intentions were or that others don't have a problem with it. What matters is that the husband is uncomfortable with this and he should let his wife know about it ... instead of letting this fester in his mind.

scrooloose

That is hot and would have turned me on and not off. But to each his own.

Tinker

I go braless all the time, love the way it feels... my hubby has never said a thing, he mentions when I do wear a bra

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