Gay Messages in the Men's room. - Tilted Forum Project Discussion Community

Holo · 02-22-2004, 10:40 PM

Any guys ever wondered what prompted the rush of gay public bathroom messages starting about 16 years ago or so? I clearly remember it starting as a teenager where I lived and it continues to this day. Am I the only one who noticed this all of the sudden starting to happen? What do you think of it? And are there any lesbian messages in public Women's rooms?

In case you have no clue what I'm talking about, here are what I've been seeing in almost every public bathroom since about 1987:

Tap Foot for BJ...Show Hard

Want Head be in this stall 3:30Pm Wednesdays

I want to suck uncut cock (in the center of a heart shape no less)

and the funniest:

SIR! I'LL SUCK IT!!

SIR!!! GIMME YOUR GS* AND CUM!!!!!!

THANK YOU SIR!!!!!!!!!

I find them amusing but have wondered why the tell they just started showing up in mens's room as a teenager and persist to this day. You have any memorable gay personals in the men's rooms to share? Does this happen in your town or is it just the East Coast? I've lived in PA, VA, and FL and I've seen this everywhere I've lived.

*years later I found out this was Golden Showers.

Lebell · 02-22-2004, 11:31 PM

Well, hmmm.

I've seen a few "notices" but I've no desire to explore this particular sub-culture.

I guess interstate rest stops are supposed to be good places for this sort of activity, especially at night. But I also hear the cops know this too.

Fremen · 02-23-2004, 01:02 AM

<------doesn't *hang* out in public restrooms

bigbad · 02-23-2004, 01:51 AM

Until recently I always assumed it was some ass with a pen trying to be funny, like the dirty limericks or chicks' phone numbers

ladyadmin · 02-23-2004, 01:54 AM

Although this was a guys question, I thought I'd put in my 2 cents

Fortunate for me I've never been witness to such messages. I've only come across these ones:: "For a good time call, so and so, phone #", "So and so, gives good head", "So and so, likes so and so", "This teacher is a bitch/bastard"

aphex140 · 02-23-2004, 02:49 AM

While at uni I used to work at a amusement park. WE were alerted to the fact lots of gay men were meeeting in the toilets and 'performing'.
As tyou know the public toilet walls do not meet the ground so we were instucted to look at the feet in the cublicals.
This was do to parents lossing it over these going- on esp with kids around.

We then learnt to counter this one would stand in a platic bag so you could not see one pair of feet.

WTF toilets are bad at the worst of times and during the day to meet and 'perform 'in them is horrid, not a turn on.

I got stroppy as it is unfair that children get exposed to this.

SecretMethod70 · 02-23-2004, 02:49 AM

Just in case you or anyone else isn't aware, those ARE real. I personally know people who have run into those situations on accident.

hu-man · 02-23-2004, 03:59 AM

I read some stories from a guy who used to work in a large bookstore, and one guy was known to write these sorts of messages, and one time he even drilled a hole in one of the stalls. The management then decided to block the hole with a steel plate, and the guy then wrote, in permanent marker, "Was this really necessary?"
My immediate response would be to write "Oh yeah."

Bill O'Rights · 02-23-2004, 05:50 AM

I guess it takes all kinds. I'm not gay, but I know that I sure as hell wouldn't be stickin' "Lil' Bill" into any woman that acknowledged a bathroom stall "request". I can't imagine that a gay man would be any more inclined to do so. Somehow I don't think that it's a "gay thing", so much as it's a "sick thing". My opinion...my $.02.

aurigus · 02-23-2004, 06:21 AM

Those messages are messed up; I don't get it. I guess if you feel repressed you have to take it up somewhere, public bathrooms present a psuedo-anonymous way to do this? At least I'm guessing. Ever see Dumb and Dumber? Funny scene in that movie about gay messages in the bathroom.

I noticed these a lot more in public restrooms at my college, but they are everywhere (I'm in PA). Agree with others this is an extremely dirty practice... but what can you really do to stop it?

Charlatan · 02-23-2004, 06:31 AM

This has been going on for a lot more than 16 years... Holo, you probably only started noticing the messages when you became a teenager and knew what you were looking at.

Anonymous sex with many different partners would have been no problem before the 80s (ie before AIDS).

usualsuspect · 02-23-2004, 06:47 AM

I ran into one of these situations as a teenager by accident one day in the public restroom at Sears when I used to work there. I was on the toilet and notice all these "messages". Next thing I know there is an eyeball looking through a small hole in the stall at me and mumbles something.

Needless to say I started flipping out. I should have busted the door down, and stomped this dude. I didn't tell anyone as I was too embarassed. Man, i had the sickest feeling in my stomach the rest of the day.

Oh well, now I look back on it and laugh. Freaks!

Cynthetiq · 02-23-2004, 07:08 AM

hmmm.... George Michael knows all about those things.. maybe he'll write a song about it.

ladyadmin · 02-23-2004, 10:25 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by Cynthetiq
hmmm.... George Michael knows all about those things.. maybe he'll write a song about it.

Just because George Michaels is gay he automatically knows about these things?

Holo · 02-23-2004, 10:35 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by ladyadmin
Just because George Michaels is gay he automatically knows about these things?

IIRC he got busted for blowing a guy in a public restroom.

pocon1 · 02-23-2004, 10:36 AM

No, Ladyadmin, he was arrested for performing fellatio on a guy in a nightclub.

Kaos · 02-23-2004, 05:19 PM

Rest stops on the highway are famous for homosexual activity and messages like that in the stalls.

I have a couple friends who are truckers and through communication with other Truckers on the CB, they know which stops are to be avoided if they don't want to accidentally end up in an awkward situation.

runawayfetus · 02-23-2004, 05:31 PM

yea i always thought the messages were just from some dorks trying to me badass and scratching rude remarks on the doors... i never thought of them as actually being gay

santafe5000 · 02-23-2004, 05:57 PM

It is a shame that anyone deems it necessary to mark on, write on or otherwise deface property like that. I have seen a lot of it lately myself and find it totally disgusting. A some point, young children will use these facilities and be subjected to this. Also, the costs involved in removing the graffitti from these places has to come from taxes.

bacon_masta · 02-23-2004, 06:02 PM

only really interesting one i've seen lately is in the mensroom where i work, and it just says "mcdonalds is gay"

rs8001 · 02-23-2004, 06:09 PM

Yeah, I agree it amounts to vandalism. How many more times do I have to see the "ON" scracthed out from the word "BUTTON" on hand dryers? That wasn't funny when I was ten. Who does that?

I used to travel a lot by car and never paid much attention the the notes. It bothers me a lot when there are holes drilled in the stalls often the one next to the urinals. I always stuff toilet paper into them.

H12 · 02-23-2004, 06:28 PM

I've only seen the "Call ###-#### and ask for _____" messages. I try to call them and, depending of my mood, either mess with them or inform them of how I got their number so they can do somethign about it if they wish.

cleanx · 02-23-2004, 06:31 PM

i use to write ass-here on toilet seats
good times

twilightfoix · 02-23-2004, 06:56 PM

always thought is was someone just trying to be funny. but just imagine the look on someone's face that reads one that says be in this stall at 11pm 2/23/04 for wild animal anal sex and he realizes that its 11pm 2/23/04. i see why someone would do it, but only if they don't have a life.

02-22-2004, 10:40 PM	#1 (permalink)
Holo A Real American	Gay Messages in the Men's room. Any guys ever wondered what prompted the rush of gay public bathroom messages starting about 16 years ago or so? I clearly remember it starting as a teenager where I lived and it continues to this day. Am I the only one who noticed this all of the sudden starting to happen? What do you think of it? And are there any lesbian messages in public Women's rooms? In case you have no clue what I'm talking about, here are what I've been seeing in almost every public bathroom since about 1987: Tap Foot for BJ...Show Hard Want Head be in this stall 3:30Pm Wednesdays I want to suck uncut cock (in the center of a heart shape no less) and the funniest: SIR! I'LL SUCK IT!! SIR!!! GIMME YOUR GS* AND CUM!!!!!! THANK YOU SIR!!!!!!!!! I find them amusing but have wondered why the tell they just started showing up in mens's room as a teenager and persist to this day. You have any memorable gay personals in the men's rooms to share? Does this happen in your town or is it just the East Coast? I've lived in PA, VA, and FL and I've seen this everywhere I've lived. *years later I found out this was Golden Showers. __________________ I happen to like the words "fuck", "cock", "pussy", "tits", "cunt", "twat", "shit" and even "bitch". As long as I am not using them to describe you, don't go telling me whether or not I can/should use them...that is, if you want me to continue refraining from using them to describe you. ~Prince

02-22-2004, 11:31 PM	#2 (permalink)
Lebell Cracking the Whip Location: Sexymama's arms...	Well, hmmm. I've seen a few "notices" but I've no desire to explore this particular sub-culture. I guess interstate rest stops are supposed to be good places for this sort of activity, especially at night. But I also hear the cops know this too. __________________ "Of all tyrannies, a tyranny exercised for the good of its victims may be the most oppressive. It may be better to live under robber barons than under omnipotent moral busybodies. The robber baron's cruelty may sometimes sleep, his cupidity may at some point be satiated; but those who torment us for our own good will torment us without end, for they do so with the approval of their own conscience." – C. S. Lewis The ONLY sponsors we have are YOU! Please Donate!

02-23-2004, 01:02 AM	#3 (permalink)
Fremen With a mustache, the cool factor would be too much Location: left side of my couch, East Texas	<------doesn't hang out in public restrooms __________________ Google

02-23-2004, 01:54 AM	#5 (permalink)
ladyadmin Insane	Although this was a guys question, I thought I'd put in my 2 cents Fortunate for me I've never been witness to such messages. I've only come across these ones:: "For a good time call, so and so, phone #", "So and so, gives good head", "So and so, likes so and so", "This teacher is a bitch/bastard" __________________ The Programmers' Cheer Shift to the left, shift to the right! Pop up, push down, byte, byte, byte!

02-23-2004, 02:49 AM	#6 (permalink)
aphex140 Psycho Location: northamptonshire	While at uni I used to work at a amusement park. WE were alerted to the fact lots of gay men were meeeting in the toilets and 'performing'. As tyou know the public toilet walls do not meet the ground so we were instucted to look at the feet in the cublicals. This was do to parents lossing it over these going- on esp with kids around. We then learnt to counter this one would stand in a platic bag so you could not see one pair of feet. WTF toilets are bad at the worst of times and during the day to meet and 'perform 'in them is horrid, not a turn on. I got stroppy as it is unfair that children get exposed to this. __________________ Computers allow us to make more mistakes at a faster rate than any other man-made thing, with the exception of handguns and tequila. [/QUOTE=BAMF]Do they role a die, with a 1/3 chance of being flacid?[/QUOTE]

02-23-2004, 01:51 AM	#4 (permalink)
bigbad Insane	Until recently I always assumed it was some ass with a pen trying to be funny, like the dirty limericks or chicks' phone numbers

02-23-2004, 02:49 AM	#7 (permalink)
SecretMethod70 Human Administrator Location: Chicago	Just in case you or anyone else isn't aware, those ARE real. I personally know people who have run into those situations on accident. __________________ Le temps détruit tout "Musicians are the carriers and communicators of spirit in the most immediate sense." - Kurt Elling

02-23-2004, 03:59 AM	#8 (permalink)
hu-man The one that got away Location: Over the hill and far away	I read some stories from a guy who used to work in a large bookstore, and one guy was known to write these sorts of messages, and one time he even drilled a hole in one of the stalls. The management then decided to block the hole with a steel plate, and the guy then wrote, in permanent marker, "Was this really necessary?" My immediate response would be to write "Oh yeah."

02-23-2004, 05:50 AM	#9 (permalink)
Bill O'Rights will always be an Alyson Hanniganite Location: In the dust of the archives	I guess it takes all kinds. I'm not gay, but I know that I sure as hell wouldn't be stickin' "Lil' Bill" into any woman that acknowledged a bathroom stall "request". I can't imagine that a gay man would be any more inclined to do so. Somehow I don't think that it's a "gay thing", so much as it's a "sick thing". My opinion...my $.02. __________________ "I distrust those people who know so well what God wants them to do because I notice it always coincides with their own desires." - Susan B. Anthony "Hedonism with rules isn't hedonism at all, it's the Republican party." - JumpinJesus It is indisputable that true beauty lies within...but a nice rack sure doesn't hurt.

02-23-2004, 06:21 AM	#10 (permalink)
aurigus Insane	Those messages are messed up; I don't get it. I guess if you feel repressed you have to take it up somewhere, public bathrooms present a psuedo-anonymous way to do this? At least I'm guessing. Ever see Dumb and Dumber? Funny scene in that movie about gay messages in the bathroom. I noticed these a lot more in public restrooms at my college, but they are everywhere (I'm in PA). Agree with others this is an extremely dirty practice... but what can you really do to stop it?

02-23-2004, 06:31 AM	#11 (permalink)
Charlatan Getting it. Super Moderator Location: Lion City	This has been going on for a lot more than 16 years... Holo, you probably only started noticing the messages when you became a teenager and knew what you were looking at. Anonymous sex with many different partners would have been no problem before the 80s (ie before AIDS). __________________ "My hands are on fire. Hands are on fire. Ain't got no more time for all you charlatans and liars." - Old Man Luedecke

02-23-2004, 06:47 AM	#12 (permalink)
usualsuspect Upright	I ran into one of these situations as a teenager by accident one day in the public restroom at Sears when I used to work there. I was on the toilet and notice all these "messages". Next thing I know there is an eyeball looking through a small hole in the stall at me and mumbles something. Needless to say I started flipping out. I should have busted the door down, and stomped this dude. I didn't tell anyone as I was too embarassed. Man, i had the sickest feeling in my stomach the rest of the day. Oh well, now I look back on it and laugh. Freaks!

02-23-2004, 07:08 AM	#13 (permalink)
Cynthetiq Tilted Cat Head Administrator Location: Manhattan, NY	hmmm.... George Michael knows all about those things.. maybe he'll write a song about it. __________________ I don't care if you are black, white, purple, green, Chinese, Japanese, Korean, hippie, cop, bum, admin, user, English, Irish, French, Catholic, Protestant, Jewish, Buddhist, Muslim, indian, cowboy, tall, short, fat, skinny, emo, punk, mod, rocker, straight, gay, lesbian, jock, nerd, geek, Democrat, Republican, Libertarian, Independent, driver, pedestrian, or bicyclist, either you're an asshole or you're not. What's the best nation in the world? DO-NATION!

02-23-2004, 10:36 AM	#16 (permalink)
pocon1 Banned	No, Ladyadmin, he was arrested for performing fellatio on a guy in a nightclub.

02-23-2004, 05:19 PM	#17 (permalink)
Kaos Ssssssssss Location: Ontario	Rest stops on the highway are famous for homosexual activity and messages like that in the stalls. I have a couple friends who are truckers and through communication with other Truckers on the CB, they know which stops are to be avoided if they don't want to accidentally end up in an awkward situation.

02-23-2004, 06:31 PM	#23 (permalink)
cleanx Crazy Location: chatsworth, california san fernando valley	i use to write ass-here on toilet seats good times __________________ The Nation that makes a great distinction between its scholars and its warriors will have its thinking done by cowards and its fighting done by fools." -Thucydides

02-23-2004, 05:31 PM	#18 (permalink)
runawayfetus Crazy Location: san fran	yea i always thought the messages were just from some dorks trying to me badass and scratching rude remarks on the doors... i never thought of them as actually being gay __________________ im a huge movie goer....

02-23-2004, 05:57 PM	#19 (permalink)
santafe5000 EVIL! Location: Southwest of nowhere	It is a shame that anyone deems it necessary to mark on, write on or otherwise deface property like that. I have seen a lot of it lately myself and find it totally disgusting. A some point, young children will use these facilities and be subjected to this. Also, the costs involved in removing the graffitti from these places has to come from taxes. __________________ When all else fails, QUIT.

02-23-2004, 06:02 PM	#20 (permalink)
bacon_masta Psycho Location: i live in the state of denial	only really interesting one i've seen lately is in the mensroom where i work, and it just says "mcdonalds is gay"

02-23-2004, 06:09 PM	#21 (permalink)
rs8001 Crazy Location: Indiana	Yeah, I agree it amounts to vandalism. How many more times do I have to see the "ON" scracthed out from the word "BUTTON" on hand dryers? That wasn't funny when I was ten. Who does that? I used to travel a lot by car and never paid much attention the the notes. It bothers me a lot when there are holes drilled in the stalls often the one next to the urinals. I always stuff toilet paper into them.

02-23-2004, 06:28 PM	#22 (permalink)
H12 I'm not about getting creamed, I'm about winning! Location: K-Town, TN	I've only seen the "Call ###-#### and ask for _____" messages. I try to call them and, depending of my mood, either mess with them or inform them of how I got their number so they can do somethign about it if they wish. __________________ "We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, therefore, is not an act, but a habit." --Aristotle

02-23-2004, 06:56 PM	#24 (permalink)
twilightfoix Insane Location: in the clouds ;)	always thought is was someone just trying to be funny. but just imagine the look on someone's face that reads one that says be in this stall at 11pm 2/23/04 for wild animal anal sex and he realizes that its 11pm 2/23/04. i see why someone would do it, but only if they don't have a life.