12-17-2003, 12:22 PM | #1 (permalink) |
Naughty Just Right
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Off Limits?
Do you feel a woman's purse is off limits?
Growing up it was a BIG no no to get into my mother's purse. We were to bring it to her and have her get whatever it was that was needed or wanted. My Ex used to get into my purse all of the time and he felt it was no big deal. (He also did this to see if there was anything hiding in there out of his paranoia) My sweetie now won't even peek in there. He almost struggles just bringing it to me. It is a woman's sacred space as far as he is concerned. Me, If you have my permission to get in my purse, then it is obviously okay to do so. Otherwise, stay out. All that matters to me is that one asks out of respect. There is nothing in there that is sacred or off limits but it is "mine". How do you feel about it? I'm editing this to include men's wallets/bags as well. I want the ladies to answer these questions too!
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12-17-2003, 12:28 PM | #2 (permalink) |
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Location: Clarkson U.
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Very very rarely would I go in someones purse. Also though, I would hate to have someone go through my backpack, duffle bag, suitcase, etc.
Its just respect. The one exception is this.... On occaision Ive gone in my mother purse when I couldnt find an inhaler. But I think thats differant. Last edited by krwlz; 12-18-2003 at 07:08 AM.. |
12-17-2003, 12:32 PM | #4 (permalink) |
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I NEVER go into a woman's purse. Ever. Not my mom's, not my wife's, not my sister.
I am not interested in being responsible for anything in there, nor am I interested in TMI syndrome.
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12-17-2003, 12:42 PM | #5 (permalink) | |
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That was funny. It could be a bit too much!
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12-17-2003, 12:44 PM | #6 (permalink) |
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Location: Charlotte, NC
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It is like a guys wallet, when my wife goes into my wallet to "clean it out" I get so pissed, people should give each other there little bit of privacy.
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12-17-2003, 12:45 PM | #7 (permalink) |
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A girl I was dating went through my wallet once. I went through the roof. Im a very open person but I draw strict lines in certain places. You stay out of my wallet and I stay out of your purse.
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12-17-2003, 02:12 PM | #10 (permalink) | |
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Re: Off Limits?
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My mother used always tell me "Never look in a ladies bag!" and then proceed to give me a bang on the ear if she caught me even peeking. I won't look in my wife's bag without her permission. Mr Mephisto |
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12-17-2003, 02:38 PM | #11 (permalink) |
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Location: Arizona
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I won't let a girl go through my wallet unless I'm sitting there with her, watching everything she does. Usually they're just interested in the pictures, but you never know...
As for a womens purse, I learned from my mom when I was four that it was off limits. I have heeded that advice to this day and will never go through a womens purse.
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12-17-2003, 02:46 PM | #13 (permalink) | |
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That sounds a bit strange. Mr Mephisto |
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12-17-2003, 03:49 PM | #14 (permalink) |
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Location: NorCal
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My wife could, at any time, go through my wallet, email, letters, records, etc. and I wouldn't give a crap. She'll find no suprises. She feels the same about me and her stuff.
Yet I still feel very unnerved if she asks me to get something out of her purse. Much like the Ladies Lounge, it's not a place for me, so I'd rather not go there.
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12-17-2003, 04:04 PM | #15 (permalink) |
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Location: Columbus, Ohio
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I used to go in my moms purse all the time, there was gum to be found in there. It seemed fine to me, and it's usually cool unless you find someones tampons.
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12-17-2003, 04:58 PM | #20 (permalink) |
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Location: Brisbane, Australia
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What sort of foolish man would even believe he had a chance of negotiating the two hundred and fifty five zipped compartments and so forth anyhow?
My wallet never has anything in it anyway, so I don't really mind if people go through it. |
12-17-2003, 05:39 PM | #21 (permalink) | |
Naughty Just Right
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I wanted to add that I would never look in a mans wallet either.
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12-17-2003, 06:46 PM | #23 (permalink) |
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Location: VA
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I have the same aversion to going through a woman's purse. Same with, say, medicine cabinets when you are a guest in someone's house-none of your damn business!
That being said, I have yet to go out with a woman who does not meticulously examine every bloody thing in my wallet at some point in the relationship.
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12-17-2003, 07:47 PM | #24 (permalink) |
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Location: CT
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My mom asks me to get stuff for her, then gets mad when I can't find it. The last time I weighed it to try to counter her argument that I should be able to find sutff in there, there were 4 pounds of crap strewn about in the five compartments, three mini-bags, two wallets, and God only knows what else.
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12-17-2003, 08:30 PM | #25 (permalink) | |
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Location: Tempe,Az....until I figure things out...
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Well, I hate carrying purses (let alone the wallet that I do drudge around). I don't really care if someone needs something out of my bag/backpack/wallet and I'm not easily accessible to getting it or busy I'll let them get it. I can't say I'd let any john or jane just go into my stuff, but for the most part I don't have a problem if someone I know needs something I have in there... it's otay for them to get it if they want. I don't feel like I have anything to hide in there... so let 'em go at it.
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12-17-2003, 09:26 PM | #26 (permalink) |
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Location: Northern California
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I have a deep respect for a woman's purse. My wife has trained me to fear the purse monster that lurks in wait of unwary male fingers.
Besides, would I want a woman rummaging through my pockets?... Er, I guess that depends on whether I'm in the pants and who the woman is.
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12-17-2003, 10:30 PM | #29 (permalink) |
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Well, my friend once felt comfortable enough digging into my purse to find my retainer case and try and dump glitter in there - I happened to walk in just in time!
Other than that close call, if I give someone permission, I don't mind them going through my purse; they're usually asking for a stick of gum and see it right on top. Other than that, my purse is an extension of my space- don't go where you're not allowed.
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12-18-2003, 12:35 AM | #30 (permalink) |
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Location: The Outer Rim
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You girls carry way too much shit in your damned purses. Even if I wanted to look in a purse, it would be so cluttered with useless shit-- I wouldn't be able to find anything of usage.
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12-18-2003, 05:18 AM | #31 (permalink) |
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Location: Brisbane, Australia
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Note to women:
Despite what you may think, men do not like carrying your purse for you. What you think is kind of cute, nice etc, we find humiliating and a direct attack to our precious masculinity (ouuuur precious, we needs it). So please, do your husbands, boyfriends, platonic male friends, brothers and sons a favour and do not burden them with your purses and the attached social stigma at the next all male gathering. PS. We still don't know what the significance of Italian label handbags are. My theory is their sturdy strap makes them far more difficult for street punks of the 'Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles' variety to snatch. Last edited by Kostya; 12-18-2003 at 05:20 AM.. |
12-18-2003, 06:02 AM | #32 (permalink) |
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Location: a darkened back alley
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For the longest time, my mom wouldn't let me look inside her purse, insisting I simply bring it to her. In recent years, she's sent me inside those hallowed pockets to try to fetch various items. The time it took me has made me understand why she used to just do it herself.
My girlfriend doesn't have a purse. I usually end up carrying her driver's license and debit card in my pockets when we go out. I don't mind when my girlfriend goes through my wallet. I used to mind horribly when my ex would do it, because she was the jealous, frightened type to whom I had to explain everything, including a membership in the Bathroom Reader's Institute. Things like that make men leave. |
12-18-2003, 06:06 AM | #33 (permalink) |
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My mother didn't allow me to go in her purse. My gf doesn't really care.
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12-18-2003, 08:25 AM | #36 (permalink) |
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My wife doesn't have any problems going into my wallet.....
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12-18-2003, 08:59 AM | #38 (permalink) |
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Location: ...We have a problem.
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I don't carry anything of much interest in my purse - only necessities - lipstick, wallet, knife, pen and keys, sometimes pain pills and/or gum - and don't mind sending my SO or anyone really to look for something. I can honestly say that I have never gone into my SO's wallet.
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12-18-2003, 09:40 AM | #39 (permalink) |
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Location: Edmontania
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My mom always had me getting stuff from her purse, so i have no aversion to looking through one for something. However, that's just my mom, and I will respect any other woman's right to privacy regarding their baggage.
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12-18-2003, 11:36 AM | #40 (permalink) |
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Out of respect, I would never go through a woman's purse. That's just the way I was raised. I wouldn't want someone going through my wallet either unless I was there. Although there is not much in it, I do keep important notes, receipts, etc. in there that I wouyld prefer not to have rummaged through..
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