WhoaitsZ

It takes a real lot for a person in real life to truly piss me off. I'm one of those 'long fuse, big boom' guys like my father.

Today I had something right off the bat that simply upset me. Pissed me off, made me feel very worthless, got me down, made me sad, and the woman who tripped the trigger is very lucky I did not hurt her in a very real way. Alas I remembered that most people are absolute idiots at their peak of intelligence, so I told her firmly to not call me a liar. I am in a great mood right now, yet this statement really hurt and I am glad it didn't trigger a narcoleptic attack (which happens due to extreme emotions).

As you probably know I have Spinal Muscular Atrophy. my nerves and muscles don't communicate well at all. i rely 100% on my posture to do things.

One thing I despise is writing by hand for two reasons. One, it's always sucked not only due to disease but due to me hurrying also. My mind is always too quick for the pen, so to speak. The other reason I hate it is if I can't get into a perfect position I cann't hold the pen properly.

This morning I decided I would sign my aide's (who won't be coming back for many reason) notes so she would not have to waste her time and gas money to come back. In other words, I selfishly did her a big favor.

When I went to sign note #3 my right hand decided to be a complete bitch. I tried for like two to three minutes adjusting to write it when the stupid bitch told me "Now I know you can sign a paper."

Red. all i could see was red. but i managed to keep myself above her level and simply told her firmly "do not call me a liar". in my opinion it is what she did.

Here i am defying gravity and a 24 year old disease to do a favor and she accuses me of just not doing it.

what the fuck???

I am veeeeeeeeerrrrrrryyyyyyy use to stupid people, especially concerning disability. I am not use to such blatant rudeness, especially from someone i've worked with for a year.

stupid bitch.



has anyone else had downright hurtful insults or accusations like this? what did you do?

I am proud of myself for showing restraint. god i wanted to knock her shitless.

jimk

we all deal with buffoons and/or assholes. try to take comfort in the fact that she is either an insensitive ass or a moron.

you may also want to remember that you've probably verbally stepped on a few toes in your day, too.................

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sipsake

Oh, you bet. Happened right here on our own TFP not more than an hour ago.

I thought it over for a while. I could've responded in kind but figured that level of stupidity and ignorance have to carry their own misfortune.

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onetime2

You would have hoped she was more knowledgeable about the condition, less accusatory, and had much better manners. Sorry to hear about your experience.

It's happened to me here at the TFP. Not only have I been called a liar, I've been called a bigot. I took the comments for what they were worth given the people they came from. One was a blatant personal attack and I reported it to the mods. The other was inuendo and I let slide.

World's King

I went on a date with this girl a few months ago that has pissed me off more then anyone... well, almost.

We were at dinner having a great time. Laughing, talking, drinking and having fun. Now, I have OCD. It's been getting worse over the past year or so and it's becomeing harder and harder to control. Well, I had been ignoreing the disorder of how the table was set for about a half hour but it finally got the best of me and I rearranged everything. She gave me this strange look and asked what I had just done. I explained to her why I moved everything and she smiled. Then she rearanged everything back to where it was before and said, "Does that bother you?"

I turned red. Just like Z. All I saw was red. I moved everything back to where I had put it, looked at her and said, "Never do that again." She just laughed, said I was weird and went back to her steak. Now, I understand that some people don't know anything about mental disorders because they just don't care. But to have that much ignorance is not okay.

Needless to say I never spoke to the girl again.

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floonine

It's interesting to see how obnoxiously arrogant and/or ignorant people like to pounce on oportunities that would affirm their half-thought out assumptions on a person.

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bennyb

When i get really pissed off, i know it sounds cheezey, but, i take a huge breath, and hold it for as long as i can... also flexing all of your arm muscles can make you feel better...

lurkette

I've never had anybody say anything deliberately stupid and hurtful, but since my brother died, there are more sensitive subjects that really upset me. I usually cut people slack if, as is usually the case, they say something in ignorance. If they don't know the story, they have no idea that what they just said was very upsetting and caused me pain. It still makes me want to punch a wall.

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GuttersnipeXL

I guy came into work awhile back and asked me a question I didn't know the answer to, so I politely told him...I'd have to ask my boss about that one....Then he says to me, "Jesus Christ, do you know anything?" Holy crap....I just envisioned the county coroner at my store later that day.... So I told him I knew all sorts of things, just not what he wanted to know about a product we don't even sell, and I'm not even familiar with. It was rude as hell, and my first instinct was to give him a thrashing right there in the store, but thankfully I have a respectable amount of self restraint. Anyway Z, It sounds like she totally lost sight of who she was supposed to be "helping".

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WhoaitsZ

the thing that enraged me was the 'I know you can write'. she said it in the

"quit pretending you can't write" way.

if i had any sense I would had stopped totally and told her to leave and she could come back and get mom to sign, who would wish to see why I only signed three.


as far as pushing her buttons? obviously. you can't work together two years w/o annoying each other. we are pretty equal there. but what she did was a below the belt accusation presuming I am faking my problem.

there is never an excuse to make a serious insult to a person regarding things such as race, ability, sex, ect. it's you, it's me.

maybe karma will bitchslap her.

Gun

My experiences are not as important as yours, because I tend to have a very quick temper. One of my pet peeves is people cancelling or flaking out on plans that have been established for a long time.

I had these Halloween plans for at least three weeks now. I show up at the girl's house, exactly on time, nobody's home. I sit around and wait for some, give her a call, voice mail. So naturally, I'm pissed.

She calls, asks me where I am. I explain it to her, all she can do is laugh and procede to tell me about all the fun she's having with MY friends at some other location. Wanted to rip her spine out of her back.

But, in the end, it's not worth it.

No fear. No distractions. The ability to let that which does not matter, truly slide. - Fight Club.

ARTelevision

I am satisfied with the punishment other people must endure - condemned to being themselves for the rest of their lives.

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YourNeverThere

yaaa, that might help Z in his condition at the time, flexing his arm musles....

but ya, I'm the same for long fuze big explosion, nearly nothing can get me angry, and I forgive very very fast.

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oberon

I know the feeling. I have a lifelong profound loss of hearing. It annoys me every time I run into people who apparently have never heard of hearing loss, or when people ask for my phone number (I don't have a phone all right!!!!)...

Now, here's the trick. I *can* hear. The problem is, it still relies a lot on my lipreading skills. Most people I run into do not understand this. The reason is because most people harden their hearing skills when they are very young, like 3 or 4. Problem is, I was WAY behind. Anyway, it's gotten better but I'm still not good enough to be able to talk on a phone like most other people.

In fact... it has only gotten good enough that I made two short phone calls to my grandmother in the summer of 2003! Those were the very first phone calls I ever made without assistance (either human or machine, i.e. TTY/TDD).

So, what do I do? Simply put, I ignore inconsiderate people. They do not exist. What they said didn't happen. They get added to my shitlist if it is obviously in malice. I didn't figure out until I was 14 or so that people tend to stop annoying you if you don't acknowledge their crap in any way. And you know what? Except for the occasional ignorant person, it works.

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monty121052

You should have told her to fuck off and made her go to the extra time and cost to come back at your conveniece.

meff

Said too well..

I've had so many personal attacks on my mental problems, people thinking I am lying, people thinking I only want to steal money from people, people thinking I should not get disability and throw myself into a job I wouldn't be able to keep anyways, etc..

I've noticed alot of posts in here are for mental/physical illnesses.. People just need to be more educated or they really don't realize they're pissing us off.

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spectre

I was really sick when I was in high school, and one of the counsellors called to ask why I wasn't in school because, according to her, I wasn't that sick. The timing was pretty ironic since I ended up in intesive care not long after.

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MSD

Knowing that some people are that inconsiderate just pisses me off. I don't think it's possible for someone without OCD to understand how bad it can get, they assume it's just a game, and people have done crap like that to me. Why can't somone let us move a few things around to make ourselves more comfortable? People don't realize that psychological disorders are just as real and serious as physical diseases, and should be given the same consideration instead of mockery, fear, or avoidance.

Phaenx

"I'll punch your face."

I don't have any moral problem with threatening people, works for me. They'd deserve a punch in the face if they're able to work me up too, I'm normally a pretty nice guy. Even so, if you managed that would make you either excessively insensitive or just mean, both great reasons to punch face.

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Lasereth

I'm an identical twin, so I get every kind of joke imaginable thrown at me daily. I know that being an identical twin isn't a disability or a negative trait, but it does attract all sorts of stupidity. "Man, your brother is ugly!" "Is your brother's penis as long as yours?" "Am I seeing double oh wow!" "Can you feel this? *punches other twin*"

On top of that, I inherited four taste and smell disorders in 2001 (Hyposmia, Parosmia, Hypogeusia, and Dysgeusia) due to untreated viruses I had (Bronchidis, Strept Throat, and Pneumonia in the same month). Well, to make a long story short, one day I woke up in April of 2001 and found out my sense of taste and smell were damaged and mostly gone. Chocolate tastes like antifreeze to me, and lavender lotion tastes like candy. I get all sorts of weird looks when I deny candy or the other foods that don't taste right anymore. I can't stand it when people say "you don't have anything wrong with you, it's in your head." If they were in my position, they'd see how fun eating chocolate is when it tastes like car fluid and how neat it is to drink a Dr. Pepper and it taste like rotten cucumbers.

Couldn't have said it better myself.

-Lasereth

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Eldaire

Alright, yeah, she's a stupid bitch. But I think maybe you should chill too bro. I mean, you handled it right, but my philosophy is that you should not limit the expression of your emotions, but rather seek understanding that will guide you to feel the way you know is right. This isn't to say that what you think you know is right is right, but it often is. I think that if you searched within yourself, you could understand the situation better and not be so angry. Wow, maybe this post shoulda been under philosophy.