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Kaos · 08-11-2003, 03:45 PM

We gonna get the link or what??

And ya, not a word to any of your co-workers or anyone even indirectly involved with your job. They don't mess around with sexual harassment and even the smallest scandal may get you fired.

rival · 08-11-2003, 05:22 PM

Hey all,

Thanks for the advice. I pretty much knew I'd have to keep it to myself, but when I found it last night I was still in a bit of shock.

Quote:

We gonna get the link or what??

No...it wouldn't really be right to help spread the picture to the far corners of the internet, either. Sorry. Besides, you probably don't know her so it would just be another naked chick to you. There are plenty of others out there.

HiThereDear · 08-11-2003, 05:48 PM

my vote is tell her and only her, because she may not know that maybe her ex-husband put those up.

jhericurl21 · 08-11-2003, 06:08 PM

blackmail could be an option..........

but seriously, i'd just let it be, dont show anyone, let sum other coworker find it show the guys at work and then watch as he gets his ass fired.

She also might think of u as a porno addict looking for her specifically on the web.

But if u need to get it off your chest, best bet if random email as one of us already said

Kaos · 08-11-2003, 06:30 PM

After some thought, like HiThereDear said, it may be an ex that posted them...get a fake e-mail account from hotmail and send an annonymous e-mail to her mentioning the pics.

hobo · 08-11-2003, 06:31 PM

Keep it for yourself. Don't show it to anyone or she might be very uncomfortable.

Nizzle · 08-11-2003, 06:38 PM

I don't know what state you are in, Rival, because your profile is empty. But here in California, even thinking naked thoughts of a coworker can get you sued.

Highly recommend not even mentioning you ever saw it.

MSD · 08-11-2003, 07:29 PM

Anonymously tell her about it with an email from hotmail or yahoo through a proxy. Tell her that you don't want to cause embarassment by revealing who you are, but that you know she is divorced and you want to be sure that her ex isn't trying ot get revenge by spreading around personal pictures.

Tickford · 08-12-2003, 01:34 AM

My vote is with MrSelfDestruct. I think that is the best of both worlds. You are letting her know that its there, but she doesnt know its you and wont get embarassed when she speak to you. If you make a joke of it, and tell your friends at work, it just may back fire and she may try to get revenge on you......

yournamehere · 08-12-2003, 06:01 AM

I think you're missing an excellent opportunity here.

Tell her you ran across the picture accidentally, and be very sympathetic. Then inform her of certain legal steps she can take against that asshole of an ex who posted the picture, and offer to help in any way.

She'll be so grateful to you for your concern and discretion that I'm sure you'll be dating in no time. A few weeks after that, you can take your <i>own</i> pictures and post a whole series in the <i>Tilted Exhibition</i> Forum (with her permission - of course).

A win-win scenario for everyone!

frankx · 08-12-2003, 10:43 AM

I see big red warning lights on this one! This could get you in very hot water and in the end, what would you have accomplished? This is a picture that someone took of her during what she thought would be a very private moment, and she probably didn't mean it for anyone else to see, let alone someone she works with everyday, especially if she regrets taking the pic in the first place. Even telling her that you know about it could embarass her to the point of traumatization. I think that it would be best to just leave this rattlesnake right where it lay.

rev_skarekroe · 08-13-2003, 07:52 AM

Print out a copy of the picture and discretely leave in the office photocopier.
Ah, the intrigue!
sk

a2k · 08-13-2003, 11:11 AM

I've got a friend who makes a living doing in-house tech-support for a select group of wealthy clients. He found a series of pictures on one of his client's computers that their (allegedly very hot) teenage daughter had taken of herself nude. He is a very honest and professional guy and of course he did not mention the pictures, delete them, or post them anywhere.

Given how much pestering we all gave him at the bar the night he found these things, a lesser man may very well have decided "well, it wouldn't hurt to show my buddies", and then some buddy with a lower standard of honesty or no professional obligation might forward it on to one of his friends, who posts it, etc.

Really, who knows where the picture came from or how it got online. I think your best bet is to delete it and forget you ever saw it.

wry1 · 08-13-2003, 04:36 PM

My friends and I throw some truly outrageous parties during the summer months - not to mention a "Mardi Gras" bash which lives in infamy where we're from - and as a result we have accumulated hundreds of photos which depict all sorts of drunken behavior....usually sans tops, bottoms or both.

However, at no point have we EVER thought of posting any of these; we've gone through them, and occasionally will bring them out to the amusement and/or embarrasment of our friends....it just depends on if they're the ones in the photos completely pissed and acting like morons.

We don't share the photos with people who weren't at the party in question, and we certainly don't punish/harrass/blackmail those caught on film. So far, this has paid off in that people who have partied with us continue to do so (including those who've been on the receiving end of the recap teasing we occasionally do). Hey, some even tell their friends to come along.

Do yourself a favor and remember: "Discretion is the better part of valor."

gonadman · 08-13-2003, 09:23 PM

Don't say anything, even discretely, to her. If another coworker ever found the pic and passed it around, geuss who would be in a heap of shit?

K-Wise · 08-14-2003, 01:13 AM

If she fuckin took a pic nekkid she was askin for it. Especially if she put it on the net herself. She had to know it would turn up later on it's inevittable. Thats why she shoulda never taken a picture nekkid. Unless someone tells her it was you who showed em the pic it will never get back to you and even if it does it's on the fuckin internet for Christ sakes you could just say someone else linked it to you. You could even say it was someone you don't like he could never prove it false it would be ur word against his don't be a moron dawg. That typa shit happens once in a million years man and something every guy wishes he could find. If she's cute no doubt you and ever other guy there (unless they're fuckin gay) was more than likely undressing her with their eyes now they don't have to.

Asta!!

Mephisto2 · 08-14-2003, 01:50 AM

Erm...

OK

Thanks for that contribution K-Wise...

Mr Mephisto

Vyk · 08-14-2003, 07:46 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by a2k
I've got a friend who makes a living doing in-house tech-support for a select group of wealthy clients. He found a series of pictures on one of his client's computers that their (allegedly very hot) teenage daughter had taken of herself nude. He is a very honest and professional guy and of course he did not mention the pictures, delete them, or post them anywhere.

Given how much pestering we all gave him at the bar the night he found these things, a lesser man may very well have decided "well, it wouldn't hurt to show my buddies", and then some buddy with a lower standard of honesty or no professional obligation might forward it on to one of his friends, who posts it, etc.

wow, that took a heck of a lot of integrity. I'm impressed.

monkeysugar · 08-14-2003, 03:40 PM

Here's an old saying that I'm sure you have heard, but it's always a good one to remember: "If a four year old would be proud to do it, it's probably ok to do." I realize that's probably not the exact wording, and there are many topics that a four year old would not understand, but hopefully you get the point.

Mr.Deflok · 08-14-2003, 03:44 PM

"You and me together, we'll find the rat-bastid who posted that photo of you on the net!" and she'll be your next gf.

WhoaitsZ · 08-14-2003, 03:49 PM

dude. it is a great thing to find such things sometimes, but sharing it is a bad bad bad idea.

it is just morally wrong to post something personal that someone else did - especial since they don't know that YOU know.

soopadoopa · 08-14-2003, 04:36 PM

Don't breathe a word of it, but let her know using the disposable email address. You'd want to know if your wife's pic of her in the backyard with her ankles behind her head was on the net, wouldn't you? Well then. It's easy. Stick with what you know: If nothing's said of it, you KNOW you've still got a job and a friend.

DannyOO · 08-14-2003, 06:21 PM

You know, even letting her know through use of a 'disposable' email could be a problem. I'm sure that she would try to think of everyone who knows her email address and will suspect each one knows of the pictures. Worse yet, she may begin to think that everyone at work has seen them and begin to feel that she is being treated differently. In the end, she may file suit or just quit and I'm sure that isn't going to be very good for anyone.

I work in a place that develops pictures in one hour and I know of at least one situation where a female customer has accused me of staring at her and treating her differently because I've seen her naked. Thankfully, my coworkers have all backed me up by stating that I'm genuinely a nice fella and treat all customers with a smile and "hello".

I say to keep quiet and delete the picture. You never know when it will show up again!!

08-11-2003, 06:38 PM	#47 (permalink)
Nizzle God-Hating Liberal Location: Silicon Valley, CA	I don't know what state you are in, Rival, because your profile is empty. But here in California, even thinking naked thoughts of a coworker can get you sued. Highly recommend not even mentioning you ever saw it. __________________ Nizzle

08-12-2003, 01:34 AM	#49 (permalink)
Tickford Insane Location: Australia	My vote is with MrSelfDestruct. I think that is the best of both worlds. You are letting her know that its there, but she doesnt know its you and wont get embarassed when she speak to you. If you make a joke of it, and tell your friends at work, it just may back fire and she may try to get revenge on you...... __________________ Anyone who goes to a psychiatrist ought to have his head examined. Samuel Goldwyn

08-12-2003, 06:01 AM	#50 (permalink)
yournamehere Invisible Location: tentative, at best	I think you're missing an excellent opportunity here. Tell her you ran across the picture accidentally, and be very sympathetic. Then inform her of certain legal steps she can take against that asshole of an ex who posted the picture, and offer to help in any way. She'll be so grateful to you for your concern and discretion that I'm sure you'll be dating in no time. A few weeks after that, you can take your <i>own</i> pictures and post a whole series in the <i>Tilted Exhibition</i> Forum (with her permission - of course). A win-win scenario for everyone! __________________ If you want to avoid 95% of internet spelling errors: "If your ridiculous pants are too loose, you're definitely going to lose them. Tell your two loser friends over there that they're going to lose theirs, too." It won't hurt your fashion sense, either.

08-12-2003, 10:43 AM	#51 (permalink)
frankx Psycho Location: The Tip of the Boot	I see big red warning lights on this one! This could get you in very hot water and in the end, what would you have accomplished? This is a picture that someone took of her during what she thought would be a very private moment, and she probably didn't mean it for anyone else to see, let alone someone she works with everyday, especially if she regrets taking the pic in the first place. Even telling her that you know about it could embarass her to the point of traumatization. I think that it would be best to just leave this rattlesnake right where it lay. __________________ Louisiana: We're Not ALL Drunken Cajun Wackos, But That's Our Tourism Campaign

08-13-2003, 07:52 AM	#52 (permalink)
rev_skarekroe Insane Location: Parts Unknown	Print out a copy of the picture and discretely leave in the office photocopier. Ah, the intrigue! sk __________________ "If I could have one wish, as in the fairy tales, I would unmake my past, and rise like Lazarus and stand in sunlight and banish all the dark." D. Tibet

08-11-2003, 03:45 PM	#41 (permalink)
Kaos Ssssssssss Location: Ontario	We gonna get the link or what?? And ya, not a word to any of your co-workers or anyone even indirectly involved with your job. They don't mess around with sexual harassment and even the smallest scandal may get you fired.

08-11-2003, 05:48 PM	#43 (permalink)
HiThereDear Insane	my vote is tell her and only her, because she may not know that maybe her ex-husband put those up.

08-11-2003, 06:08 PM	#44 (permalink)
jhericurl21 Banned	blackmail could be an option.......... but seriously, i'd just let it be, dont show anyone, let sum other coworker find it show the guys at work and then watch as he gets his ass fired. She also might think of u as a porno addict looking for her specifically on the web. But if u need to get it off your chest, best bet if random email as one of us already said

08-11-2003, 06:30 PM	#45 (permalink)
Kaos Ssssssssss Location: Ontario	After some thought, like HiThereDear said, it may be an ex that posted them...get a fake e-mail account from hotmail and send an annonymous e-mail to her mentioning the pics.

08-11-2003, 06:31 PM	#46 (permalink)
hobo Archangel of Change	Keep it for yourself. Don't show it to anyone or she might be very uncomfortable.

08-11-2003, 07:29 PM	#48 (permalink)
MSD The sky calls to us ... Super Moderator Location: CT	Anonymously tell her about it with an email from hotmail or yahoo through a proxy. Tell her that you don't want to cause embarassment by revealing who you are, but that you know she is divorced and you want to be sure that her ex isn't trying ot get revenge by spreading around personal pictures.

08-13-2003, 11:11 AM	#53 (permalink)
a2k Crazy Location: Seattle	I've got a friend who makes a living doing in-house tech-support for a select group of wealthy clients. He found a series of pictures on one of his client's computers that their (allegedly very hot) teenage daughter had taken of herself nude. He is a very honest and professional guy and of course he did not mention the pictures, delete them, or post them anywhere. Given how much pestering we all gave him at the bar the night he found these things, a lesser man may very well have decided "well, it wouldn't hurt to show my buddies", and then some buddy with a lower standard of honesty or no professional obligation might forward it on to one of his friends, who posts it, etc. Really, who knows where the picture came from or how it got online. I think your best bet is to delete it and forget you ever saw it.

08-13-2003, 04:36 PM	#54 (permalink)
wry1 Loser Location: Far too far from my Angel....	My friends and I throw some truly outrageous parties during the summer months - not to mention a "Mardi Gras" bash which lives in infamy where we're from - and as a result we have accumulated hundreds of photos which depict all sorts of drunken behavior....usually sans tops, bottoms or both. However, at no point have we EVER thought of posting any of these; we've gone through them, and occasionally will bring them out to the amusement and/or embarrasment of our friends....it just depends on if they're the ones in the photos completely pissed and acting like morons. We don't share the photos with people who weren't at the party in question, and we certainly don't punish/harrass/blackmail those caught on film. So far, this has paid off in that people who have partied with us continue to do so (including those who've been on the receiving end of the recap teasing we occasionally do). Hey, some even tell their friends to come along. Do yourself a favor and remember: "Discretion is the better part of valor."

08-13-2003, 09:23 PM	#55 (permalink)
gonadman Psycho Location: Philly	Don't say anything, even discretely, to her. If another coworker ever found the pic and passed it around, geuss who would be in a heap of shit? __________________ For me there is only the traveling on paths that have heart, on any path that may have heart. There I travel, and the only worthwhile challenge is to traverse its full length. And there I travel, looking, looking, ...breathlessly. -Carlos Castaneda

08-14-2003, 01:13 AM	#56 (permalink)
K-Wise It's All About The Ass!! Location: In a pool of mayonnaise!!	If she fuckin took a pic nekkid she was askin for it. Especially if she put it on the net herself. She had to know it would turn up later on it's inevittable. Thats why she shoulda never taken a picture nekkid. Unless someone tells her it was you who showed em the pic it will never get back to you and even if it does it's on the fuckin internet for Christ sakes you could just say someone else linked it to you. You could even say it was someone you don't like he could never prove it false it would be ur word against his don't be a moron dawg. That typa shit happens once in a million years man and something every guy wishes he could find. If she's cute no doubt you and ever other guy there (unless they're fuckin gay) was more than likely undressing her with their eyes now they don't have to. Asta!! __________________ "I love music and it's my parents fault (closing statement)." - Me..quoting myself...from when I said that...On TFP..thats here...Tilted Forum Project *It ain't goodbye, it's see ya later! I'll miss you guys!* - Asta!!

08-14-2003, 01:50 AM	#57 (permalink)
Mephisto2 Junkie	Erm... OK Thanks for that contribution K-Wise... Mr Mephisto

08-14-2003, 03:40 PM	#59 (permalink)
monkeysugar I'll be on the veranda, since you're on the cross. Location: Rand McNally's friendliest small town in America. They must have strayed from the dodgy parts...	Here's an old saying that I'm sure you have heard, but it's always a good one to remember: "If a four year old would be proud to do it, it's probably ok to do." I realize that's probably not the exact wording, and there are many topics that a four year old would not understand, but hopefully you get the point. __________________ I've got the love of my life and a job that I enjoy most of the time. Life is good.

08-14-2003, 03:44 PM	#60 (permalink)
Mr.Deflok Blood + Fire Location: New Zealand	"You and me together, we'll find the rat-bastid who posted that photo of you on the net!" and she'll be your next gf.

08-14-2003, 03:49 PM	#61 (permalink)
WhoaitsZ Crazy Location: right behind you...	dude. it is a great thing to find such things sometimes, but sharing it is a bad bad bad idea. it is just morally wrong to post something personal that someone else did - especial since they don't know that YOU know.

08-14-2003, 04:36 PM	#62 (permalink)
soopadoopa Crazy	Don't breathe a word of it, but let her know using the disposable email address. You'd want to know if your wife's pic of her in the backyard with her ankles behind her head was on the net, wouldn't you? Well then. It's easy. Stick with what you know: If nothing's said of it, you KNOW you've still got a job and a friend.

08-14-2003, 06:21 PM	#63 (permalink)
DannyOO Upright	You know, even letting her know through use of a 'disposable' email could be a problem. I'm sure that she would try to think of everyone who knows her email address and will suspect each one knows of the pictures. Worse yet, she may begin to think that everyone at work has seen them and begin to feel that she is being treated differently. In the end, she may file suit or just quit and I'm sure that isn't going to be very good for anyone. I work in a place that develops pictures in one hour and I know of at least one situation where a female customer has accused me of staring at her and treating her differently because I've seen her naked. Thankfully, my coworkers have all backed me up by stating that I'm genuinely a nice fella and treat all customers with a smile and "hello". I say to keep quiet and delete the picture. You never know when it will show up again!!