Salem

I was thinking the other day about How I Met Your Mother, and Barney and Robin's relationship and it hit me. They, very early on, established bro-hood. She suited up, got herself some Johnny Walker and a cigar. He suited up, classic Barney, and they hung out. They scope out sexually attractive individuals, and help eachother score. They play laser tag, they do everything Bros do, according to Barney. Of course they dabble in a relationship, but they claim to be life long Bro's.

So my question is, can men have female BROS?

Plan9

Are we referencing sitcoms again?

Anyway, I'm a lesbro, myself. The heterosexual male best friend of a lesbian. Does that count?

...

Really... I've never had a female just-a-friend. Any woman that I have that much in common with I usually end up snarlin' within 72 hours.

There is no stopping it. It just happens. I don't even want it to happen sometimes and it ends up happening. Hopefully it'll slow down as I age.

I wish I had a few solid female friends, but the only kinda female-just-friends interactions I have are with female coworkers.

The cubicle keeps the sex out.

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Salem

Well, I used a sitcom reference, but I mean in reality. I agree on the lesbro though, my brother in law and I get along FABULOUSLY due to eh lesbro relationship. But what about two heterosexuals of opposite sexes?

blktour

I think it can happen. Matter of fact, I know it can. I have a coworker that is now a friend who we hang out and talk and give eachother advice. By coworker I mean we work for the same company but we dont see eachother at work ever. I have never thought of sleeping with her, and always look for her well being. Like a friend would. how she feels for me? I feel it is mutual. She doesnt like my type anyways. She is almost 6ft and I am a whopping 5'4.

as for that show. I don't like it at all. I watch about 5 minutes of it every tuesday to watch a show "Rules of Engadgement."

flat5

I've tried a number of times. Women want nothing to do with me socially.

DaveOrion

Yes, 2 heteros of opposite sexes can be bros.

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Iliftrocks

Sure, but I'd end up calling her "Brah" you know

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Plan9

Yeah, it got to the point where I was referring to my female coworkers as "dude." It doesn't get any more neutered than that.

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Grasshopper Green

I don't currently have any relationships like this, but I certainly have in the past.

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Cimarron29414

Four words: When Harry met Sally

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kutulu

It would make the whole "bros before hos" thing quite confusing.

high_jinx

it can be done but takes extra effort. for me, it's been a few girls that were so cool and funny, and told such funny stories... that i didn't mind giving them the attention that most girls need. it hasn't worked when it felt more like a one-way street of me paying attention to them and not getting what guys need back.

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LordEden

I've had a lot of "bros" for female friends, most of them lesbians. I've been a "lesbro" before, but when it's straight women I'm friends with, I end up having sex with them. Oops.

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Fly

see,i don't fuck my buddies or bros,so the female friends i have,are yes.........my bros.

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Sue

I don't have guy friends I consider "bros." Very few guy friends actually. One non-relative whom I would almost call a brother because we've known each other for such a long time. May as well be "one of the guys" of you're going to consider any woman a bro. Why not just call her sis then?

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noodle

I'm a "little sis" but the concept is similar to "bro" and I've been called a bro before.
My girls are mah bitchezz, though.

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Charlatan

Most of my close friends are women. I don't have many male friends.

I would never call anyone "bro" or "brah"... I just find it goofy. I might let loose with a "dude" but that's as far as it goes.

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FuglyStick

Sure, once I grew out of the phase of thinking any non-related woman I knew on a first-name basis was a potential sexual conquest.

Of course, I went through that phase for over twenty years...

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Wes Mantooth

Sure as long as they don't do stupid girly shit when we're hanging out....

...kidding.

Seriously it depends on the girl, but yeah, I've known girls I would consider "bros" who are just good friends. If she can keep up and is fun to hangout with there is no reason she can't be a "bro". Although I must admit sometimes her level of attractiveness can play a role in weather she stays a "bro" or becomes a notch on my bed post...er I mean girlfriend.

Over the years I've known lots of girls I'd consider just good friends and they're every bit as much fun to hang around with as all my guy friends. People are people I guess, the great sexual divide doesn't always have to matter.

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Plan9

How do you feel about pastels?

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Dusk

Hmm. First instinct says no.

It really depends on the guy and gal, if they can stand and don't mind each others habits then clearly they can be close friends.

MSD

Edit: my response seems to have disappeared. It should have read "this wouldn't be a problem if you didn't hang out with hoes."

Charlatan

Where possible they are to be avoided.

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Ourcrazymodern?

"Some of my best friends are teal."

My current best bro is my ex-sister-in-law. Except that "bro" is a sex-based term, I'm sure women can be bros, with the right attitudes.

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Salem

I agree with several posters, with the right attitude, yes absolutly. But if one partner enters the bro-dom looking for sex, and the other doesn't, then no. It won't work at all. But if you both go into it thinking, yeah this might be fun, platonic, mutual, bros! Then yeah, I think it can be a good relationship.

Cynthetiq

what about paisleys?

I think that girls can be bros, but it's about attitude. Usually tho someone wants to knock boots and biology gets into the mixture.

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Martian

See, I think it depends on how we define the term. The problem with slang terms like 'bro' is that there's no one fixed definition. Oxford English Dictionary doesn't have an entry one can point to and say 'there, that is the definition of a bro,' and so it can mean different things to different people.

Given that bro is derived from brother, it seems that the term would be inappropriate for a woman. Can one, however, have a bro-like relationship with a woman? I should certainly think so, no matter how one chooses to define it. Is a bro someone who you do typically masculine things with, or is it simply a good friend?

It's entirely possible for a guy to be friends with a woman, even an attractive one, with no romantic feelings. I speak from experience. If such a friendship makes a woman a bro, than yes it is very possible.

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RuralJuror

You don’t need to be a guy to be somebody’s Bro, provided you uphold the moral values contained within his sacred canon. When a Woman sets a guy up with her busty friend, she’s acting as a Bro. And if she sets him up with other hot friends after he slept with the first one and never called her again, then she’s officially his Bro.

FelixP

Yes, I've had exactly one female Bro in my life. I don't know if her being bisexual had anything to do with it, but she was just really easy to hang out with. We sort of drifted apart the last two years or so, but we used to hang out all the time.

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StanT

I have one hell of a lot of female friends and have been decidedly monogamous for the past few decades. It's so bad that my wife tells me I'm "harmless" and to sleep on their couch if I visit one and we go out drinking.

I don't know what the definition of bro's is; but other than standing at the urinal together, my relationship with female friends isn't much different than with male ones.

FelixP

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little_tippler

I definitely believe that a guy and a girl can be bros...though I just call it friends. Of course it's like one of my bros once said...sure, they can be friends, but if she asked I'd do her the favour...lol. Biology is a curious thing. But if you can relax and aren't looking for more, then yes you can be close with a guy and not have it end in bed!

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