My dad passed away last week - Tilted Forum Project Discussion Community

SirLance · 08-14-2006, 04:35 PM

And I am bummed. I miss him terribly. I have no unfinished business, but it hurts like hell to not have him around.

Infinite_Loser · 08-14-2006, 04:38 PM

Sorry to hear that.

ShaniFaye · 08-14-2006, 04:39 PM

Im so so sorry

Dont try to push back the hurt....I have learned in the past month, its actually helped me come a long way with grieving for my grandfather...Lean on your wife, cry with her, get it out...dont keep it in, thats what she is there for

was it an unexpected death?

SirLance · 08-14-2006, 04:41 PM

He had a heart attack, and started to rebound, but developed an infection and died from the sepsis. He was 84 and his health had been in decline for some time, so I guess yes and no. Been preparing, but no matter how prepared you are, you're never ready.

ShaniFaye · 08-14-2006, 04:45 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by SirLance

Been preparing, but no matter how prepared you are, you're never ready.

truer words were never spoken

Im here if you want to talk

Grasshopper Green · 08-14-2006, 07:44 PM

I'm sorry to hear that, SirLance.

ngdawg · 08-14-2006, 08:30 PM

My sympathies, Sir Lance.

healer · 08-15-2006, 03:14 AM

My sincerest condolences, friend.

Brewmaniac · 08-15-2006, 03:24 AM

Sirlance, that just sucks! My condolencences and what Shani says, good advice!

maleficent · 08-15-2006, 06:11 AM

sincere condolences...

Sultana · 08-15-2006, 08:31 AM

I'm so sorry for your loss, SirLance!

*hug*

Elphaba · 08-15-2006, 09:13 AM

My thoughts are with you.

snowy · 08-15-2006, 09:36 AM

Tough stuff, SirLance. I'm sorry for your loss.

spectre · 08-15-2006, 01:45 PM

My thoughts go out to you SirLance.

level five · 08-15-2006, 02:34 PM

so sorry to hear this. i went through the same with my father-in-law sveral years ago (i was very close to him) and dread the same with my own father on day.

thoughts and prayers go with you....

lurkette · 08-15-2006, 03:29 PM

Geez, I'm really sorry to hear about this. It doesn't matter how old they were or whether you're "prepared" or not, it's so hard to lose someone you love. It's been three & 1/2 years since I lost my brother and I still miss him. Just know that it does get better, and there will come a time when you even miss the grief. Just roll with it, feel what you feel, and keep his memory alive by talking about him and remembering how present he is in all the people he touched.

uncle phil · 08-15-2006, 03:34 PM

whatever you need, SL...

SirLance · 08-15-2006, 03:42 PM

The outpouring of support here has just been phenomenal.

The good wishes really help, believe me. I have a lot of family around. I wouldn't say I'm depressed, but I am sad and I miss my dad.

pig · 08-15-2006, 04:00 PM

SirLance,
I have nothing to say that would edify the pain you must be feeling, but you wouldn't want that in any event. Your grief is a tribute to your father's life. I've lost family and friends, but no one in my nuclear family. I think the only consolation I could find is that he seems to have lived a full life (I hope I make it 84) and he had family that loved him to the end. My condolensces on your loss.

james t kirk · 08-17-2006, 04:51 PM

I am sorry for your loss.

I lost my Dad 2 years ago, and my mother 7 years ago. I still think about them every day and from time to time, get all emotional. Like now when I read your story.

Until it happened to me, I was never this way. Losing a parent changes your perspective on life in many ways.

I am not particularly religious, however, I believe that there is a spirit, and, as such, this is not goodbye, this is just "see you in a while".

mandy · 08-18-2006, 02:45 AM

sorry for your loss...my condolences to you and your family.

08-14-2006, 04:35 PM	#1 (permalink)
SirLance Junkie Location: In the middle of the desert.	My dad passed away last week And I am bummed. I miss him terribly. I have no unfinished business, but it hurts like hell to not have him around. __________________ DEMOCRACY is where your vote counts, FEUDALISM is where your count votes.

08-14-2006, 04:38 PM	#2 (permalink)
Infinite_Loser Junkie Location: Lake Mary, FL	Sorry to hear that. __________________ I believe in equality; Everyone is equally inferior to me.

08-14-2006, 04:39 PM	#3 (permalink)
ShaniFaye Submit to me, you know you want to Location: Lilburn, Ga	Im so so sorry Dont try to push back the hurt....I have learned in the past month, its actually helped me come a long way with grieving for my grandfather...Lean on your wife, cry with her, get it out...dont keep it in, thats what she is there for was it an unexpected death? __________________ *I want the diabetic plan that comes with rollover carbs. I dont like the unused one expiring at midnite!!*

08-14-2006, 04:41 PM	#4 (permalink)
SirLance Junkie Location: In the middle of the desert.	He had a heart attack, and started to rebound, but developed an infection and died from the sepsis. He was 84 and his health had been in decline for some time, so I guess yes and no. Been preparing, but no matter how prepared you are, you're never ready. __________________ DEMOCRACY is where your vote counts, FEUDALISM is where your count votes.

08-14-2006, 07:44 PM	#6 (permalink)
Grasshopper Green ...is a comical chap Location: Where morons reign supreme	I'm sorry to hear that, SirLance. __________________ "They say that patriotism is the last refuge to which a scoundrel clings; steal a little and they throw you in jail, steal a lot and they make you king" Formerly Medusa

08-14-2006, 08:30 PM	#7 (permalink)
ngdawg peekaboo Location: on the back, bitch	My sympathies, Sir Lance. __________________ Don't blame me. I didn't vote for either of'em.

08-15-2006, 03:24 AM	#9 (permalink)
Brewmaniac Searching for the perfect brew!	Sirlance, that just sucks! My condolencences and what Shani says, good advice! __________________ "That's a joke... I say, that's a joke, son"

08-15-2006, 06:11 AM	#10 (permalink)
maleficent Junkie Moderator Emeritus Location: Chicago	sincere condolences... __________________ Free your heart from hatred. Free your mind from worries. Live simply. Give more. Expect less.

08-15-2006, 08:31 AM	#11 (permalink)
Sultana Falling Angel Location: L.A. L.A. land	I'm so sorry for your loss, SirLance! hug __________________ "Love is a snowmobile racing across the tundra and then suddenly it flips over, pinning you underneath. At night, the ice weasels come." - Matt Groening My goal? To fulfill my potential.

08-15-2006, 09:13 AM	#12 (permalink)
Elphaba Deja Moo Location: Olympic Peninsula, WA	My thoughts are with you.

08-15-2006, 09:36 AM	#13 (permalink)
snowy Kick Ass Kunoichi Location: Oregon	Tough stuff, SirLance. I'm sorry for your loss. __________________ If I am not better, at least I am different. --Jean-Jacques Rousseau

08-15-2006, 01:45 PM	#14 (permalink)
spectre Junkie	My thoughts go out to you SirLance. __________________ "Fuck these chains No goddamn slave I will be different" ~ Machine Head

08-15-2006, 02:34 PM	#15 (permalink)
level five Banned	so sorry to hear this. i went through the same with my father-in-law sveral years ago (i was very close to him) and dread the same with my own father on day. thoughts and prayers go with you....

08-15-2006, 03:29 PM	#16 (permalink)
lurkette My future is coming on Moderator Emeritus Location: east of the sun and west of the moon	Geez, I'm really sorry to hear about this. It doesn't matter how old they were or whether you're "prepared" or not, it's so hard to lose someone you love. It's been three & 1/2 years since I lost my brother and I still miss him. Just know that it does get better, and there will come a time when you even miss the grief. Just roll with it, feel what you feel, and keep his memory alive by talking about him and remembering how present he is in all the people he touched. __________________ "If ten million people believe a foolish thing, it is still a foolish thing." - Anatole France

08-15-2006, 03:34 PM	#17 (permalink)
uncle phil comfortably numb... Super Moderator Location: upstate	whatever you need, SL... __________________ "We were wrong, terribly wrong. (We) should not have tried to fight a guerrilla war with conventional military tactics against a foe willing to absorb enormous casualties...in a country lacking the fundamental political stability necessary to conduct effective military and pacification operations. It could not be done and it was not done." - Robert S. McNamara ----------------------------------------- "We will take our napalm and flame throwers out of the land that scarcely knows the use of matches... We will leave you your small joys and smaller troubles." - Eugene McCarthy in "Vietnam Message" ----------------------------------------- never wrestle with a pig. you both get dirty; the pig likes it.

08-18-2006, 02:45 AM	#21 (permalink)
mandy Addict Location: Port Elizabeth, South Africa	sorry for your loss...my condolences to you and your family. __________________ The Imagination equips us to see a reality we have yet to create

08-15-2006, 03:42 PM	#18 (permalink)
SirLance Junkie Location: In the middle of the desert.	The outpouring of support here has just been phenomenal. The good wishes really help, believe me. I have a lot of family around. I wouldn't say I'm depressed, but I am sad and I miss my dad. __________________ DEMOCRACY is where your vote counts, FEUDALISM is where your count votes.

08-15-2006, 04:00 PM	#19 (permalink)
pig pigglet pigglet Location: Locash	SirLance, I have nothing to say that would edify the pain you must be feeling, but you wouldn't want that in any event. Your grief is a tribute to your father's life. I've lost family and friends, but no one in my nuclear family. I think the only consolation I could find is that he seems to have lived a full life (I hope I make it 84) and he had family that loved him to the end. My condolensces on your loss. __________________ You don't love me, you just love my piggy style

08-17-2006, 04:51 PM	#20 (permalink)
james t kirk Junkie Location: Toronto	I am sorry for your loss. I lost my Dad 2 years ago, and my mother 7 years ago. I still think about them every day and from time to time, get all emotional. Like now when I read your story. Until it happened to me, I was never this way. Losing a parent changes your perspective on life in many ways. I am not particularly religious, however, I believe that there is a spirit, and, as such, this is not goodbye, this is just "see you in a while".