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Hey Dude, coming from someone who has a good marriage...with two kids and one on the way.
DON'T HAVE KIDS UNLESS YOUR MARRIAGE IS STRONG!!!!!!
I can't say this enough. Kids only complicate marriage. It doesn't reduce any problems, it only magnifies them. My wife and I are great together, but often we are stretched to our limits both emotionally and physically, taking care of our kids and each other.
If we didn't have that strength, we would be statistics a long time ago.
Please get conseling. But even if things work out and you feel comfortable in your relationship, make sure the commitment level is strong before you adopt hers, or have one together!
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The sad thing is... as you get older you come to realize that you don't so much pilot your life, as you just try to hold on, in a screaming, defiant ball of white-knuckle anxious fury 
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