I have come to the conclusion with some folks that if the currency of our "friendship" is based on what I do or do not do for them, then as of that moment, I stop payment.
Over the past few years, i have learned to define my life in on my own terms (i.e. career, relationships, friendships). People like the ones described in this thread are users and abusers and need to be dealt with like a cancer, early detection and swift removal.
A "true friend" will not hold you emotionally hostage or shake you down by how you perform for them. IMHO, a friendship should be entered for the sake of friendship, out of respect and admiration of individual qualities.
This is just my opinion, i could be wrong.
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