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Originally posted by The Original King
y mother is just that... A mother. I am a 22yr old that has the next few years to fuck around until I settle myself and start living a better life without the need for alcohol. My mom on the other hand never settled down and it's taken a tole on her life. She is extemely unhealthy because of it and is loosing touch with reality. I figure when you don't realize you have an addiction... it's time for someone to realize it for you. She won't stop unless she is told to stop. I plan on stopping before I get to that point... way before I get to that point. And I do understand that I sound like I'm trying to down-play my addiction by comparing it to hers... but I'm not. I have an addiction... not any different then hers. But see, during our conversation was the first time she has said she had a problem with my drinking and smoking. So... it's now gonna be an ongoing dialog between us. At least it's out in the open.
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I'm sorry but something isn't working here. First off having a friends mother killed by a drunk driver at 8am in the morning, I'm rather horrified you just write off DUI like its just no big deal because you are 22. The guy who killed my friends mother was 23.
Secondly you expect her to quit her addiction because its causes more problems then yours, but intend to keep your own. That’s doomed to fail. If you are really worried about your mother then be willing to meet her half way on it and fight your addiction at the same time. Sure she is attacking your problems defensively, but that doesn't mean you should ignore yours.
Tell her she is right, offer to quit drinking and see if she will quit toking up. This will let her save face (you are telling her she is right about something) and show you are serious