You are absolutely right: My wording is bad. It was a cop out to act as if nothing is my fault. Akin to the "Woe is me, I am a sincere, kind-hearted person and girls refuse to like me" statements we saw earlier in the thread. I'm embarassed that I said that, but thanks for pointing it out. I leave it unedited in the original post cuz, hey, that's what I said.
There's one other thing to consider, though: In the beginning when I wasn't going out of my way to do any favors, I wasn't quite being passive. I was assertively saying, "No." I certainly thought to compliment her all the time originally, but repressed it. I was being... self-serving, perhaps? Maybe you can find yet a better word. Anyway, seems that approach was more effective.
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Originally posted by Sleepyjack
I guess it's a semantics thing, but i think it's more of a passive vs aggressive/assertive thing, rather than being mean or rude vs nice.
Thoughtfulness is good! 
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