porche: my advice from before hasn't changed. Helen isn't a good reason to tie yourself to a man for 20 years and more. Sex isn't a reason, either. Either you love him and want to spend time with him, or you don't. That doesn't mean he can't be a part of his kids life, or help profide for her. There's nothing mutually exclusive about this situation. you don't have to date him to have him help with your daughter. If he's still there, he obviously cares for Helen, and i think (hope?) that no matter what decision you make, he won't abandon his daughter. That established, your decision should be made solely on what's best for YOU. edit: Juan agrees w/ me, if that helps
