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Originally posted by sixate
That's what you get for getting drunk and high.
Sounds to me like she probably had regrets after she sobered up, but who cares. She let herself get drunk and fucked up. What's she gonna do if she does go to the police... Tell them she was high and drunk and jerked a guy off and now regrets it so lock his ass up? Gimme a break.
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I agree wholeheartedly with sixate.
I'm not trying to criminalize your friend elwood, but this is a
great "boy cries wolf" case, or in this case "Girl has regrets, yells rape". I am going by your secondhand information alone, which comes from someone who was "too intoxicated" to know what was going on but still has all memory of what was happening ( wich I know is bullshit ).
I have thrown a dozen parties. I have honestly seen a girl go into a party, take someone by the hand and lead him to a bedroom ( this guy is so drunk he falls over twice going into the bedroom... he drank a fifth of goldschlager in a two hour period ) fool around with him and THEN try to say he was forcing himself upon her. This same guy left the bedroom after 5 minutes alone in there with her and puked in the toilet for almost 2 hours straight. He couldn't force himself off the floor, much less on a girl who had two shots of vodka in a 3 hour period. Her best friend ( a female also) was there, and drinking, and she called the girl who cried rape full of shit. There were a dozen people there ( 4 totally sober ) who agreed that she is full of shit, so nothing bad ever happened to my friend.
RAPE IS A SERIOUS ACCUSATION. Make damn sure you got some proof. Otherwise, your ass is grass when the accused starts countersuing for slander. And you will lose, as you weren't there and your 2ndhand testimony is heresay and inadmissable as evidence. And since she's not getting involved, then you will have no proof whatsoever. And she WONT get involved.
1. She made the decision to get drunk.
2. She could have left when everyone else was leaving. Surely someone would have gave her a ride, especially if a group of girls was leaving.
3. She is telling you her side of the story. I know of very few people who are completely honest about anything, especially when they are filled with regret. And if she was as intoxicated as she claims, she wouldn't be able to remember anything at all. Trust me, I've seen girls capable of being coherant and resisting even when they were totally slobbering drunk and high. Your friend must not have much of a self-preservation instinct... or is exaggerating. If she's had abusive relationships in the past, then I guarentee her self-preservation instinct is not at fault.
Noone deserves to be "raped" but I'm almost certain this is not a case of it based on the information that has been presented in this thread. You will probably choose to believe otherwise, and I don't blame you, as I'm a random person on the internet. I still think you should consider my points very seriously.
Recommend she gets counseling anyway as she has other issues which need cleared up. BTW: You are not a psychologist, are you? Don't try to play one.
Don't be a vigilante either, you should have no stake in this. You are not her boyfriend , although you may want to be. You have no extenuating circumstances that would justify your vigilante actions. You have no protection from the law for doing anything to accused criminals anyway, but you might have extenuating cirumstances if she was your significant other . You will suffer criminal penalties if you engage in such, and they will catch you.