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Sexual satisfaction based on a purely physical relationship only lasts for so long. It is the emotional stuff that goes on behind the scenes that determines long-term satisfaction. I can only guess that her new relationship isn't what she though it would be (or she has some deep-seated low esteem issues) that causes her to want what she can't have (the ex-boyfriend). Either way, to sleep with her would be a big mistake. Allowing her to hang out would be a big mistake given all the possible consequences. Just tell her flat out that if she wants to be friends that is fine, but you will not have sex with her unless you two are back in a committed relationship. Don't take this to mean that I don't believe in sex outside of relationships (i.e. when neither person wants a committed relationship), but in this particular case, it is very difficult to go back and forth with someone that you were once committed to (and now has someone else involved in their lives) without getting hurt (emotionally or physically).
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