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Originally posted by lurkette
First, good for you for even caring, and for wanting to change.
This is my $.02 psychological reading of a situation I know nothing about, so be warned. But...
...you need to ask yourself what changed. You say there was a time when you were empathetic and fun and caring...what happened between then and now? Was there an event, or a series of events, that caused you to change, to become more insecure and guarded? I think you need to ask yourself what kind of person you want to be, and then just practice being that person. I'm not saying pretend to be caring, I'm saying take some time and put some thought into how you talk to and treat other people. Instead of behaving the way you usually do, automatically, take some time to think about how the person you want to be would react. Eventually it becomes more natural and automatic. You might also try cleaning up any messes you've made with your friends and family - finding out if you've done anything to hurt them, apologizing and making things right.
Again, you should be really proud of yourself for having the courage to find out how other people see you, and for wanting to change your behavior. Good luck!
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there could be a series of events that triggered the change, 1 i used to be addicted to a fucking multiplayer game on the net and while i was playing the game i didnt care for anyone or anything cause i thought it was the funnest thing in the world (this was a few years ago) 2. i was like 14 and didnt really care about my looks, now im obsessed with the way my hair is, my skin etc (which is no big deal i think)...my biggest concern is how to show someone that you care, i'm a good listener but all the wittyness and interest for others is out the window and i need to regain it, thanks for your reply lurk
Oh and another thing, i usually cant get stuff i wanna say to come out right and i cant make up stories and regular bullshit like i used to but i could do this without a problem if i type it or something, why is this?