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First, good for you for even caring, and for wanting to change.
This is my $.02 psychological reading of a situation I know nothing about, so be warned. But...
...you need to ask yourself what changed. You say there was a time when you were empathetic and fun and caring...what happened between then and now? Was there an event, or a series of events, that caused you to change, to become more insecure and guarded? I think you need to ask yourself what kind of person you want to be, and then just practice being that person. I'm not saying pretend to be caring, I'm saying take some time and put some thought into how you talk to and treat other people. Instead of behaving the way you usually do, automatically, take some time to think about how the person you want to be would react. Eventually it becomes more natural and automatic. You might also try cleaning up any messes you've made with your friends and family - finding out if you've done anything to hurt them, apologizing and making things right.
Again, you should be really proud of yourself for having the courage to find out how other people see you, and for wanting to change your behavior. Good luck!
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