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Take it from a 47 year old dork - it really is all about self esteem. Look at the people who talk the most; they usually have a really high opinion of themselves. That means they believe everything that comes out of their mouth is gold, and everyone wants to hear it. Well, a lot of people have trouble talking socially so if somebody comes along to dominate the conversation, most people just listen and go along because it's easier than expressing their own ideas. Talking to people is a matter of picking your moment, and expressing yourself clearly. If you're silent for a long time while someone else dominates the conversation, but you speak up with conviction and clarity at the right moment, you will be noticed by those who can think. Believe me, lots of people have this problem, myself included. I hate being in social situations because I know if I open my mouth, I'm going to sound stupid to somebody. What I do is try to find people I can talk to one-on-one, and stick to talking to those people. When other people join the conversation, use your connection to your familiar as a base, and branch out from there. It takes courage and confidence. Most of social interaction is about power. Seek out someone who doesn't play the games and talk to them, it will be the most rewarding conversation.
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"Outside of a dog, a book is man's best friend. Inside of a dog it's too dark to read."
Groucho Marx
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