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arch13 · 11-11-2003, 03:44 PM

Prince,
It's normal in a period of rapid transition to begin to see past experiance in a different light and even question choices made long ago. Understand that if you feel a need to contact those from your past, there is nothing down those paths for you. You'll feel no resolvence of the past by attempting closure, much the same as those who looking up their old high school sweetheart on classmates.com before they get married just come away feeling strange about it.
The blessing and curse of being oh so human is hindsight being 20/20. We see the mistakes and misteps of our past, and want to reach back and "right" things. There is not however, any solace to be found in doing so. You may feel strange for a while as all these changes in your life occur, and you may even think you feel a need to bring closure to what you feel about others now that your heart has started a new chapter that will last the rest of your life. But trust me when i asssure you that your reactions are statisticly no different than most other people going through such transitions.
The hardest part is letting go of the past to focus on the future, but when you come out the other end you'll realize how much better off you are for doing so. The meantime however, is simply a matter of focusing on the life at hand and trying your hardest until you suddenly realize one day that the pent up feelings you had have suddenly vanished as you healed and focused on the woman you love.

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arch13 Loves my girl in thongs Location: North of Mexico, South of Canada	Prince, It's normal in a period of rapid transition to begin to see past experiance in a different light and even question choices made long ago. Understand that if you feel a need to contact those from your past, there is nothing down those paths for you. You'll feel no resolvence of the past by attempting closure, much the same as those who looking up their old high school sweetheart on classmates.com before they get married just come away feeling strange about it. The blessing and curse of being oh so human is hindsight being 20/20. We see the mistakes and misteps of our past, and want to reach back and "right" things. There is not however, any solace to be found in doing so. You may feel strange for a while as all these changes in your life occur, and you may even think you feel a need to bring closure to what you feel about others now that your heart has started a new chapter that will last the rest of your life. But trust me when i asssure you that your reactions are statisticly no different than most other people going through such transitions. The hardest part is letting go of the past to focus on the future, but when you come out the other end you'll realize how much better off you are for doing so. The meantime however, is simply a matter of focusing on the life at hand and trying your hardest until you suddenly realize one day that the pent up feelings you had have suddenly vanished as you healed and focused on the woman you love. __________________ Seen on an employer evaluation: "The wheel is turning but the hamsters dead" ____________________________ Is arch13 really a porn diety ? find out after the film at 11. -Nanofever Last edited by Lebell; 11-13-2003 at 08:04 AM..