I'm always reminded of the (joke) response:
Who Cares?!?
But there is some truth to that, if you think about it in a less misogynistic way.
One of the best ways to ruin sex is to focus entirely on the orgasm. I know you sincerely just want to please her fully, but you'll get so much more out of the experience if you stop thinking of the Big O as the reason for sex.
It's the connection, the pleasure of the extreme intimacy that is the whole purpose.
Try to enjoy the experience as a whole, and not worry about the finish.
Whether or not you guys reach climax together, separately, or not at all, you'll both finish happy.
