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Originally posted by sillygirl
I mean, I know that the ideal situation for a child is a mommy and daddy happily married. But that's not how it always happens, and children are still happy. There are children who are raised by single mothers or fathers when the other parent doesn't want to have anything to do with them, and there are kids who are raised by single parents when the other parent wants desperately to be a part of that child's life, but can't because of problems with the custodial parent. How often is it that a child has two parents who aren't married but can work out a way to have a good relationship either way and have a happy kid? That is, if both parents are willing to work on a relationship. It's not the easiest route, but when it comes down to it, all roads are rocky, and I don't think there's a way of knowing which is the right one to take.
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To respond to this part of your comments, let me assure you that it is possible to happily raise a child without the aid of a SO and have them turn out to be completely happy little normal people! Trust me, I know this from experience!
My ex and I (the father of my two boys) are now great friends after two years of being split. While he doesn't (isn't able to) help out financially he is a part of their life, taking them on the weekends and so on. For me, it's not an issue - the time he spends with them means more than any sort of financial aid he may give. And, my boys are happy so that is what really matters in the long run.
I think what is the most important thing for you is to follow your heart. If you want to keep this child and feel you are able to care for it then do so - you will always regret it if you don't (in my opinion). It's hard sometimes in circumstances where two people aren't together but if both can be focused enough to think of what would benefit the child best then anything can be worked out.
Not an easy situation for you to be in that is for certain. But if you have the support of the people who love you, which you do, then you have a lot behind you. Do what
you feel is best.
I wish you the best!
