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sexymama · 10-25-2003, 05:57 PM

I did the same thing when I was 22 -- got pregnant, he broke up with me and I was all alone (I didn't live with my parents).

My mom is a little more understanding than my dad, so first I told her that I think I might be pregnant. She was sad, but okay. A week later I told her I was pregnant. (That gave her time to ease into the idea.) Lukily my dad went on a fishing trip for a week; so I was able to tell two of my sisters next. Upon his return it was time to tell him and I knew he would blow his stack. I waited for the right moment (when he wasn't distracted) and said I needed to talk with him. My sisters left (chickens!), my mom gave me silent moral support. I started to cry, but managed to get out the words. He looked at me and said, "I'm not happy with what you've done but that doesn't make me love you or the baby any less." I'll never forget realizing just how much he loves me in that moment!

My advice to you: be honest, don't be afraid to show your feelings, and tell them in person. Ease into it if you need to.

Also, although I'm very glad I chose to have my son and raise him by myself (for 6 years before marrying), it is not the right choice for everyone. Abortion is an option if you are not ready for full time parenting and then you wouldn't have to tell your parents. There is also no shame in adoption. However, I fully support you if you decide to raise the baby. I just think it is important to know that you have options.

Also, whatever you do, do not get back with your boyfriend just for the sake of the baby. It is better to be raised by a single parent then in an unhappy household.

Sorry if this is more than you asked for -- just want you to know I care and I'm there for you if you need support -- just pm me.

10-25-2003, 05:57 PM	#2 (permalink)
sexymama My own person -- his by choice Location: Lebell's arms	I did the same thing when I was 22 -- got pregnant, he broke up with me and I was all alone (I didn't live with my parents). My mom is a little more understanding than my dad, so first I told her that I think I might be pregnant. She was sad, but okay. A week later I told her I was pregnant. (That gave her time to ease into the idea.) Lukily my dad went on a fishing trip for a week; so I was able to tell two of my sisters next. Upon his return it was time to tell him and I knew he would blow his stack. I waited for the right moment (when he wasn't distracted) and said I needed to talk with him. My sisters left (chickens!), my mom gave me silent moral support. I started to cry, but managed to get out the words. He looked at me and said, "I'm not happy with what you've done but that doesn't make me love you or the baby any less." I'll never forget realizing just how much he loves me in that moment! My advice to you: be honest, don't be afraid to show your feelings, and tell them in person. Ease into it if you need to. Also, although I'm very glad I chose to have my son and raise him by myself (for 6 years before marrying), it is not the right choice for everyone. Abortion is an option if you are not ready for full time parenting and then you wouldn't have to tell your parents. There is also no shame in adoption. However, I fully support you if you decide to raise the baby. I just think it is important to know that you have options. Also, whatever you do, do not get back with your boyfriend just for the sake of the baby. It is better to be raised by a single parent then in an unhappy household. Sorry if this is more than you asked for -- just want you to know I care and I'm there for you if you need support -- just pm me. __________________ If you can go deeply into lovemaking, the ego disappears. That is the beauty of lovemaking, that it is another source of a glimpse of god It's not about being perfect; it's about developing some skill at managing imperfection. Last edited by sexymama; 10-25-2003 at 06:01 PM..