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Originally posted by World's King
If you tell him, he will tell his friends. And his friends will spend the next nine months trying to find you on the Net.
But that's only if he's an asshole and if he's and asshole you shouldn't be with him in the first place.
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Exactly. I'm a big believer in full disclosure. If he can't handle it, he can't handle it. Maybe one day you'll find one who can- but if you keep this to yourself, it'll eat you up inside OR one day he'll stumble on it, and THEN you're truly fucked.
Start simple. "We've both had sex before, right?" Yes.
"Have you ever videotaped yourself having sex?" Yes/No.
"I have, once. I'm telling you now because you mean a lot to me and I want to be honest with you. It was a one-time thing. I didn't like it- hated it, in fact, which is why I only did it the once. Yes, it was a porn. (you may as well go right into it because as soon as you say it was a one-time thing, his mind will most likely immediately jump to porn.)"
Just something like that. It might eat him up, and if it does, you'll lose him. But that's still better than allowing yourself to live a lie for the rest of your time with him. Because then you'll always know your relationship- his love- everything... was based on a lie.
EDIT: Also, were you with a guy or another girl, both? Might make a difference in his mind if you weren't with a guy in the vid.