Oddly enough, this was exactly the topic between me and my lover last night....He's been in a long, traumatic relationship, and has come away with some bad habits, like not being allowed to come or be dominant, or even to take initiative as far as sex goes. So we're trying to break some bad habits, and he had a hard time initially with me being so sexual and wanting it all the time. So we were discussing what exactly I would be willing to do, and I told him I love to be dominated, and held down, and "forced' if you will, and we all know how i feel about hair pulling
I also love to be taken from behind with my arms held behind my back, and I fantasize about getting taken very roughly all the time. I do love anal, and that's not something he's ever done, but I trust him, because above anything that is a major trust issue there, and we're going to give it a shot. He's a very strong man, and very well endowed, so the thought of him holding me down and getting rough with me gets me so hot. I think if you love someone and trust them, you can discuss your boundries, and in time, maybe stretch those boundries to see how far you can go...