i've read most everything posted here, and let me go ahead and throw in my opinion, short and sweet.
I agree that you should be upfront with your wife.
I also agree that your mistress is no good in the long run.
Your relationship with your wife is (hopefully) built with the ability to be able to truly TALK to one another. This is key.
Oh, and one more reason to be upfront: she WILL find out. it's just one of those things. better to be from you/now then to have it hit later.
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