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Old 09-30-2003, 03:57 AM   #1 (permalink)
Rlyss
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Was it my fight? Moral crisis...

Hi everyone...

My girlfriend is almost 20 and lives with her parents, even though she earns all her own money.

Tonight her dad came to my house to pick her up and take her home. He was supposed to come home at midnight, like they said, and they're very protective and stereotypical Asian parents. Anyway, he came at 8pm to pick her up and straight away her father started yelling at her in the car, calling her a bad daughter, asking why she went out and wasn't studying, why I couldn't drive her home, saying they do so much for her and she's unappreciative, etc.

This is too much for her and she gets out of the car and comes back to my house and she comes in, but her dad starts storming after her and shouts at her and yells at her and she's bawling her poor head off, and she's so scared. She finally goes back into the car with him and they go home.

I didn't do anything. Similar to the thread about seeing someone almost get raped, I guess I just stood there and thought "Should I do anything?"

He was yelling at her on my property, in my doorway, but he didn't yell at me, or lay a hand on either of us, and she did go back to the car.

Should I have stepped in? She's almost 20, and is an adult, but she was out of her league and she was obviously scared out of her mind. The whole time I wanted to desperately to help her, tell her dad to leave my house right now, but I wasn't sure if it was my fight, or my business. If he had grabbed her or anything like that I know I would have stepped in, but at the time my brain just kept saying "No, not yet, not your business, it's between her and her parents", so I did nothing, and I'm feeling really ashamed about it.

I've called her and said I can pick her up from her house right now and take her back here, and her dad isn't allowed on my property anymore, but she said no, it wouldn't help at all.

I'm not sure what to do
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