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When my wife and I first started dating, my friends were her friends. So, there was very little conflict. Now, I have friends independent of my wife. If I make plans with my wife to do something, I don't break them. I also check to see what my wife is up to on the weekends before I agree to hang out with friends. Some of my friends used to give me shit for checking with my wife. After tiring of their abuse, I told them that she was a higher priority in my life than they were. She doesn't decide what I do, but I consider her when making decisions (especially since our daughter's birth). I still go out with friends independent of my wife every 2 weeks or so.
As for your situation, I would expect that your boyfriend would want to hang out with his friends regularly. I wouldn't read to much into that. However, I don't think that changing plans on you and spending more time with others than with you are examples of "getting more comfortable in a relationship." In my experience, as romantic relationships grow, commitment grows. If it feels like he is committing less of his time to you and changing plans on you, he probably is and there is probably a reason for it. If it bothers you, you should talk to him about it. That being said, I don't know the specifics of your relationship and I'm not you. So, take my advice with a grain of salt.
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