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jbrooks544 · 09-19-2003, 07:51 PM

Dude! You are fucking crazy! Get this idea out of your head because you are too young. I am totally an advocate of going to the vet (see the other thread for my vas. advice), but not unless you are over 40 and/or have had a kid or two or more already. Dude! When I was 28, both my wife and I swore we would never have or want children. Guess what? We changed our minds and now we are the happiest 2 kid family on the planet and I got snipped when my second was 1 Y.O. and I was 39 or 40. I am definitely done - even if I got remarried for whatever reason later, I wouldn't want to go through kids again. I love them, but I'm done with two. What if your wife gets hit by a bus (dog forbid) and you want to re-marry, but your new wife/love wants a kid? Well, your life is fucked then. DOn't count on frozen sperm - might not last and if you have fertility problems then it won't be enough. Maybe I'm out to lunch, but I was you 12 years ago and things change. Don't limit your options yet. If you still feel the same when you, or your wife is 40 then I'd say fine. There is no way that you can guarantee that you won't change your mind. Women can (my wife did) easily overcome maternal instincts intellectually and by having a lot of fun as kidless people. But guess what? tick, tick, tick, tick.... biological clock starts ticking for them at 30 and fertility starts declining and it's all over by 40 - tick tick tick - Most of the time by the time they turn 34 or 35 they are absolutely frantic to have a kid and you will be shidada luck then buddy. I don't care what you think about adoption, it aint the same and it aint easy and it ain't cheap, etc. I did what you are doing - I had a great time with my wife - more than 10 years of kidless fun and going out, etc. - but after a while, all your friends have kids, you start getting too old to have fun all the time at clubs and bars and there is pretty much only one thing left to do - Have kids! If you don't, so what - but don't eliminate the possiblity too soon.

tick tick tick

Then again, I might be right.

09-19-2003, 07:51 PM	#10 (permalink)
jbrooks544 Addict	Dude! You are fucking crazy! Get this idea out of your head because you are too young. I am totally an advocate of going to the vet (see the other thread for my vas. advice), but not unless you are over 40 and/or have had a kid or two or more already. Dude! When I was 28, both my wife and I swore we would never have or want children. Guess what? We changed our minds and now we are the happiest 2 kid family on the planet and I got snipped when my second was 1 Y.O. and I was 39 or 40. I am definitely done - even if I got remarried for whatever reason later, I wouldn't want to go through kids again. I love them, but I'm done with two. What if your wife gets hit by a bus (dog forbid) and you want to re-marry, but your new wife/love wants a kid? Well, your life is fucked then. DOn't count on frozen sperm - might not last and if you have fertility problems then it won't be enough. Maybe I'm out to lunch, but I was you 12 years ago and things change. Don't limit your options yet. If you still feel the same when you, or your wife is 40 then I'd say fine. There is no way that you can guarantee that you won't change your mind. Women can (my wife did) easily overcome maternal instincts intellectually and by having a lot of fun as kidless people. But guess what? tick, tick, tick, tick.... biological clock starts ticking for them at 30 and fertility starts declining and it's all over by 40 - tick tick tick - Most of the time by the time they turn 34 or 35 they are absolutely frantic to have a kid and you will be shidada luck then buddy. I don't care what you think about adoption, it aint the same and it aint easy and it ain't cheap, etc. I did what you are doing - I had a great time with my wife - more than 10 years of kidless fun and going out, etc. - but after a while, all your friends have kids, you start getting too old to have fun all the time at clubs and bars and there is pretty much only one thing left to do - Have kids! If you don't, so what - but don't eliminate the possiblity too soon. tick tick tick Then again, I might be right.