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wry1 · 09-13-2003, 01:16 AM

The first time is something that is completely different for everyone who goes through it. The only advice I can give you is to build upon what siryn said:

...you can always pick it up by reverting to oral and then cuddling.....

There's a few things I'd like to add to that statement.....

First: make a point of cuddling with her before any clothes come off, or for that matter - before you get into any "heavy making-out". It's crucial that you remember that the woman's comfort level is a large part of what makes her first time pleasurable....or not. By taking it very slowly and building a bond of intimacy before any physical actions such as clothes coming off, the nervous anxiety on her part will be greatly diminished. (Remember, part of her is going to be penetrated - and possibly torn - in this act; she knows it, and is going to be quite apprehensive if she's a normal human being)

Second: ORAL, ORAL, ORAL, ORAL, ORAL, ORAL, ORAL! And no, I don't mean just focusing on her genitalia. Ears, the nape of the neck, and just about anywhere you kiss lovingly can become an erogenous zone on her body. So kiss around (I recommend gently using your tongue as you kiss an area - as the moisture dries, she'll continue to receive stimulation...even after you've moved on to another body part!) and pay attention to her reactions! What she does - suck in a breath, moan, shiver, grab you and hold you in a particular spot - can tell you a lot about what she does (and doesn't) like. FYI: all the examples I just gave are good signs, so don't worry if she does any of the above! Work hard to communicate with her throughout the entire time. Talking can maintain the level of trust between the two of you, as well as provide you with more feedback as to how she feels; so use it!

Lastly: Cuddle like crazy once you two have finished - even if it's only a short rest before "round two" (assuming she's so inclined)! Tell her just how you feel about her, and don't be shy about what you say. If you mean it, make sure she knows it.

That's the best advice I can possibly give on the topic. I hope it helps.

09-13-2003, 01:16 AM	#13 (permalink)
wry1 Loser Location: Far too far from my Angel....	The first time is something that is completely different for everyone who goes through it. The only advice I can give you is to build upon what siryn said: ...you can always pick it up by reverting to oral and then cuddling..... There's a few things I'd like to add to that statement..... First: make a point of cuddling with her before any clothes come off, or for that matter - before you get into any "heavy making-out". It's crucial that you remember that the woman's comfort level is a large part of what makes her first time pleasurable....or not. By taking it very slowly and building a bond of intimacy before any physical actions such as clothes coming off, the nervous anxiety on her part will be greatly diminished. (Remember, part of her is going to be penetrated - and possibly torn - in this act; she knows it, and is going to be quite apprehensive if she's a normal human being) Second: ORAL, ORAL, ORAL, ORAL, ORAL, ORAL, ORAL! And no, I don't mean just focusing on her genitalia. Ears, the nape of the neck, and just about anywhere you kiss lovingly can become an erogenous zone on her body. So kiss around (I recommend gently using your tongue as you kiss an area - as the moisture dries, she'll continue to receive stimulation...even after you've moved on to another body part!) and pay attention to her reactions! What she does - suck in a breath, moan, shiver, grab you and hold you in a particular spot - can tell you a lot about what she does (and doesn't) like. FYI: all the examples I just gave are good signs, so don't worry if she does any of the above! Work hard to communicate with her throughout the entire time. Talking can maintain the level of trust between the two of you, as well as provide you with more feedback as to how she feels; so use it! Lastly: Cuddle like crazy once you two have finished - even if it's only a short rest before "round two" (assuming she's so inclined)! Tell her just how you feel about her, and don't be shy about what you say. If you mean it, make sure she knows it. That's the best advice I can possibly give on the topic. I hope it helps. Last edited by wry1; 09-13-2003 at 01:21 AM..