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Silvy · 09-01-2003, 05:04 PM

I don't have a lot of experience in this aspect of relationships, but I'd assume your best bet is to talk with your parents... Ask them what they think of you g/f and try to explain to them how you feel about her not being accepted.

At the same time you could try to get your girlfriend to "ignore" your parents a little more. Just be a buffer for them sort of. From my experience it evolves with time.

One tip: when speaking to them about this, talk about yourself. Do not say "well my girlfriend thinks you don't accept her". But more like: "I've got the feeling you're not too happy with my choice for a partner (and I don't like that)".
Keep it about you, make your parents accept her a little more to make you happy because they probably won't do it for her. (And the same goes for your girlfriend, ask her patience to make you happy not your parents.)

That's just my $0.02
Anybody else got tips?

09-01-2003, 05:04 PM	#2 (permalink)
Silvy paranoid Location: The Netherlands	I don't have a lot of experience in this aspect of relationships, but I'd assume your best bet is to talk with your parents... Ask them what they think of you g/f and try to explain to them how you feel about her not being accepted. At the same time you could try to get your girlfriend to "ignore" your parents a little more. Just be a buffer for them sort of. From my experience it evolves with time. One tip: when speaking to them about this, talk about yourself. Do not say "well my girlfriend thinks you don't accept her". But more like: "I've got the feeling you're not too happy with my choice for a partner (and I don't like that)". Keep it about you, make your parents accept her a little more to make you happy because they probably won't do it for her. (And the same goes for your girlfriend, ask her patience to make you happy not your parents.) That's just my $0.02 Anybody else got tips? __________________ "Do not kill. Do not rape. Do not steal. These are principles which every man of every faith can embrace. " - Murphy MacManus (Boondock Saints)