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mrquackers · 08-31-2003, 06:06 AM

Mine can't compare to the others in this thread, but for the sake of contribution...

I met Horse-face at work (she wasn't known as Horse-face at that time obviously - but bitterness and an astute observation by a friend after she and I had broken up sealed that nickname for eternity). She was flirting with me almost instantly, but I either ignored it or mentally blocked it, since I wasn't eager to start a relationship with someone I worked with. Eventually, I wised up/gave in and we began seeing each other. She insisted, though, that we could never let anyone at the office know. Frustrating, but understandable - even though everyone knew anyway.

Fast forward a year. I had gotten one of my best friends from college a job at the newspaper I worked at (it was a small staff- 20 people or so). By then, Horse-face had relented a little and we had a small circle of people who "knew" we were going out. I had introduced her to this friend at a social event a few months back, so he was well aware of our relationship.

Horse-face, not too long after our one-year anniversary began to become real distant - and eventually broke up with me, giving me no reason, but sometimes "changing" her mind and coming over. Essentially, a true mind-fuck of a breakup.

What I later learned was going on was that she and my friend had started seeing each other. She, of course, had instituted the same rules with him (tell nobody at work), but again, everybody knew.

I was hurt and angry for a long, long, LONG time. And it gave me some real issues with trust on many fronts. Fortunately, so much time has passed that most details are a little fuzzy now and there's no lingering emotion - thus the rather disjointed story above. If you'd asked me 10 years ago, I could have written a novella on this topic.

08-31-2003, 06:06 AM	#15 (permalink)
mrquackers Exhausted Location: Northeastern US - please send help!	Mine can't compare to the others in this thread, but for the sake of contribution... I met Horse-face at work (she wasn't known as Horse-face at that time obviously - but bitterness and an astute observation by a friend after she and I had broken up sealed that nickname for eternity). She was flirting with me almost instantly, but I either ignored it or mentally blocked it, since I wasn't eager to start a relationship with someone I worked with. Eventually, I wised up/gave in and we began seeing each other. She insisted, though, that we could never let anyone at the office know. Frustrating, but understandable - even though everyone knew anyway. Fast forward a year. I had gotten one of my best friends from college a job at the newspaper I worked at (it was a small staff- 20 people or so). By then, Horse-face had relented a little and we had a small circle of people who "knew" we were going out. I had introduced her to this friend at a social event a few months back, so he was well aware of our relationship. Horse-face, not too long after our one-year anniversary began to become real distant - and eventually broke up with me, giving me no reason, but sometimes "changing" her mind and coming over. Essentially, a true mind-fuck of a breakup. What I later learned was going on was that she and my friend had started seeing each other. She, of course, had instituted the same rules with him (tell nobody at work), but again, everybody knew. I was hurt and angry for a long, long, LONG time. And it gave me some real issues with trust on many fronts. Fortunately, so much time has passed that most details are a little fuzzy now and there's no lingering emotion - thus the rather disjointed story above. If you'd asked me 10 years ago, I could have written a novella on this topic. __________________ "If you're walking on thin ice, you may as well go ahead and dance."