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sexymama · 08-29-2003, 04:10 PM

That is a very sad story! I pray you are able to deal with it and move on soon -- this world has so many wonderful people in it, it would be sad to let her keep you from them.

My worse is that my ex-husband decided that he wanted to day trade on the stock market. (This was in the 1990's when stock was up.) He was no good at it so lost lots of money; but he told me that he was making money. He worked 3 miles from home, so got the bills every day and paid the bills. When summer came and I was off, I obviously started picking up the mail. To my horror, one charge card bill came after another. It took 4 months for him to come totally clean -- but we (he was kind enough to put the charge cards in my name too) had 11 charge cards maxed out that I didn't even know about! On top of that he had lost 100% of our savings, the kids' savings, and $10,000 of other people's money.

Can you believe I forgave him? We moved on, going to counseling to try to resolve the trust issues. At one point he talked me into supporting him trading again. He convinced me that he had "learned his lesson." In less than a week he lost 50% of the investment monies. The counselor and I confronted him about his "gambling" addiction. He stomped out of the session and took 2 weeks to choose between me and trading. He "chose" me, so he said.

A year later, I found out he was trading again -- on margin (loan) -- and loosing. That was the end of our relationship!

08-29-2003, 04:10 PM	#5 (permalink)
sexymama My own person -- his by choice Location: Lebell's arms	That is a very sad story! I pray you are able to deal with it and move on soon -- this world has so many wonderful people in it, it would be sad to let her keep you from them. My worse is that my ex-husband decided that he wanted to day trade on the stock market. (This was in the 1990's when stock was up.) He was no good at it so lost lots of money; but he told me that he was making money. He worked 3 miles from home, so got the bills every day and paid the bills. When summer came and I was off, I obviously started picking up the mail. To my horror, one charge card bill came after another. It took 4 months for him to come totally clean -- but we (he was kind enough to put the charge cards in my name too) had 11 charge cards maxed out that I didn't even know about! On top of that he had lost 100% of our savings, the kids' savings, and $10,000 of other people's money. Can you believe I forgave him? We moved on, going to counseling to try to resolve the trust issues. At one point he talked me into supporting him trading again. He convinced me that he had "learned his lesson." In less than a week he lost 50% of the investment monies. The counselor and I confronted him about his "gambling" addiction. He stomped out of the session and took 2 weeks to choose between me and trading. He "chose" me, so he said. A year later, I found out he was trading again -- on margin (loan) -- and loosing. That was the end of our relationship! __________________ If you can go deeply into lovemaking, the ego disappears. That is the beauty of lovemaking, that it is another source of a glimpse of god It's not about being perfect; it's about developing some skill at managing imperfection. Last edited by sexymama; 08-29-2003 at 04:13 PM..