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I once taught with a woman who would deny every compliment I gave her. I finally said, "Sue (not her real name), when I give you a compliment and you deny it, I feel kind of like you are calling me a liar. I am honest in what I say and would appreciate a thank you." She was floored
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been there, done that, kinda there right now, actually.
seeing people with no self esteeme downright sad. you compliment and they think you're trying to make a political-like move for your advantage.
awhile back i did just as you... i got irritated though (unsure if it was a good or bad thing) and told her straight up that I was seeing myself a liar by her words. yadayada. it changed everything when she realized i was being honest. on an ironic note, I have little self esteeme also. but i do get plenty of comments
each and everyone is special to me.
there is no easier or better way to reply 90%+ of the time than simply saying "thanks!". if the comment is way odd, then "Thanks...?" or "Thanks. i think/guess?" works well.
if the person is just being a dick, feel free to slug him
the world would be better if more people were courteous and did give real thanks.
and hal, thanks for ftp. you're a good guy. take it how you will or see it as a simple, true statement.