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Ohh, this is a great topic. There's no easy answer to this, and either position is easily defensible. If you keep secrets from your SO, then you are worthy of trust from your friends and family, but you can be accused of not being completely open in your marital relationship. If you tell your SO everything, then your marital relationship is strong, but others may be hurt when they speak to you in confidence. Another factor to think about: can your SO keep a secret? If someone tells you something in confidence, will it only go to your SO and no further? When someone says, "I need to tell you this, but can you keep it a secret?" do you then warn them that you will have to tell your husband?
Personally, there are things that I keep from my SO. I feel like I know him well enough that there are things that he would have no interest in and that are better kept unsaid. However, if there is anything that comes up that might have any bearing on him or our relationship, I will tell him. Unless it is Christmas or birthday gifts; those are secrets that I like to tease him with.
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